Xa umama ongatshatanga ezifumana umntu omtsha, ke kukho isidingo sokuseka unxibelelwano lobufundi phakathi komntwana kunye nonyuliweyo. Ayinguye wonke umntwana okulungele ukuthatha utata wontandathu, kwenzeka ukuba bonke bubomi bonke.
Indoda kule meko inokuhamba ngeendlela ezimbini. Indlela yokuqala ingeniswa. Indoda izama kwangoko ukuthatha umntwana. Ngenxa yoko, umntwana uya kuziva edakumbile. Indlela yesibini yimvumelwano nganye. Oko kukuthi, indoda ilungele isisombululo sikaDipheli kwingxaki.
Ukuba usapho luye kuqala, umfazi uyawuxhasa umyeni omtsha. Ulungele ukwamkela umntwana ukuba unesikhuselo esibi. Ukuba usapho lukhetha indlela yesibini, umfazi unika umntwana inkululeko yokuzikhethela. Unethemba lokuba emva kwethuba lokuya kuyiqonda yonke into kwaye wamkele uthuthu lotyelelo. Ezi ndlela zilungile azihlali. Kuzo zombini ezi meko, umama, kunye nomyeni omtsha, uvavanya ngokungachanekanga. Kubo, indawo yokuhlala edibeneyo idlala indima enkulu kunolwalamano nomntwana.
Ukuze ubudlelwane phakathi komntwana kunye nomyeni omtsha bube nobuhlobo, ke kufuneka ukujongana nalo mbuzo ngaphambi komtshato. Awudingi ukuhlala uthumele umntwana kubakhulu kubakhulu xa ufuna ukuchitha ixesha nendoda yakho oyithandayo. Ayizukuphinda uqhagamshele. Zama ukuchitha ixesha kunye. Yenza ukuze umntwana nomntu akwazi ukuba yedwa. Oku kuya kubavumela ukuba bazane ngcono.
Kuba umntwana kunzima ngakumbi ukuba aqhele abantu abatsha kunabantu abadala.
Abafazi abaninzi bayakutyeshela ukumiselwa konxibelelwano phakathi komntwana kunye nendoda entsha. Eli bhinqa libonakala lingumntu omthanda, kufuneka amthande nomntwana. Ukuthintela iimeko zokungqubana, umfazi ufanele abe nengqwalaselo efanayo kumntwana nomyeni wakhe. Ke ngoko, ukuba umfowunelwa uya kuthi, umfazi unokucela umntwana kunye nomyeni ukuba amncede acombulule ingxaki.
Kwimeko enjalo, baya kuza ekusindiseni kunye. Ke, kuyavela ukuze wenze inyathelo elincinci phambili ekusekweni kobudlelwane bosapho.
Umfazi ufanele abe ngumhlobo wakhe. Kuba uhlala efuna uncedo kumama. Kwaye ukuba iyamnduluka kuphela kumyeni omtsha kuphela, ubudlelwane phakathi kukatata nomntwana buya kwaphulwa.
Zama ukuthetha nomntwana njengabantu abadala. Cacisa ukuba kutheni wahlukana notata wakhe. Mamela uluvo lwakhe malunga nomyeni wakho omtsha. Emva koko, ukuzithemba kuya kuhlala kwintsapho yakho.