Uthando lungaba lolunye lolona la mava anomdla, omeleleyo kwaye atshintshe amava umntu anokuba namava. Le mvakalelo itshintsha nabani na njengangaphakathi nangaphandle, kwinqanaba ngalinye. Xa umntu ewa eluthandweni, indlela awayeziphatha ngayo iguqukile kakhulu.
Nangona kunjalo, le mvakalelo idla ngokudlula, kwaye emva koko ishiya umntu "ophaphile kwaye ombi kakhulu" xa ukuhamba kweemvakalelo zisebenza. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo, umntu ubuyela kuloo ngongoma ebomini bakhe, awayekhe wawela eluthandweni.Ke, into leyo itshoyo yale mihla malunga nothando.
1 Uthando
Yonke iqala nge-spark yokuqala ejika ibe yilangatye elibanzi- kwaye oku kubizwa ngokuba luthando. Ngapha koko, kukuhamba kwee-neurotransmitters, nto leyo, ngokucacileyo, "ukuhlala" ingqondo kunye nokunyanzela abantu ukuba balale kude kube sebusuku, bacinga ukuba ngeyure ezingama-24 ngosuku njalo njalo. Okubangela umdla kukuba, njengoko kuthathwa, abanye abantu kuphela abanokubangela umntu ofanayo komnye umntu, ngenxa yokuba "kukho into yokuba" kukho into engaqhelekanga kwaye ilungele bona. " UJohn Gottman umphandi ngomsebenzi wakhe "Imigaqo-siseko yothando" ibanga ukuba abantu bave benuka kwaye beziva "ngokuchanekileyo" (kunye nelungelo lokuhamba) ukwenza i-neurotransmitters kwingqondo yabo. Ngamanye amagama, ayinguye wonke umntu onokubangela le mvakalelo, kwaye oku kufuna izinto ezithile emntwini. Ngapha koko, izazinzulu ngoku azinolwazi lokuba yintoni, kodwa iyaziwa ukuba kukho izinto ezibalulekileyo zothando.
I-2 phenethylamine
I-Fenethylamine, ekwabizwa ngokuba yi-Pea, yindawo yemichiza efumaneka kwindalo kwaye iveliswa kwingqondo yomntu. I-Fenethylamine Hydrochloride, okanye i-phenethiulivemin hcl, ithengiswa esele kumazwe amaninzi. Yintoni enomdla, uFenethiulami ovuselelekileyo kwinkqubo yovalo, ukuze umntu othathwayo athathwayo, apho amandla athathwa khona ngexesha lothando-impendulo ilula phantsi kwe "Dose ye-AIDS". Iiphedi zeekhemikhali ezabelwe izinto eziphilayo ukukhuthaza indlela yokuphendula kwezinye izinto eziphilayo. Kuluncedo lwabo ukuba iimbovane zinxibelelana, kwaye abantu banxibelelana nomnye kwinqanaba lesondo, bengathethi nelizwi. Ukudityaniswa kwezi khemikhali yicockail enoxanduva lokubonakala kwembonakalo yokuphela kweemvakalelo abantu abavakalelwa kukuba bathandane nomntu.I-3 Deleydroversondrosterone
UDeledropapiandrosterone ukwabizwa ngokuba yi-Dhea kwaye yenye yehomoni enamandla, ebandakanyeka kwingqondo, xa umntu eqala ukubathandana nomntu. Yi-steroid, kunye ne-hormone precursor, yona incinci, kodwa inokuguqulwa ibe yiyo nayiphi na ihomoni eyomeleleyo emzimbeni. I-DheA yi-Aphrodisiac yendalo eyonyusa umnqweno wesini. Kuthengiswa kwiindawo ezininzi njengezingagunyaziswanga ngezizathu. I-Deleydropapiandrosterone "Ikhawulezisa" umntu kuwo onke amanqanaba, kubandakanya namajoni akhe omzimba, edlala indima enomdla eluthandweni, kunye nenkumbulo, ubuchule bokuqonda.
