Kubantu abafunyanwa kuphela okanye sele besemtshatweni osemthethweni, ayisoloko igudileyo kubudlelwane. Ngaphambi kokuba enze naliphi na izenzo zokutshintsha imeko yangoku, kubalulekile ukuba uthathe isigqibo sendlela endifuna ukuyitshintsha.
Ihlala yenzeka rhoqo, abantu bachazwa ngamabinzana aqhelekileyo, hayi ukubonakalisa iminqweno okanye amabango. Ngenxa yoko, iqabane alwazi ukuba makenze ntoni ukuze yonke into itshintshile kwaye umntu othandekayo ukhululekile. Iingcali zincoma kwincoko ngokusondeleyo kwi-goauve kwi-paricle "hayi", funda ukuba yenze amabinzana afanelekileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu abathandanayo bathi: "Awundikhathalelanga," kodwa esi sicelo sinokuqondwa ngendlela eyahlukileyo, ngaphandle koko, ikwaphethe umbala ongafunekiyo. Kungcono ukuxelela iqabane lakho ukuba ndifuna ngokuchanekileyo, umzekelo, ukuba ndifuna ukuhlala ndedwa kwisidlo sothando ngeveki.
Nokuba ixesha elifutshane, isibini ngasinye siqokelela amaxesha emnandi, ezikhunjulwa kakuhle kunye. Ukuba bekulungile kwindawo ethile, ungadibana kwaye uye apho kwakhona, kuyamomeleza kwaye kunceda ukuseka isimo sengqondo, inkanuko yangaphambili. Unokucwangcisa isidlo sangokuhlwa sekhandlela, umbono odibeneyo we-Hody Homed, jonga kwivenkile ye-http:
Inketho enomdla iya kuba kukwazisa ngeentsuku ezibizwa ngokuba ziintsuku zokhathalelo. Ngeentsuku, ukuthanda abantu kufuneka enze igalelo kwimizamo ephezulu yokubonisa inkxalabo yabo kwiqabane. Ezi ntsuku, cela ukwenza kuphela ezo zenzo ezinqwenelekayo kwiqabane, ukushiya imiba yongquzulwano elandelayo. Ayifuneki kwi "ntsuku zokhathalelo" ukulungisa iingxaki ezinzulu ngokukodwa ngezo ntsuku unokwenza uluhlu lweminqweno, kwaye wonke umntu uza kuzabalazela ukwenza izinto kolu luhlu.
Unokuseka ubudlelwane ngokuqhuba "izibonelelo ezitshintshiselana". Kule meko, ukuthanda abantu kuzama ukufumana ukulalanisa, kwaye ngamnye kubo uthatha uxanduva oluthile. Kwangelo xesha, ngokukhawuleza kufuneka uvumelane ngexesha lezibophelelo. Ukuziqhelanisa kubonisa ukuba izivumelwano ezinjalo ziyanceda ukufumana ezona nzuzo ziphezulu zezona ndleko zincinci ngokwazo.
Inketho elungileyo kukuqulunqa iqabane ngalinye loluhlu lokuziphatha okufunekayo. Ukongeza kwiimeko ezimnandi, kufuneka ibandakanye izinto ezizakuchaphazela ubudlelwane obusondeleyo kwisibini kunye nezinye izinto ezibonakalisa uthando, ububele.