Uyu munsi, societe yitondera cyane gushakisha umukunzi wurukundo no kuba "ubuzima bwagiye mu cyerekezo cyiza", ariko ubutunzi buke bwishyuwe ubuzima rusange nibyishimo byumuntu. Umubano umwe, ntabwo unyuzwe n'umuntu ku giti cye, ube intego nyamukuru ya buri muntu mukuru, abato n'abakuru.
Ariko ubu tuzibuka rimwe n'iteka ryose: Ibyishimo ni igitsina. Abantu babona umunezero muri bo kandi ibidukikije bisanzwe bikurura abandi ubwabo. Niki gikurura neza kubantu bishimye.1. Ntabwo bafata ibyahise
Niba umuntu atigeze ameneka kumutima, noneho irashobora gutegerwa ishyari - iyi ni imwe muri bake yishimye, ishobora kubarwa ku ntoki z'ukuboko kumwe. Hafi ya buri wese "asohoka" cyangwa kwangwa icyarimwe cyangwa ikindi. Ariko abantu bishimye abantu ntibiziritse ku byahise. Bibagiwe gusa ibibi byose byabaye, ahubwo wibanze kuri ubu nigihe kizaza.
Iki nikintu gishimishije cyane mubantu, kuko byerekanaga abafatanyabikorwa ba bishoboka ko badashobora kubabuza amateka yishyaka ryabo. Ibinyuranye, ikintu cyinzitizi cyiteguye ejo hazaza hashobora kubamo umukunzi mushya.
2. Birinda "umubano mwiza"
Iyo abantu ari bonyine kandi batishimiye ibi, bakunze kwemerera umubano utameze neza kwinjira mubuzima bwabo. Kandi ubu ntabwo ari umubano wurukundo na gato - arashobora kuba Platonic, urugwiro numuryango. Ahanini, umuntu utagira irungu ntashaka kuba wenyine, nuko yemera mubuzima bwe bwabantu bashobora kuba badakwiye.Ariko mubyukuri abadamu bato bato bazi kwirinda uburyo bwo kwirinda abantu beza cyane. Nibyo, iyi ni ikintu gishimishije kubafatanyabikorwa bakundana. Guhura numuntu uzengurutse abantu beza kandi ukuyemo bibi, nibimenyetso bitera inkunga. Niba wemerewe mubuzima bwumuntu nkuyu, ugomba no kuba mwiza.
3. Bakunda
Gukunda wenyine nikintu cyingenzi kuri buri wese. Niba umukobwa bamwe batifuza ubwe, nkuko ashobora kwitega ko undi muntu azamukunda. Abantu duhura barashobora kumva ibintu nkibi. Ikintu gito cyo kwihaza gishobora kuba gisekeje kandi kigaragaza ko utaryamye mu kuri, ariko abafatanyabikorwa b'urukundo barashobora kumva neza mugihe ikintu cilile zabo zidakunda.
4. Barabikurikirana
Nukuri abantu bishimye bonyine abantu ntibakunda gusa, ahubwo banabyitayeho, kuko bitanga ubuzima bwabo n'ibyishimo. Ibi nibintu nkibiryo byiza, imyitozo, kwiyuhagira buri gihe, gusukura amenyo, gusura umuganga nibiba ngombwa, kimwe nizere ko ufite ubuzima bwiza, buzira umuze. Abantu b'abaseribateri bashoboye kwiyitaho, kwerekana imbaraga zishobora kuba abafatanyabikorwa b'urukundo batazakenera ubufasha.5. Bakora imyitozo yo kwimenyekanisha
Ntabwo ubwibone no kwiyitaho ni ngombwa, ahubwo no kwizirikana. Niba umuntu azi ibyo akeneye byingenzi, ibitekerezo, ibyiyumvo, motif, nibindi, arashobora kumenya mugihe atabikoze atabikoze, gufata inshingano no gusaba imbabazi no gusaba imbabazi. Umufatanyabikorwa wigenga ntabwo akeneye kwerekana ibibazo nyamukuru.
6. Bigenga
Kimwe mubibazo bikomeye mubusabane nuko abantu bibagirwa kwigenga. Hariho ibintu bike biteye ishozi kuruta umubano abantu bashingiye kuri buri wese. Umubano mwiza, ufite ubuzima bwiza bisaba abantu babiri badafite ibibazo byubwigenge nubwigunge. Barashobora kwiyitaho, inkuru zabo nibyo bakeneye. Ubwigenge rwose ni ikintu gishimishije kubantu bishimye.7. Bigira ingaruka mubuzima bwabandi
Iyo abantu batishimiye ubwabo, bagerageza kurimbura ubuzima bwabandi. Ariko mubyukuri abantu bafite irungu bagerageza gushimangira ibyiringiro by'abo bakunda. Kurugero, burigihe batanga kugirango bafashe inshuti kugirango babone akazi, kandi barebe ko aribyo byose.
8. Ntabwo bahatanira
Birashoboka kuzana ikibazo kibi kuruta igihe abantu babiri barwanira ikintu kimwe. Abantu bonyine bishimye abantu ntibazagerageza gukurikirana umuntu. Basobanukiwe ko iyi atari amarushanwa yo kubona umufatanyabikorwa wurukundo, kandi ibyo ubwabyo ni ikintu gishimishije.
Ahari umwanzuro wingenzi cyane nuko ubumenyi bwayo ari kimwe mubintu byiza bishobora gukorwa. Byishimo kubantu batuye mwisi yose hamwe nabo, burigihe bakurura abandi.