I-4 oxetocin
I-oxytocin, enye yeyona homones idumileyo ebandakanyeka kuyo yonke inkqubo yeemvakalelo ezithobekileyo, okwangoku ifundwa ngefuthe layo kwingqondo yomntu (uqhagamshelo lwehomoni kunye nokuzithemba phakathi kwabantu). I-oxytocin ayithanga kuphela umfanekiso wokucinga, ukuguqula umntu osenyongweni entle ekukhanyeni kwendalo. Iveliswa kwakhona ngexesha lokukhulelwa kwaye ithambisa ulusu. I-Oxetocin iguqula umbono wabanye abantu, obangela ukuba ucinga abanye, kwaye idlala indima kwindlela abantu abangathandiyo ngabo bangathandiyo. I-Oxetocin iqala ukuphuma kwingqondo ingakumbi kwizixa ezikhulu ngexesha lesini, enceda ekumiseleni ubudlelwane bethemba neqabane. Oku kuthatha impembelelo kwiiveki ezimbalwa emva kothando ngalunye kuqhekezwe kwaye yomelele ngakumbi kubudlelwane obutsha, obuvelayo.I-5 i-estrogen
U-Esrogen uhlala engesiyo i-hormone ekhunjulwa ngokunxulumene nesondo kunye nemihla, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo idlala indima enkulu kwi-orgaic icekeceke kwingqondo emva kokuqala kobudlelwane obutsha. I-Estrogen ngenene inceda ekufumaneni imvakalelo enqwenelekayo kwaye ivulwe ngaphezulu kwenani elininzi xa umntu efumana umntu onomtsalane. I-esrogen iveliswa ngamadoda nabafazi abahlukeneyo (abasetyhini banomgangatho wayo apha ngasentla), belungisa imeko yabo, egxininisa indima ephambili yale hormone eluthandweni kunye nokuncoma umntu.
I-6 vaskopresn
I-vaskopresin yi-hormone enomdla kakhulu, edlala indima kwi-rub-tie monogamy, esondeza abathandi kunye nokwenza unxibelelwano olusondeleyo phakathi kwabo. Le hormone isebenza ngamadoda. I-Vesizowresnin, ngokudibeneyo nge-oxytocin, inamafutha imiqondiso kwingqondo, ithetha ukuba kufuneka "uzolile" kunye neqabane lomntu omnye, olona luthando. Isifundo esinomdla esiqhutywa kwiSweden sibonisa ukuba i-Rs3 334 uhlobo oluthile lwe-genestors i-vaWotterens i-vaWoppresn, inokuchaza inqanaba lokuncamathela kwinkanuko yakhe. Indoda inokuba nekopi enye okanye ezimbini ze-Rs3 334 gene (okanye hayi ukuba yiyo kwaphela). Olu phononongo lubonise ukuba abo baneekopi ezimbini ze-gene bayavavanywa ngenyameko enkulu kakhulu ngengozi kunye "nokulungisa." Bangakwazi ukutshata, kwaye banenqanaba elincinci lokunyaniseka kunye nothando ngamaqabane abo. Amadoda ngaphandle kwekopi enye ye-Rs3 334 gene, endaweni, zinike ukutshata emtshatweni, izibophelelo kunye nokuzinza. Amadoda anekopi enye kuphela ye-gene, ikwindawo ethile embindini phakathi kwala maqela ahlukeneyo. Ke ngoko, ukwakhiwa kwemfuzo kunye nenqanaba lehormoni kunokuyichaphazela kakhulu inkqubo yothando.Inkanuko yesi-7
Iikhemikhali ezikwingqondo zimanyene, zenza inyani yokuba uGqr Helen Wisher, u-Anthropologist ovela kwiYunivesithi yaseRutger, ubiza amanqanaba amathathu othando: umtsalane kunye nothando. Inkqubo iqala ngenkanuko, ebonakaliswa ikakhulu ngumgangatho ophezulu weTestosterone kunye ne-estrogen emzimbeni. Le nxalenye yenzeka ngaphandle kwesidingo seqabane elithile, kwaye phantse naliphi na iqabane elibangela. Iichemicals zizaliswe yingqondo kwaye yenza umntu akhangele amaqabane, iqabane kwaye aphindaphinde, kwaye akhangele umntu onokuthi aye kwinyathelo elilandelayo kwinkqubo yokubhalwa kwentlawulo. Umbono wokufumana iqabane lakho ligcwele yonke into eyenziwa ngumntu.
