Nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzichishanda nevakadzi vari kuwedzera kutaura nezve muviri dysphiya, iro rinotambura vanhu vane xx chromosomes pane inogona kumiririrwa. Takabvunza Psychologist Asu Mikheev kuti titaure nezve dysphoria kune vedu vaverengi.
Kazhinji "DysPharia" ndeyekuita kunopesana. Iyo yakajairika inosiyana nenzira imwe chete, kune imwe chete yakatarisana. Uye kungofanana nekufungidzira, iyo Dysphoria inogona kuve nezvikonzero zvakasiyana-siyana - ichi hachisi chirwere, chiratidzo.
Dyspharia yemuviri inonzi mamiriro akadaro epfungwa adzingagamuchire muviri wake sechikamu che "Ini". Nyaya dzakavanzika uye dzakajeka kwazvo dzechirume Dysphariaa - Gender Dyspharia, kana muviri hausi kungoita sezvazviri, asi zvakananga chii chiri pasi. Izvi zvinogona kuperekedzwa nepfungwa yekushungurudzika zvinosiririsa "Nei vamwe vakatsunga tete vari mugirazi?" Kana kutsamwa "chitunha chakaomeswa, ini ndichakuparadza," asi kwete kuwedzera hutano neushamwari mune chero mamiriro ezvinhu.
Chivimbo chekuti "hazvisi zvechokwadi ini" chinogona kutakura chero kupi, uye tophanya kune imwe murume kana kuti hapana chakashata sarudzo zvichienzaniswa neanorexia, kukuvadza nekuzvikuvadza uye kuzviuraya. Uye inorema dyspharia haina kunze chero chinhu kubva pane iyi rondedzero.
Iyo yemuviri dyspharia, kunyanya inorema, iri (zvakanaka, kuti hazviwanzoitika) izvo zvikonzero zvehunhu hwakangwara. Semuenzaniso, zvakakomba zvisina kufanira mahormone, Schizophrenia kana mugemunuru wemukati mebonde FE Schizophrenia, Gender Dyspharia haisiwo kuwirirana kwakanyanya (Gregor "Kafki Rangarira?). Asi vanhu vanoitika nemisoro yakazara yemakokodhi uye panguva imwe chete yekugamuchirwa kwakazara kwemuviri wavo; Uye vasikana vanoitika kune imwe testosterone chikamu chekuti endocrinologists vanoda kuvatumira kuti vashumire mumhepo yemhepo, asi panguva imwecheteyo yekusagadzikana, vanogutsa kwazvo uye kugutsikana nehukuru uye mafomu. Uye zvizere, azere nevakadzi vanozotaura meticatcher zvakanyanya kumeso "kwete murwere wangu!", Genetic nevana vaviri choir ichati "mukadzi chaiye!" Uye kunyangwe ongororo yeiyo genital mahormone hairatidze. Uye ivo, zvakadaro, zvinoita sekunge zvakajairika, gara uchienda kune ino euphoria pane zvinopesana. Uye zvese nekuti muviri hausi. Dzimwe nguva kunyange zvirokwazvo, ndeipi chaizvo. Adduced tits? Kwete izvozvo. Anochinjirwa mhino? Kuyamwa dumbu? Mpumped tsandanyama? Ndakatenga Strapon ndikabatwa pamberi pegirazi mazviri? Zvekare kwete izvozvo ... Ah! Isu tinofanirwa kusimbisa mbongoro!
Padivi kune diyspharia yeLyspharia dambudziko risinganyanye kunetseka kwekuparadzaniswa kwemuviri. Ikoko, zvirinani, nyama yako haigoni kukonzera chero munhu kana kutsamwa mumunhu. Munhu anongomutarisira. Dzinenge dzichiita sechivharo chechitima, umo iye anofamba kuenda kubasa. Kuparadza chose pano chimwe chitima hachidikanwa, uye saka - chii musiyano. Pandinenge ndiri, uye uripi mota iyi, hapana chakafanana. Mamiriro ezvinhu akasununguka kwazvo, kunyanya kana iwe uchidikanwa, pasina kuonana pachako, vanhu vakasiyana vanobatawo. Kusiyaniswa nemuviri unoratidza kuti mota yakaremara, pfambi uye dzakaradzika vanaamai. "Iwe uchafudza - usazvitambudza." Ehe, hongu, ndizvozvo.
Pane zvikonzero zviviri nei isu tese mune rimwe degree kana imwe yakawana isina kugadzikana kutora muviri wedu.
