Shyira ahagaragara, nuburyo buhoro butinda kandi bubabaza bukoreshwa nundi muntu. Ubu ni urugomo rwimitekerereze, aho umuntu agerageza gushidikanya bihagije kandi atangira kumva "inenge". Hamwe namagambo yatoranijwe neza "uburozi" buhoro buhoro yinjira mubitekerezo byumuntu akarya bisa no kwihesha agaciro nibyishimo. Kandi niki kibi kirenze gusa, icyarimwe uwahohotewe ntirumva ibibera kugeza igihe bitinda.
Noneho rero kwitondera ... neza murugo, no kuruhande rwumuntu wawe ukunda, mubyukuri ufite umukunzi wubukwe hamwe nuburyo busa bwamayeri. None, gutembera neza gute nibituma uwahohotewe yizera ukuri kw'amagambo atabogamye.1. "Ufite amahirwe ko ufite umuntu na gato, kuko ntawundi urashaka"
Uburyo bwo Gumana umuntu ku "Gucibwa bugufi." Birakenewe kubeshya, kuhatira kwizera ko leash ari ahantu heza kuri we. Ni nako bimeze kuri manipulator shobuja; Abantu nkabo bafata abo bakorana hafi, kubahuma neza bishoboka ko byose bizatandukana. Icyangombwa nuko uwahohotewe ahatirwa kwizera ko abasazi nkaya ari agakiza ke, azapfa vuba kwigunga atamufite.
2. "Byose ni mumutwe wawe gusa"
Imikino yimikino yagenewe kumvisha umuntu ko ari umusazi, akenshi tuboneka mubihe nkibi. Nukuri kwitegereza koga ko zuzuyeho bizashiraho kwibeshya ko n'ibyiyumvo bitanu bidashobora kugirirwa ikizere amaso n'amatwi kuvuga muri make. Ariko, ikigaragara ni uko ukeneye kwiyizera, kuko ibintu byose bitabaye "mumutwe wanjye."3. "Ntabwo bitangaje kuba ufite inshuti nke ... biragoye gukunda"
Ugomba kwibuka ibi bikurikira: Nta bantu "bigoye gukunda," abantu bamwe bakunda kwikunda, kuko batazi icyo bivuze.
Masters-Manipulator azi uburyo bwo "kugoreka" ibintu byose kugirango kwihesha agaciro bizahinduka. Ikimenyetso kimwe kigaragara ko urumuri rwamazi aribwo ruhinduka kandi rugerageza kungurana intego. Biteguye "guhangana n'umuntu, nubwo bose (bidahari) amakosa y'imiterere yarwo." Garikali yuzuye yacagamye cyane, yemeza abandi ko uwahohotewe ari "umusazi" cyangwa "".
4. "Mubintu byose byibitagenda neza, ufite icyaha"
Irashobora rwose gukura mubibazo bikomeye. Kimwe nandi mayeri yose, ibintu byose bitangirana na, birasa nkaho ari bike. Amaherezo, iki kinyoma gishobora kurengana, urugero, mugihe umuntu ashinja umufatanyabikorwa mubibazo bye, ibyateganijwe no kwiyangiza. Kubera iyo mpamvu, uwahohotewe abanye n'inpfute ihoraho kandi ashinja uko ari mu kintu cyose kibera ku isi imukikije.5. "Nariye neza impamvu ubyumva cyane"
Abikoresha bose b'undi muntu bakunda kuwuzana gusenyuka. Nyuma yibyo, ntibavuga ko ari umwere bavuga ko byari urwenya gusa, n'uburyo bwashoboraga kuba bikomeye. " Ntabwo arizera gusa ko umukunzi adafite uburozi, ariko kandi atera ibyo utangiye kumva icyaha kuko "wunvikana cyane."
6. "Sinigeze mbivugaho"
Abanyazilikazi bahora bagerageza kwitiranya uwahohotewe. Bazavuga ko ibintu byabaye nkuko uwahohotewe yabibonaga, cyangwa, kandi na gato ntibyabaye. Igihe kirenze, ntigishaka gushidikanya kubitekerezo byawe n'amarangamutima yawe cyangwa ngo bishe niba utagiye gusara.7. "Urabizi, mubyukuri ntuba mwiza cyane muri ..."
Umuntu wese afite impano nubuhanga karemano yishimye. Rero, intego ya Gasladir ni ukubuza uwahohotewe impamvu yo kwikunda. Bizatangira buhoro, gusenya gahunda yo kwigirira icyizere no kwihesha agaciro, kwerekana ibyo usaba uwahohotewe nimpano zayo. Nibyiza, bizabangamira kwihesha agaciro, kandi mubi - uzatangira kwizera ko "bibi cyane biterwa numusatsi biterwa numusabiri, bibe mumarangamutima cyangwa mumarangamutima."
Ikigaragara nuko benshi muri umwe cyangwa undi bahindukira bafata ibi, bisa nibihe byiringiro. Ikirenze iki, ntibishoboka rwose kumenya Gaslacecer, kandi amaherezo, benshi bari mu bunyage umubano w'uburozi mu myaka cyangwa ndetse n'ubuzima.