Iindawo ezinika umdla zotyelelo
Kukweli nqanaba lezinto eziqala ukufuduswa phakathi kwabantu ababini. Inqanaba lokutsala umdla xa kuthando luqala ukugxila kumntu omnye ngokukodwa. Rhoqo, kwangaxeshanye, uthando luyaqhubeka, lonke ixesha licinga ngenkanuko yakhe. Kweli nqanaba lenkqubo yothando, iDopamine ne-Adrenaline "Ukumba", ukunika imvakalelo yokungasoyiki kunye nokuzalisa amandla. Iingcali zengqondo aziqwalaseli eli nqanaba alibalulekanga, njengoko uninzi luhlala luhleli. Baxoxa ukuba eli nqanaba liyafuneka ukuze sisebenzele uthando. Njengoko uyazi, "uthando lweLebhu", kwaye umntu othanda uthando uyabona inkanuko yakhe kwaye engenakufikeleleka, okwethutyana kangangexesha elithile. Uninzi lwabantu luhlala luphoxekile xa eli nqanaba ligqitha, kodwa iingcali zithi kubaluleke kakhulu njenge "Qhagamshela" ukuya kwinqanaba elilandelayo.I-9 yokuncamathisela
Isiqhotyoshelweyo yinxalenye yokugqibela yothando xa ubudlelwane kunye neqabane baya kwinqanaba elinzulu. Ukuphuma kweDogamine kunye ne-adrenaline amafu, kwaye i-oxetocin iza endaweni yokuyibuyisela, kwaye i-vasopresn, "i-vismoneus hormone", enika umqondiso kwinto yokuba ixesha lifikile kwaye, unabo abantwana. Kuyathakazelisa ukuqaphela ukuba kwezinye iintlobo zehlabathi lezilwanyana, eli nqanaba liqatshelwe "ukhuseleko lwentsimi", ngokomgaqo onokuthelekiswa ngumhlaba ", onokuthelekiswa nawo" ukwakha indlwane yedwa "ngesibini. Ngandlel 'ithile, ukunamathiselwa kusoloko kubakho ebomini babantu njengembonakaliso yothando. Njengomntwana, umntwana ubotshelelwe kusapho nakubahlobo. Ewe, kunjalo, ukutshintsha ubomi bakhe bonke, xa abantu bakhe bavela kuyo, ekugqibeleni ekugqibeleni baphela ngokuncamathisela kwintanda. Emva koko iqhotyoshelweyo labantwana liyavela.
I-Scananalyst Surmund freud ichaze inkqubo ye-Innication ethandweni, ngokusebenzisa ukuba ukubaluleka kwabantu abathandayo nabakhathalelayo bayanda. Ungeniso yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yothando lothando, olomeleza unxibelelwano lwabantu, nangona ihlala iqhubeka ngokungaziseli ngokupheleleyo. Kweli nqanaba, abantu baziqhelanisa neenkolelo, amaxabiso, iingcinga, iintshukumo, imbeko kunye nokuninzi omnye komnye. Kukweli nqanaba ukuba intembeko yomntu yomelele kangangokuba ezona zinto zintle zimnandi zibonakala ngathi zinenjongo. I-Xix iFilosopher yenkulungwane yenkulungwane ye-rightrich i-Nietzsche yavuma ukuba ezona nkuthazo ziphambili zomntu zimele zomeleze izinto ezibalulekileyo kuye, kwaye ukuba zingayisebenzisi njengenxalenye yomntu. Kuyinyani, ngenkqubo ye-wanish, abantu ababini benza ubunyani bodwa, iingcinga, iinkanuko, amathemba kunye namaphupha, anokwakha ubomi bexesha elizayo.