Muyadhi yezana ramakore Xxi, uye nhasi hapana munhu achataura chokwadi, sezvo yaive panguva yeUSSR, kuti "hatina bonde munyika." Kuvapo kwake kunonzwika kunge kwese kwese: Mumimhanzi, mabhuku, mafirimu, kushambadza. Veruzhinji pamasocial network inosimudza misoro yemukati, varume nevakadzi havavi kuvanza huwandu hwevabati vepabonde, vachigovana zvinonhuwira. Pasinei nerusununguko riripo, kuparadzwa kwakawanda kweazhinji stereotypes, kusvika pari zvino pane mutsara mutete pakati pe "iwe maziso!" Uye "Ah, iwe ... Uturu!".
Kana ari murume ane hunhu, nekukasira uye kunyange zvakajairika kuve nehupenyu hwepamhepo hwepedyo, ipapo mukadzi ane "manyoro" akapfuma "anogona kunge achiri kutarisa kuKoso Vamiriri vazhinji vevamiriri vakasimba. "Tikhoni" -oongroups, vaunoshanda navo, nepfungwa uye vane godo, uye chimwe chinhu chine godo, uye nezvambuko, uye nezvambuya pamabhenji vanogona kunyarara - pano zvinhu zvese zvakajeka.
Nei varume vaine nhamba huru yevakabatana nevabati vebonde, vachirumbidza runyorwa rwakawanda rwe "kukunda", uye kune vasikana kusvika parizvino neusimbe hunonyadzisa? Izvi zvinokurudzirwa nezvinhu zvakawanda izvo zvave zvichiitika kare.
Patriarchate - hwaro hwekusaenzana pakati pevarume nevakadzi ikozvino kune kurwa kwevakadzi kune imwe nzvimbo pane imwe nzvimbo pane varume. Asi zvaisave nguva dzose zvakadaro. Patriarchathe chiitiko chinogona kuoneka munyika dzakawanda kusvikira nhasi, kunyanya kumabvazuva. Maitiro akadaro ehukama hwemagariro anoreva ruzhinji rwemurume mune zvese. Iye anotora chikamu mune zvematongerwo enyika, ehupfumi, isimba retsika, rinodzora nzvimbo uye mune zvakawanda zvinoda kuzviisa pasi pacharo mune zvese.
Masayendisiti anoratidza kuti muenzaniso wakadaro wenzanga wakaoneka makore anoda kusvika zviuru zvina nguva yedu isati yasvika. Mukadzi anofanira kunge akateerera munhu mune zvese, nekuti ndewake. Iye, akawana chokurarama, achiuraya mhuka isina mhosva, uye mubako raitarisirwa nemusikadzi wekutarisa, izvo zvaifanirwa kutevera imba.
Aristotle mune zvaakanyora akarondedzera vakadzi seakaremara vachienzaniswa nevarume, havana hanya chete nedivi renyama, asiwo nehungwaru uye hutsika. Mukufunga kwake, kudana "hafu ye" hafu yevanhu kuita basa rekubereka, kushandira murume wake.
Mune mamwe marudzi, iyo inonzi "kutenga" yemukadzi wemangwana akagoverwa. Chikomba chakabhadhara "Baba veMwenga" Woga, nokudaro gamuchira kodzero yake. Makwayaro mazhinji aipesana nekuda. Kana murume aigona kukwanisa kuroora kakawanda, mukadzi wacho akanyimwa mukana wekuroora zvakare. Mushure mekufa kwemurume wake, iye akava nzanga isiriyo uye yaiwanzove yakatanhamara maoko ake, sezvo hupenyu hwake hwaive husina chinangwa.
Kuti achengetedze iyo yemhuri yemhuri, zvaive zvakafanira kuti ave nechokwadi chekuzvarwa kwevadyi venhaka uye kuendesa kwerunyararo rwevazukuru vavo. Izvo zvaizokwanisika kuita izvi zvinogona kuve kuburikidza nekunyimwa kwemukadzi werusununguko rwekusarudza kuita zvepabonde, mikana yehupenyu hwakazvimiririra pasina mumiriri webonde rakasimba. Mitemo, kurambidzwa dzakasikwa, dzidziso dzechitendero zvakanzi akarondedzerwa zvakadzama mufananidzo mukadzi anofanira kuva uye saka mitemo yakadaro vakanga yabatanidza munharaunda, chakasvitswa kubva kumarudzi namarudzi.
Nei vachigona, asi isu hatigone?
Mushure mezvose zviri pamusoro zvinotsanangurwa zvakajairika, zvinova zvinotyisa, zvakavandudzwa sei nenharaunda dzazvino dzava. Asi iyo Patriarchate yakasiya hurukuro yakakura kune vakadzi, nekuti matsime ake achiri kunzwa kusvika zvino. Nechikonzero chaicho, murume anofanirwa kuita zviito zvakawanda kuti nzanga ichashanduka sei. Kana akasiya vana - zvinogona kunzwisiswa, asi zvakakodzera kukanda mwana wako kumusikana, achaona "cuckoo" zvachose.
Imwe dzidziso inoti murume ari murume, ayo ari mumhedzisiro yekushanduka-shanduka ari kuedza 'kuonda "se" vakadzi "vazhinji. Inoburitsa zvinyorwa zvake, nekudaro zvichikunda nzvimbo yayo munharaunda, kutonga pakati pevamwe "vanhu". Mhedzisiro yacho funga kuti mukadzi anofanira kusarudza varume vakanyanya kusiyaniswa nekukwanisika. Uye kana mumiriri akasimba aisakwanisa kusarudza zvakanyanya, saka vakomana vakadzi vanofanirwa kudzivisa vangangove vakaroverera, vachidzivisa kushaya simba uye vaine simba kuti vana vane hutano vaive mumhuri. Saka kutaura kusarudzwa kwechisikigo.
Kana ukaterera nzanga yemazuva ano, ipapo vasikana vazhinji vanosarudza kutaura nevaya vakanyanya kukosha. Varume havana chokwadi nezve izvi zvigadziriso zvezvinhu, vachidana vakadzi vari kutengesa. Pakati pevamiriri vehafu yakasimba zvakare vane avo vanoraramira account yemumwe munhu, asi vanonzi Arifoso, asi chiitiko chakadai chisingawanzoitika.
Unogona kugumisa. Kazhinji, hapana chakarambidza kurasa hupenyu hwako sezvaunoda, zvichichinja-bonde mwedzi wega wega, kana uchinyatsonzwa kufara kubva pane izvi.
Mutongi asingabatirwe chete ndewekuti: Varume vacho vachanyatsosarudza kubva kune avo vasinganyatso kuwanikwa. Ehe, kana tiri kutaura nezvevanhu vanokudzwa, vanyoro chaivo.
Pamwe pane ukuru hwemukadzi, nekuti hausi pasina chinhu chaanokwanisa kupa hupenyu kune munhu mutsva. Mukupedzisira, nyaya yacho mune hunhu, rusununguko rwehana. Kune mumwe munhu, zvakajairika kuzvirumbidza pamusoro pehuremu hwehupenyu hwega, vamwe vanonyarara zvine mwero. Hakuna chinhu chakanaka uye kana murume akarara nezvose kurudyi kuruboshwe. Izvi hazvipenze hunhu hwake, asi chete zvinoratidza kuti ari kuedza kutaura nenzira. Naizvozvo, vakadzi vanosarudza vanobatana navo pachavo kuti varege kunge vasina mapundu mumachira.