Ngaphambi kokuba uthathe isigqibo ngelinyathelo elinjalo, kuya kuba kuhle ukucinga malunga neziphumo zobudlelwane obufanayo. Ezo zikhonkco zinokuba nemiphumo ebuhlungu. Kwaye le miphumo ayizukulinda ixesha elide.
Kutheni le nto ubudlelwane obufana buyingozi kuye wonke umntu?
Obu buhlobo buhlala buvela ngemvume yeqabane. Umthathi-nxaxheba weengoma ezifanayo uziva uzolile kwaye ngokuzithemba, njengoko iqabane lingachasene nolwalamano. Nangona kunjalo, le yimeko engenampilo kakhulu ekunxibelelaneni kwamaqabane. Iziphumo zolwalamano olufana nazo zonakaliswa ngumntu wonke umntu othatha inxaxheba kubo. Ichaphazela oku kunye nomntu wesithathu, obandakanyeka ngokungazi okanye ngokungazi kubudlelwane bobunye abantu.Kutheni le nto kuvela ubudlelwane obufana?
Rhoqo, ubudlelwane obufanayo buxhomekeke ngenxa yokuba umntu ulahlekile kubomi bemihla ngemihla. Ngamanye amaxesha oku kungenxa yeqhayiya elihlelelekileyo ukonyusa ukuzithemba kwayo. Rhoqo abantu bajamelana ne "Down Syndrome." Abantwana bakhulile kwaye baphume endlwini, abazali bazifumana bekwimeko engaqhelekanga kubo. Ngoku uxanduva oluncinci ngoku kunye nexesha elininzi lamahhala, ngamanye amaxesha angenanto ukuzalisa. Emva koko vala kwaye abantu abathandekayo baqala ukuphila ngokulandelayo, kodwa hayi kunye. Kwaye ke umntu ovela kumaqabane uconjululwe kubudlelwane obufanayo bokuzama into entsha, ukuqhelana nomntu onomdla. Ezi ntlanganiso ziya kuqala ukukuvuyela, ukwenza ithemba ngolwalamano oluhle entliziyweni. Ekugqibeleni, uyakuqonda ukuba obu budlelwane bunganyamezelwa kuphela kumgama othile. Ngonxibelelwano olude, ukuphakama kunye nokudinwa kwenzeke. Ngaba kwanele? Kwaye kuya kubakho ixesha elingakanani? Kunzima ukuyithetha.
Ngaba ubudlelwane obufana bufumaneka buye kukhokelela ntoni?
Okokuqala, ukuthembakala phakathi kwamaqabane kuya kubandezeleka. Ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu abasondeleyo bulawulwa kakhulu. Emva koko unokuzisola, uyagxeka omnye komnye, alwe nani. Mhlawumbi kuya kunceda ekuqondeni ukuba ngokuhambelana nolwalamano olufanayo, abathathi-nxaxheba baqala umdlalo onganyanisekanga. Kwaye lowo uqalisa lo mdlalo ufanele aqonde ukuba uyanelisa kuphela iimfuno kunye neminqweno yayo. Kwaye ukuthanda-ezona ndlela zintle kubomi bomntu-ayinanto yakwenza.