Nekudaro, dzimwe nguva ngavagadzirire nyaya dzinonetsa.
Munguva pfupi yapfuura, nemwanakomana wepakati takaenda kunodya masikati kuMcDonalds. Ndakamupa kodzero yekukoka amai kune chero yemaresitorendi emunharaunda, uye pakupedzisira takazovepo. Takataurirana nezveChikoro, shamwari dzake itsva nenhamba dzekutarisira, uye akabva angoerekana arinda, akapisa polangampurger uye akabvunza:
- Amai, uye vaunoda zvakanyanya, ini, Stanley kana Edward?
Mubvunzo wakasarudzika, ini ndoziva, asi ndakazvinzwa kekutanga, sezvo mukuru asati abvunza nezvazvo, asi mudiki achiri kure neuzivi hwakadai.
Uye ipapo ndakaonga nemabhuku iwayo nezvekurerwa kwandakaverenga. Rega mijenya ibudirire mumusoro, asi iyo yekutanga - usamboti "ndinokuda zvakafanana" - inosungirirwa zvakasimba.
Kunyangwe dzimwe nguva zvaimbofunga kuti zvaiita sekunge izvi ndizvo zvakangoitika zvine musoro uye zvine musoro. "Muri imi mose munondiitira ini uye kuna Baba, vana vanodikanwa, imi mose musaimbe zvakasiyana uye musingagadzi zvipo," zvinoita kunge mhinduro, iyo mhinduro inozivikanwa, iyo inoratidzika munzvimbo yakaenzana.
Asi vana, zvinozova egocentric, uye mubvunzo wekururamisira uye kuenzana kuhama nehama nehanzvadzi, kana vabvunza mubvunzo werudo rwevabereki, vanovanetsa zvishoma.
Zvinoitika kuti kana mwana achibvunza kuti: "Ndiani waunonyanya kuda, Amai, ini kana hanzvadzi dzangu," anoda kunzwa nezvake, nezve kusarudzika uye manzwiro ake ekuti iwe unonzwa chaizvo.
Uye zvinoenderana nekuremekedzwa kwandiri nevanyori, Adel Faber naEllen Mazel, kuenzana takabatana nevana mumashoko anounganidza kukosha kwavo uye kunyange vanyadzise. Sechikafu chekufunga mubhuku "hama nehanzvadzi. Kubatsira Kwaungaita Vana Vako Kugara Pamwe chete "Ivo Vanounzwa Nhoroondo pfupi.
"Mukadzi wechidiki anotendeukira kumurume wake uye kusatarisirwa kubvunza:
- Uye ndiani waunonyanya kuda, ini kana mai vako?
"Ndinokuda zvakafanana," Murume anopindura uye anomhanya achitambudzika zvakanyanya.
Anofanira kuti: "Amai ndiamai vangu. Uye iwe unoshamisa, mukadzi akanaka wandinoda kurarama hupenyu hwangu hwese. "
Saka nevana, kana tichitaura nezve kuenzana uye "zvakafanana" nemanzwiro avo, isu tinoenzanisa vana uye nekunyora hunhu hwavo. Asi munhu wese anoda kuve akakosha uye akasiyana nevamwe.
Uye izvi zvinoshanda kwete kumubvunzo wakananga nezve rudo rwevabereki, asi zvakare huwandu hwamapani mundiro, uye nguva yagara pamubhedha mumwe nemumwe, uye kubva kudivi raamai vaanogara.
Mwana kugutsikana kukuru kwekushaiwa kwake kwepamoyo, kwete kuenzanisa pamwe nemukoma.
Zvimwe chete A. Faber uye E. Mazeld akakurudzira zvinotevera mitsara panzvimbo yeiyo standard kuenzana. Semuyenzaniso:
Poshi. "Panzvimbo pekukamura zvese zvinhu zvakaenzana (" Iwe une mazambiringa mazhinji, sehanzvadzi yako ") ...
Ngatisunungurei mumwe nemumwe. "Unopa mazambiringa mashanu here kana boka rose?"
2. Panzvimbo pekuratidzira rudo rwakafanana ("ndinokuda nenzira imwechete nehanzvadzi yako") ...
Ratidza mwana kuti unoida nenzira inokosha: "Iwe uri wega nyika yakazara, hapana munhu achakwanisa kutora nzvimbo yako."
3. Panzvimbo pekubhadhara vana nguva yakaenzana yenguva ("Ini ndinoshandisa maminetsi gumi nehanzvadzi yako, uyezve maminetsi gumi newe") ...
Tora nguva yekudiwa chaiko: "Ndinoziva kuti ndanga ndichiita nguva refu nemabhuku hanzvadzi yako. Ichi chinyorwa chakakosha kwazvo kwaari. Tichangopedza, ndinoda kuziva izvo zvakakosha kwauri. "
Uye kunyangwe amai kana baba kana baba vane peturu, mushonga wakanakisa uchasunungurwa kubva mukunzwa uine mhosva uye, uchisimbisa zvinhu uye kusimbisa kweumwe neumwe wevana, ipa munhu wese kuti anzwe anodiwa uye akakosha.
Uye zuva iro, masikati, ndakasendamira kumwanakomana wangu uye ndikataura ndichinyemwerera:
- Ini ndinongova neyimwe chete Robert, mumwe mukomana anoshamisa uye anoshamisa uye anofara kwazvo naye arikuda kudya nhasi. Ini ndinokuda kwazvo, zvikuru, uye ini ndinonyatsoda kana tapedza nguva pamwechete.
Akanyemwerera, akabvisa hamburger uye akandiudza nezveshamwari yake nyowani kuchikoro, ane zita raMetssi, pamwe nemutambi wenhabvu ...
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