Byasa nkaho hano bigoye kumenya niba umukunzi akugenzura nuko uhora urahira, ubukana, burigihe akangisha cyangwa gushyira ultimatum. Umuntu wese asa nkaho ari ubwoko bwa grumpy hooligan, umenya no gutumiza. Nubwo ibi bishobora kuba, haribimenyetso byinyongera bishobora kwigaragaza ukundi.
Niba wumva ko umukunzi ashobora kukugenzura, ni ngombwa kumenya ibimenyetso byibi. Ntacyo bitwaye, ni Narcissus, sociopath cyangwa inyota gusa kubwimbaraga za leech, ishaka kwishyura indishyi zabo bwite zo kumva ko zidashoboye, zigenzura undi muntu, itumanaho numuntu nkuyu rirashobora kuba bibi cyane, bityo birakenewe cyane, bityo birakenewe cyane, bityo birakenewe Shira iherezo kuri ibi vuba bishoboka. Rero, burya bumva uguyobora.1. Umufatanyabikorwa afite ibibazo afite ikizere
Mu kwiga inyanja, yarokotse amakimbirane akomeye, abumvaga ko arinzwe mu mibanire yabo yahuye n'amakimbirane menshi n'abafatanyabikorwa babo kandi batangaza icyerekezo cyo kwiyongera kw'aya makimbirane. Muri icyo gihe, umufatanyabikorwa ashobora kurengana na gato "gutwika mu isazi y'inzovu."
Niba utahaye umukunzi wawe impamvu yo kutizerana, ariko muri icyo gihe, ariko icyarimwe ko akureba cyangwa amaheke yerekana terefone yawe cyangwa mudasobwa mugihe utareba, ni bibi.
Arashobora gutanga ibitekerezo kubyo umara umwanya kandi agushinja mubuhemu, kabone niyo ntampamvu yo gukeka. Inzira imwe yonyine yumuntu numva neza, burigihe ni ukumenya ibyo ukora.
Ntukemere ko umukunzi wawe agenzura ibikorwa byawe. Umubano mwiza ushingiye ku kwizerana no kuba inyangamugayo. Niba wowe cyangwa umukunzi wawe bigoye kwizerana, umubano ntushobora kwihanganira.
2. Birakomeye cyane kubijyanye nawe
Umufatanyabikorwa ntabwo ashaka kugenzura aho ujya nibyo ukora mugihe cyubusa, arashaka "guhuma" umuntu muburyohe bwe uzakora ibyo ashaka.Bumwe mu buryo bwo gukora ibi ni uguhora unegura: imyenda wambara, uko uhagaze, wicare, ukora mugihe cyawe, hamwe ninshuti, nibindi bitekerezo binegura barashobora Tangira nibintu bito, ariko bizahita bihinduka inkelani yo kunegura niba ubihaye inzira.
Ikintu kibi cyane nuko umuntu agerageza kugenzura mubisanzwe ayobora impaka zikomeye, bityo kunegura bisa nkaho byemeza.
Ubwanyuma, ugomba kurushaho kwigirira icyizere. Ifite icyizere cyingenzi mu guhangana numufatanyabikorwa ugerageza kukugenzura no kubarinda.
3. Iterabwoba ryihishe
Abantu bamwe bavuga ko iterabwoba rigomba kuba umubiri kugirango tugire ikibazo. Ariko iterabwoba ryo gucana umubano, imbogamizi z '"uburenganzira" cyangwa kugirira nabi kwikomeretsa birashobora kubabazwa numuntu ari iterabwoba ryihohoterwa ryumubiri. Uwayoborwa akenshi yumva "yatsimbaraye mu mibanire" atari ukubera gutinya we, kandi ubwoba bw'uwo mugenzi we buzabiyahura bizagutera ingaruka cyangwa kureka kugirira nabi cyangwa ngo biyiteze.
Mu bindi bihe, umuntu arashobora guhungabanya igihombo cyumutungo wimari, murugo cyangwa ndetse nabana aramutse avuye muri mugenzi we ayigenzura (cyangwa azajugunywa). Tutitaye ko izo nama ari ukuri, kuko "umugenzuzi" ari ubundi buryo bwo kubona ibyo ashaka, yishyuye mugenzi we.
4. Isuzuma rya Hypective
Ibi bivuga imyitozo yo kwandika imikoranire mito mumibanire, kandi iyi ni imwe mu buryo bwo kugenzura cyane.Mu buryo ubwo aribwo bwose, hariho serivisi zihoraho. Amaherezo, abashakanye bagomba gukundana kandi igihe cyose bagikora "ubutoni buto", kurugero, kugirango basohoze imyanda, koza amasahani nyuma yo kurya kumufatanyabikorwa nibindi.
Ariko, isuzuma rya hypective ryemerera umufatanyabikorwa wo kugenzura kwemeza ko "ugomba". Ariko iyo "umunyagitugu murugo" wizihiza buri gikorwa gito, urashobora kwizera udashidikanya ko agerageza kugukoresha, kurema uko akurushaho kumurusha.
5. Aragerageza kugukuraho abo ukunda
Inzira nziza yo kugenzura byimazeyo mugenzi wawe ni ugutandukanya nabakunzi bawe. Iki nikimwe mubimenyetso biteye akaga byerekana urwego rwo hejuru rwa manipulation.
Utitaye kubibazo byawe, ntuzigere ureka umuntu wigutandukanya ninshuti zawe cyangwa mumuryango. Abantu bakuru baduha imbaraga kandi bagatanga inkunga, kandi igihombo cyabo gishobora kuganisha kubibazo nyabyo, cyane cyane niba uhuye nabagerageza kugukoresha.
Umufatanyabikorwa wita ku bandi azakira umuryango wawe kandi inshuti zawe, kandi niba atabikora, noneho birakwiye gutekereza - niba umubano nk'uwo ukenewe.
Niki cyakorwa mugihe ugenzura rwose
1. KOMEZA GUKURIKIRA
Mugihe uhuye nabantu ushobora kuba uburozi no gukoresha abantu, ugomba kuguma hafi bishoboka kubagutayeho.2. Gumana nawe
Birakenewe gukora gahunda yo kwita ku buri munsi, haba muburyo bwimyitozo, gusoma igitabo cyiza, gutekereza ndetse no kuvura.
3. Ukeneye gahunda
Niba uhisemo guca umubano, gahunda ni ingirakamaro. Witondere gutekereza byose intambwe imwe imbere, kuko umukunzi birashoboka ko hari amayeri yo kugumana hafi.4. Fata uburemere ibintu ntabwo ari ibyago
Umufatanyabikorwa ushaka kugenzura buri ntambwe, cyane cyane hamwe n'imibereho mibereho cyangwa imiyoboro, irashobora kuba bibi aramutse akuweho bihagije, kabone niyo atigeze agaragara mu ihohoterwa. Ntugakureho amaso kandi utekereze ko ibyo byose bidashobora kukubaho. Ukeneye gufatana uburemere ibintu hanyuma ukore ibishoboka byose kugirango wirinde.
5. Ntutinye gushaka ubufasha hafi yawe
Umuntu ugenzurwa arakomeye gusa iyo agurinze kwisi yose.
Ntugomba kwibagirwa kwiyitaho burimunsi no kuzenguruka abantu bagukunda.