Kutanga, isu tese takapfupitsa padhari kana muviri kamwe kamwe, pasina kuzivisa kwehondo, kunotanga kufambisa mune isingafungidziriki divi. Uye kunyangwe iwe ukasatarisa mugirazi kwemakore - zvipfeko zvichiri kuenderera zvakadzikira, zvipfeko zvinobuda nzara, zvipfeko zvinobhururuka, zvinobviswa mumanheru, hunonhuwa nemusanganiswa yekatikati urine, tar uye tar uye hove dzehove dzakaora. Pakutanga, izvi zvaisava! Chii? ... Uye kana iwe ukawana ushingi uye utarise mugirazi? Kunyangwe avo vane rombo rakanaka uye vanofara vasina kurova mafuta chiyero uye kunyange ganda rakaramba rakachena - vanowana mhino dzinoshamisa, knuckles kwausingade, kwete pamaziso ese uye ouzas inokwereta bvudzi bvudzi.
Asi chinhu chimwe chingave chisina kunaka. Mukupedzisira, kana puberta, kwete chete shanduko yemuviri. Zvakaipa zvekuti isu tatopfura tarisiro dzakatarisana nezvinofanira kubhururuka kubva kunze kwebhazi. Inonzwika nekungwarira kwekunyengera.
Mushure mezvose, iwe wakavaka sei kutarisira nezveramangwana remuviri musikana ari pakati (ndiko kuti, mhuri ine vanhu makore mazana maviri apfuura? Mukugezera, vhiki nevhiki. Mumakore gumi nemashanu ini ndichaita senge hanzvadzi yangu. Makumi matatu neshanu ave anenge akafanana naamai izvozvi. Makumi mana neshanu - saTete Sesh. Nevana makumi matanhatu - saambuya. Kana mhuri yaive neinopfuura imwe phenotype (tete marefu uye nemakumbo makuru uye nemazamu madiki, kutenderera, nemusikana akakosha. Ipapo musikana akaziva kuti: Aigona Iva nyaya mukuberekera kwaBaba uye achaita sababamunini, uye pamwe munaamai - uye achaita samai. Sarudzo inoita kunge yakajairwa naJean Baker - yakanga isiri!
Ngatienzanisei kuti musikana anoona sei asina kupfeka, hafu-akarovererwa uye zvishoma akapfeka miviri yemukadzi muvhiki, uye miviri iyi ine miviri yakajairika nemusikana? Hongu, kuti uve akatendeka - kuti mangani emiviri yemuviri inoratidzwa kwatiri kazhinji inowanzoenderana neKhosapiens, uye haisi iyo yemutemo mifananidzo ye photoshop?
Uye vakadzi vechokwadi vakuru vekare padyo nemusikana weGenoty havana kunyatsogadzirira kushama padivi pake. Zviri pachena. Hapana chekutarisa pano! Ipa tauro!
Uye musikana wacho akangotarisirwa - anotaridzika kunge chifukidziro - chakanaka uye chakanaka, uye nenzira isina kuchena, akakunda, pamigwagwa yemugwagwa inorembera, iyo bras yekushambidza kana kune mota. Zvinoita kunge amai - zvinotyisa uye zvinofanirwa kuvharwa. Genetics yekusave nehanya nekushambadzira, uye anotimunda iyo tsoka nembongoro, iyo amai kana hanzvadzi yaBaba kana. Kana kumwe kusanganiswa kwevazukuru vaviri.
Asi ndiudze iyo ikaita fashifisista nezve kusanzwisiswa kweBikini zone - aigona kupera simba.
Zvakanaka. Nevana zvakajeka - enda kumahombekombe pamwe kazhinji uye mudziva zvakare. Uye Ambuya kusakanganwa kutora newe. Uye nezve Diva yakadhonzwa usakanganwa kukuyeuchidza iwe kuti vanokweverwa, uye chokwadi hazviitike. PaInternet, azere neanorwara nezvekuti vanogadzira sei Mifananidzo mwarikadzi, vana vevaviri vaviri havakunakisike kutsvaga kuseka, uye nekufunga.
