Ngokukhawuleza nje ukuba "ukuthenga" ixesha "lokuphela kwexesha, yonke into inokutshintsha kancinci. Isicwangciso-nkqubo siza kuqala, kunye nengqwalaselo, eyayikumhlolokazi ekuqaleni kwentendeli, inokutshintsha isimangalo. Ekugqibeleni, ukungqubana kwenzeka. Ezi cebiso zilula zilandelayo zinokubonakala ngathi kukuchazeka, kodwa uninzi lunokwamangaliswa yindlela abantu abalibala ngayo malunga namaqhinga abalulekileyo.
1. Unxibelelwano lubalulekile
Akukho mntu unokufunda iingcinga zomnye, ngoko kubaluleke kakhulu ukubonakalisa konke okusichaphazela, ayinamsebenzi, yimizuzwana elungileyo okanye engalunganga. Kwananotshintsho oluncinci kwindlela ekhathazekileyo, kunye nexesha linokucaphukisa ngakumbi, kunjalo, kulungile ukufumana yonke into ngaphambi kokuba ucaphuke kakhulu.Ngendlela efanayo, ukungaqondi kunokukhokelela kwimiphumo emibi kakhulu, ke ukuba ungaqinisekanga ngento, kufanelekile ukuzama ukuxoxa ngokuthe cwaka. Kuhlala kubhetele ukufumanisa, kuba kunokwenzeka ukuba umntu angawaqondi ixesha elithile okanye "watsala amagama avela kumxholo," kwaye ixambule kwaye amaqanda angabalulekanga. Ngaphandle kwento yokuba abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba bayazi kakuhle amaqabane abo emva kweminyaka eliqela, kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba wonke umntu ukhule kwaye atshintshe ekuhambeni kwexesha, kwaye iindlela zonxibelelwano kufuneka zitshintshe njengoko kufuneka.
2. Ungaze uve omnye komnye
Kuya kufuneka ukuba uqaphele yonke into ekwenzele yona iqabane, kwaye uveze umbulelo wakho xa kunokwenzeka. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, kulula ukuthi "Enkosi" ngokuhlamba izitya zesidlo sangokuhlwa okanye uxelele iqabane, indlela othanda ngayo ikofu okanye iti kanye njengoko uthanda kakhulu. Iqabane liya kuziva lunombulelo ngothando nobubele abonakaliswayo, kwaye uya kuvakalisa umbulelo.
3. Hlonipha ixesha elinye
Unxibelelwano lubalulekile, kodwa akukho nto ibaluleke kakhulu (ukuba ayikho ngaphezulu) amandla okuchitha ixesha yedwa. Ukuba uchitha ixesha elininzi kunye, inokubangela ukucaphuka, ngakumbi ukuba uziva ngathi indawo yakho yobuqu ihlala ihlaselwa. Ixesha lilodwa lihlala liyimfuneko ekubonakalisweni komntu, ukucamngca okanye ukuzola nje. Kuyimfuneko ukhumbule ukuba ukungabikho kufuna ukuxabisa ngakumbi iqabane lakhe ngakumbi, ngoko ke kubalulekile ukuba uchithe ngaphandle. Abo bahlala kunye bekuya kuba kuhle ukuba babe negumbi lakho onokuthi wedwa.4. Musa 'ukuqalisa "ngokwakho
Akunakufikeleleka ukuba xa inqanaba elithile lentuthuzelo lifezekisiwe, kwaye ukusondelelana ufumana ubugwenxa kwangoko, umfanekiso wendlela yokuziphatha utshintsha. Amantombazana akasachithi iyure ukulungiselela ngaphambi kwesidlo sangokuhlwa ukuqinisekisa ukuba i-hairstyle yazo ilungele, kwaye amadoda anokunxiba ngokukhuselekileyo kunye nebhulukhwe enjalo, engenaxhala. Oku kuyinto eqhelekileyo ngokupheleleyo. Nangona kunjalo, inqanaba elisondeleyo lentuthuzelo ayithethi ukuba iyimfuneko ukuba ingahoyi i-hygiene yakho okanye ilahle indawo yayo yokuhlala. Umzekelo, nangona usazi kakuhle ukuba akukho mntu uya kuxela "umrhumo" wakhe malunga nebhokisi ukusuka kwi-pizza phantsi, kodwa akufuneki uyiyeke apho. Kuyimfuneko ukuzama ukuze yonke into icocekile, kwaye inkangeleko ingamangalisi.
