Imvugo yo kubyara ubuzima bwiteka kandi, mubyukuri, ubanza birasa nkaho ibi ari ibyatsinzwe, urashaka kuvuga intege nke ibyo ukora, imyenda yose yo muri pope yabana Kandi umukandara, kugirango uve munzu ugomba guhindura ibikorwa byose.
Kandi birumvikana ko ureba ubwoba kubagore bafite abana babiri, batatu cyangwa nibindi. Kuberako muri byose utumva uburyo bahisemo kuri yo, kuba mubitekerezo byiza. Ariko, ababyeyi b'inararibonye bavuga ko byoroshye guhangana nabana batatu kuruta hamwe. Kandi hariho impamvu 7.#umuntu. Usanzwe uzi icyo "kuba umubyeyi"
Iyo ubyaye umwana wambere - ni nko gusimbuka muritazwi. Urashobora gusoma ibitabo amagana byerekeranye no kubamo, vugurura kwerekana televiziyo kandi ukingure ibihumbi n'ibipimo ibihumbi byuburezi, ariko mubyukuri byose bizatandukana rwose. Ongera kuri uku kwamburwa ibitotsi no gucukura imisemburo - inzozi mbi!
Ariko, iyo uhindutse nyina bwa mbere, usanzwe uzi icyo ugomba gutegereza, uzi icyo ushobora gutsinda, uzi gufata umwana, ntuzi kwigirira icyizere muriwe . Ibintu byose rero bigenda neza cyane.
# 2. Biroroshye kuriwe gusaba ubufasha
Hamwe numwana wambere mumutwe wawe, "umubyeyi mwiza" ubuzima, bukubyeruye mumatwi, ko umuntu adakeneye gusaba ikintu icyo ari cyo cyose ushobora guhangana na byose. Nkaho gusaba ubufasha ari kunanirwa byuzuye no gushaka, ufite umwana gusa, ni ubuhe bufasha? Iyo ufite abana batatu, umubyeyi utunganye yagiye mu itanura, kandi biroroshye cyane kubyemera ko udashobora guhangana n'ikintu ugasaba ubufasha bw'umugabo n'umuryango, utagize byose ku bitugu byacu byoroheje.
# 3. Ufite uburambe bwinshi hamwe nubuzima bwawe bwite
Birumvikana ko buri mwana ni umuntu ku giti cye, afite imico n'imiterere yacyo. Ariko, ibi ntibikuraho ubuhanga bwawe bwababyeyi hamwe nubuzima bwawe bwakozwe mumyaka yashize. Urasenyuka humye kandi ukusanya icupa, uhindure impapuro mu isegonda, uzi igihe ukeneye kuguruka kwa muganga, kandi mugihe ushobora gukora muburyo bwiza, wasomye amamiriyoni y'ababyeyi bakorana nawe Bana, kandi ntabwo.
Ni ryari ubwambere Google "Niki gukora niba umwana afite icyatsi kibisi?" - Iyi ni imwe. Ariko iyo unyuze muri iki gihe cya gatatu - bitandukanye rwose. Uri google ubwanjye.
#gukora Wamenyereye gusinzira
Rimwe na rimwe, abantu babona impano abana bato basinziriye neza kuva mu minsi ya mbere yubuzima, ariko, ni ibintu bidasanzwe kuruta gutegeka. Hamwe numwana wambere, kwamburwa ibitotsi bifatwa nkigihano cyiza kandi cyubugome kubwibyaha byawe byose, kandi utekereza cyane gupfa kubirenze. Ntabwo aribyo - unaniwe, urabike!
Mugihe ufite abana batatu, ntabwo uhangayitse cyane niba udashobora gushyira umwana, kuko uzi ko bitinda cyangwa nyuma yaho abana bose biga gusinzira (ikintu nyamukuru nukubera uburyo kubona ibitotsi bihagije mugihe gito.
#ibisobanuro. Ntugomba kubashimisha
Hamwe numwana wambere, ubwonko bwa "umubyeyi utunganye" ntabwo buguha amahoro. Ufite umwanya uhantu usoma, imikino ya muzika, ibikinisho no kugenda. Unararibonye cyane kwicira urubanza niba umwana ubwe yimanitse muyobozi, igitambagari cyangwa ku gitambaro.
Hamwe nabana batatu, ntabwo ufite umwanya uhagije wo guhangana nabantu bose mugihe kirekire, nuko utuje kugirango ubateze kwinezeza wenyine, kandi bazanye imikino n'amasomo. Nibyo, ibi byose ni inshuro eshatu kandi musazi, ariko nanone kwishimisha, vuga?
# 6. Abana bakuru baragufasha
Abana bakura vuba. Niba kandi ugomba gukora byose hamwe numwana wambere, hanyuma hamwe nabana benshi urashobora kwiringira ubufasha bwabasaza. Bashobora kwitaba bato, bambara kandi bakagufasha kubona inkweto, bazana imbuto, bakure kumeza, bakuyemo isuku murugo. Birasa nkaho ibyo ari ibintu bito, ariko bafasha gukiza igihe n'imbaraga kumunsi.
# 7. Uzi ko atari ibihe byose
Ufite ibimenyetso bitatu nkibitatu byerekana umuvuduko wigihe, urakoze ibyo uzi ko byose bigenda. Iyo ufite umwana umwe, ibintu byose bisa nkaho bitagira iherezo: konsa, amajoro adasinziriye, acira amacakubiri - kuberako ntacyo ugereranya. Ariko, ku nshuro ya gatatu usanzwe uzi ko ibintu byose bigenda vuba, abana bakura, kandi ubu bumenyi bugufasha kurokoka ibihe bitoroshye hamwe nimitsi mito myinshi.