Uye zvekuita newe? Neselancholy, chii chiri pamusoro pako, mweya unobhururuka, ndinovimba nekuda kwechimwe chikonzero penyama iyi yakaoma, iyo zvakare inodawo hanya? Ndeipi yekumhemedza, foam (uye ichiri kuda, haidi iyo), mune chimwe chinhu chinogamuchirwa munharaunda, kwete kuwandisa, kwete kufukura, uye ipapo kuchazvirwadza zvachose, uchamuramba zvachose? Gwaro iri, raunotarisana newe, ratinotarisa newe, uye nezvako mukati mechero ichi, havasi vese vanogona kufungidzira). Disphea, kunyanya kutangira mhuri yerudo ("Ndiwe ani chete izvi?") - Hazvina zvachose mamiriro akachengeteka. Muviri, uyo unobva mundangariro mu "zvinoshamisa zvisungo zvekusungwa", zvinonyimwa mikana yekuronga kuzivisa kuziva nezvezvinodiwa zvemuviri. Semhedzisiro, isu tinofanirwa kuziva kuti chii chaunoda, maererano nezvisina hunyanzvi zviratidzo. Ini ndoda kurara, "uye ini ndichatenga madziro zvakare," ndaida kumwa, "uye" Ini handina kunyora izwi uye nezuro, "kwete" handidi chikafu ichi "uye "Zvakanaka, zvakare, zvakare mu acne". Kana kunzwa (zvakanaka, kana mune yechitatu kudzokorodza, kwete pedyo, kwete pedyo, kwete pedyo) seAunt Lena chimwe chinhu chaizoenda, asi chimwe chinhu chaive chisina kukodzera, uye tozundira, chidimbu chechina, saka Zvese, nenzira, mumakuva wokurusa ivanovna zvakawona, mumuyeuke?
Chii Chingaitwe?
Mukutanga kwekutanga kuwirirana - tora muviri kuti zviripo, uye chii, sezvazviri. Hazvina kufanana newe (iyi ndiyo sarudzo yakakwana) - uye, semuenzaniso, sechipfu chako. Nenzira, wakanaka. Uye inodakadza, tarisa, ndeipi mess. Nenzira, sechinhu chakafanana nevanhu vaunofarira - chimwe chinhu kuna amai vangu, chimwe chinhu paMwanakomana wangu.
Kune vanhu vasingade pfungwa ye "pet", asi senge "sekunge muviri wangu uri mwana wangu." Zvinogona kudaro. Iwe unogona, sezvaunoda, chete kubva mumuviri kuti uzive chiteshi chekutaurirana chakaonekwa. Icho chose chokwadi chekuti munhu ari muDyspharia anoonawo ruzha, kana kupwanya ndiko kuona sekukumbira kwekugara. Zvishoma nezvishoma zvine musoro kupfuura isu pachedu, asi zvizere zvishoma. Zvichida hupenyu hwakapambwa uye kurera. "Kuputa kwandinoda" - uye zvekuita, hazvibviri kurega kuputa kwevanhu vazhinji, asi ngatidhonza kuregererwa kweimwe zuva? Uye ini ndinoenda kwazviri mukona yakanyarara uye isu tiri kutsvaira-i-IND, iwe unoda? Uye mvura yevakadzi inotonhora?
"Ndiri kuda mbatatisi yakakangwa" - chaizvo mbatatisi? Kana kuti pamwe mamwe mafuta akakodzera, oiri yemafuta emafuta? Zvakanaka, kana mbatatisi iri chaizvo - kana kuti pamwe tinobika mu foil?
Chaizvoizvo, kutaridzika, kana isu tichiona se "Iyi ndiyo muviri wangu wekuzvarwa, hazvigoneke kuchigumbura," anoonekwawo zvishoma, asi zviri nyore. Zvakanaka, hongu, kwete twiggy uye kwete kana rihanna. Zvakanaka, uye iyo focister, zvisinei, usabuda muAfghan Borzoy. Ngatiitei kubva kune imwe chete focister yakachena, yakatemwa, yakadyiswa, inonakidza foxtoier. Uye iwe unofanirwa kuita - nemufaro, wakachena, mutsinga wekunze. Kuenda, gara, iva anotonhorera mumuviri uyu, wakasununguka uye unofadza.
Uye yatove kana "inotonhorera, inofadza uye inofara" ichave yakajairwa zvinhu, kazhinji ivo pachavo ivo havana simba rakamisikidzwa "rakamira." Kana zvichidikanwa, hongu. Dzimwe nguva mapepa matatu ekutanga anochinjawo hupenyu hwavo uye kuda kuve mumwe nechimiro chavo.
Nenzira, mazwi anoti "muviri" uye "zvese" ndizvo chaizvo. Zvakakomba.