5. Zombini zinezinto ezininzi zokuzonwabisa, zombini ezixhaphakileyo nezobuqu
Mhlawumbi umntu akabelani ngothando lweqabane labo kwi-MMORPG, kwaye kwimpendulo akayiqondi indlela ezinokuthanda ngayo iifilimu zaseFrance, kwaye kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Ngaphandle kwento yokuba abantu babelana nabanye ngeento ezimbi kunye nezinto onomdla kuzo, kubalulekile ukuba namaqela abo ezentlalo kunye nezinto abanomdla kuzo. Ke kuya kuhlala kukho izinto ezininzi ezinomdla malunga nokuba unokuthetha xa ukufutshane.6. Qaphela xa bekungalunganga (okanye xa iqabane lalilungile)
Oku kunokuba nzima kwabanye abantu, kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu. Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba ndonile ngento ethile, kufuneka uyivume. Ke unokufumana ngokulula ukwamkelwa kunye nokuhlonipha iqabane lakho, kwaye ukuba akukukwenzi oku, emva koko kuya kuthathwa njengesondlo sokwenyani. Ukongeza, xa isibini sixubusha into, kwaye elinye lamaqabane lilungile, kufuneka uliqonde le nyaniso.
7. kholwa kwiqabane lakho
Thumela kwaye ukholelwe omnye umntu ukuba unokuba nzima kakhulu, ngakumbi ukuba abanye balahlekisiwe ngaphambili. Ukuba iqabane elidlulileyo likopela okanye lingcatshwe, alimangalisi into yokuba unokukhathazeka malunga nento enye eya kwenzeka kubudlelwane obudala. Nangona kunjalo, isimo sengqondo esifanayo ngaphandle kwesizathu esihle sinokukhubekiswa liqabane. Ukuba oku kusenzeka, kufanelekile ukuba uqhagamshelane nengqondo yengqondo. Ukuba umntu ukhubekile, awunakucinga ukuba wonke umntu uza kuyenza.8. Shiya ixesha elidlulileyo ngaphambili
Ukuba isibini sidibene ngempumelelo sideka ubunzima, kufuneka ulibale ngayo kwaye ungaphindi. Ungabuyi kangangezihlandlo ezinzima ngexesha lembambano, ngokungathi ungayisebenzisi njengesizathu sokubamba iqabane. Kuya kufuneka uzame ukungazicingeli ukuba kuphela ngenxa yokuba kukho into eyenzekileyo kanye, iya kuphinda yenziwe. Yintoni eyayikho, emva koko yadlula. Khupha imeko.
9. Iinjongo eziguqukayo zibalulekile
Kuyamangalisa nje - ukuba nenjongo okanye iprojekthi bobabini basebenza kunye, kuba oku kunokuchaphazela iinkalo ezininzi zobomi. Ungasebenza kunye kumsebenzi wobugcisa, gcina kuhambo, yakha i-cottage okanye isebenze egadini. Kuya kuba ngcono ukumisela amandla omntu wonke ukuba asebenze ngokuvisisanayo.10.Thembela
Abanye abantu balala kumaqabane abo kangangeminyaka ngenxa yokoyika ukubamenzakalisa okanye babakhubekise, kodwa kungakhokelela koko kuya kuba kubi nangakumbi. Lowo ultut uya kwazi ukuba kukho into engalunganga, kwaye lowo uxoka unokuziva edandathekile malunga noko kucinezelwa, kwaye ngenxa yoko, ubudlelwane bunokubandezeleka ekugqibeleni. Sithetha ngokunyaniseka, sinxibelelana ne-Franks, kodwa endaweni yobuqu okanye ukhetho olunokutshintsha kule minyaka idlulileyo.