Umubano w'urugomo urashobora kugorana kwirinda impamvu nyinshi, ikunze kugaragaraho ubwoba, guhakana no kwishingikiriza. Ariko ihohoterwa rishobora kubaho muburyo bwinshi.
Ubwoko bumwebumwe bwihohoterwa, nko gukubita no kurwanya ibitsina, ni umubiri. Ubundi bwoko, nko ihohoterwa ryimitekerereze nimitekerereze, birashobora kugorana kubimenya, ariko ntabwo byangiza.Ihohoterwa rishingiye ku mitekerereze cyangwa amarangamutima ririmo gutandukana mu magambo, imyitwarire yiganje, kwerekana ishyari, ndetse n'ibikorwa byose bigamije guhungabanya kwihesha agaciro no kwihesha agaciro cyangwa kugirira nabi. Kandi kuba ibi bidasize ibikomere cyangwa inkovu, ibi ntibisobanura ko ihohoterwa ryo mumitekerereze ridashobora guhura na ndende.
1. Umufatanyabikorwa burigihe arashaka kumenya aho uherereye
Ihohoterwa ryo mu mutwe rirashobora gufata uburyo bwo kugenzura ibintu bidasanzwe. Ariko, mubyiciro byambere byimibanire, birashobora kwemezwa byoroshye kwitonda no kwitaho; Kandi ibi birashobora no gushimisha.
Umufatanyabikorwa arashobora gutangira kugaragara kumurimo wawe nta kubungaza "gutumira saa sita." Noneho arashaka kumenya ibyo wakoze kumanywa, hamwe nuwo wabikoze. Ibi byose birashobora gukura mubikorwa bitameze neza, kurugero, mugushiraho spyware kubikoresho byawe bya digitale. Nkurugero, urashobora kuzana umufatanyabikorwa ugerageza uko bishoboka kokura kumuryango ninshuti.
2. Barashobora gufata ibisobanuro, noneho bitunguranye "bishimishije"
Abafatanyabikorwa - Abafata kungufu Amarangamutima barashobora gukora ubugenzuzi bwabo, byangiza kwihesha agaciro. Bakubwira ibishishwa byo guturika ubwabo cyangwa bahora banenga imyenda, isura nicyo ukora. Barashobora kandi guhangayikishwa nibintu nkuburemere bwawe, kandi birababaje niba utujuje ibisabwa n'amahame.Ariko mu buryo butunguranye, impinduka zitunguranye zirashobora kubabaho - cyane cyane niba bumva ko bashobora kugutakaza. "Nyuma yo kurakara cyangwa kurakara, ndasaba imbabazi kandi ibyiringiro by'urukundo bikurikizwa kenshi, nka:" Sinshobora kubaho utari kumwe nawe, "" Sinzongera kubivugaho "cyangwa" sinashakaga kuvuga na gato. "
Ibi byose ntabwo aribyo bisa. Abatera kungufu mumarangamutima gusa ntabwo bafite impuhwe - ni ubundi buryo bwo gukoresha kugirango bakomeze abahohotewe bayoboye.
3. Byose bifite ibitekerezo byayo.
Impaka zihora zibera mubiri, ariko mu mibanire ibabaje Ikigereranyo cy'ingabo buri gihe kigenzurwa. Ariko niba ibyo mutumvikanaho birangirana nintsinzi yumukunzi wawe, biragaragara ko atari byiza mubucuti.
Buri mugenzi wawe muri couple agomba kuba ashobora kumvikana no kuvuga. Ariko umufatanyabikorwa "ukaragira" ntazahangayikishwa no kuganira ku buryo bushyize mu gaciro kuruta gukomeza kugenzura n'ibitekerezo byawe. Kuri we, ibisobanuro ni ukugutera ubwoba.
4. Uratinya kuvugana nawe
Urashobora kwiga byinshi kumibanire yawe ntabwo yukuntu umukunzi wawe afite, ahubwo nukuntu ubyumva. Urashobora gutinya ingaruka ku ngingo nini, kurugero, kubera gutinya uburyo yitwaye.Niba wumva ufite ipfunwe - iki nikindi kimenyetso cyerekana ko ibintu byose ari bibi. Kurugero, umufasha arashobora kugaragara kumurimo wawe nta mburanga cyangwa agusaba gukora ibikorwa byimibonano mpuzabitsina udashaka gukora.
Ubushobozi bwo kuvuga bufite akamaro kumugaragaro ubuzima bwawe bwo mumutwe gusa, ahubwo no kubuzima bwa mugenzi wawe. Niba ntakintu nkicyo, kigabanya cyane hafi yawe.
5. Nubwo bimeze bityo, arahari
Ahari bibi cyane mubigondwa kumarangamutima no mumitekerereze - umubare muto ushobora gutangara kandi ubushishozi. Akenshi abantu ntibazi ko babaye abahohotewe kugeza ubuzima bwabo bwose bwahindutse, kandi ba munsi yuburozi bwuwakoze icyaha.
Umufatanyabikorwa-wafashwe kungufu agomba guhora ari hagati yisi yose; Iyo wumviye, noneho "Njye" ntangira buhoro buhoro kugirango bishongeshe kugeza ubaye umugereka.
Icyo kubikoraho
Abahanga mu by'imitekerereze basobanura ko ubushobozi bwo kumenya imyitwarire y'ikibazo ari ngombwa kuko uwakoze icyaha azagerageza kukwemeza ko muri vino yawe yose. Ako kanya ugomba gusobanura uko ibintu bimeze kandi usobanure neza ko wiyubaha kandi utegereze ko amwubaha.
Niba ihohoterwa rikomeje, ugomba gusaba umukunzi wawe kujya kuri therapy. Niba umufatanyabikorwa yanze kandi adashobora (cyangwa adashaka guhindura) imyitwarire ye, igihe kirageze cyo kugenda.
Ati: "Nubwo ububabare bwo gutandukana, butazasenya kuruta kuguma mu mibanire ihohoterwa mu marangamutima.