Rimwe na rimwe, igitekerezo cyiza kizategura "kugenzura ubuzima" umubano wawe. Ahari, ntamuntu numwe wibanga ko niba wirengagije umubano, ibibazo bishobora kuvuka, kandi bidatinze, abashakanye bazumva ko bitagera nka mbere. Kugirango ukomeze kuba hafi kandi ukamenya neza ko ibintu byose "ari byiza" mubucuti, ugomba kwibaza ibibazo bikurikira.
1. Wigeze umera cyane kurahira cyangwa gutongana numufasha?
Niba umuntu avuga ko arenze ibisanzwe, ugomba kwibaza, aricyo soko yamakimbirane. Hamwe nibi bikwiye byose mbere yuko biba ikibazo kinini. Niba wemereye ikibazo guteza imbere umugabo wawe, birashobora gutuma umuntu atukwa no gutakaza ibyiyumvo.2. Urumva ko ibyifuzo byawe byamarangamutima bihaze?
Iki kibazo ni ngombwa cyane. Niba umuntu wo muri abafatanyabikorwa yumva ko ibyo akeneye amarangamutima atanyuzwe, igihe kirageze cyo guhindura ikintu. Niba muri gahunda y'amarangamutima utegereje umwe, ukabona undi, ufite ingaruka mbi kumubano. Ako kanya ujye gukeka ko undi muntu akiriho, kandi utangira gukora bike kuri mugenzi wawe hamwe nigitekerezo "Niba ibyo bitankoreye, none kuki namukorera." Ibi byanze bikunze biganisha ku bibazo bikomeye. Ugomba kwicarana na mugenzi wawe hanyuma ukore urutonde rwibintu bitatu cyangwa bitanu ashobora gukora kugirango ubone ibyo amarangamutima yawe. Gerageza gukora ibi nkibishoboka kugirango ugarure ubushake mubucuti.
3. Watengushye kumubiri wawe?
Umugereka ni igice cyingenzi mumibanire. Gushaka kwuzuye gukoraho no kwizirika biganisha ku guturika, gusobanukirwa abo bafatanyabikorwa cyangwa badashaka. Niba gutumanaho kashe byagabanijwe, ugomba gukora ibishoboka kandi ukamenya neza gukorana. Iyo unyuze kuri mugenzi wawe, kanda urutugu kandi wibande kuri kugarura itumanaho ryambere kandi wumve neza. Niba nta muri Umunara muremure mugihe kirekire, birakwiye kandi ugerageza gutunganya ibintu byose, guhera byibuze hamwe no gukoraho.4. Utekereza ko umukunzi wawe ashyira akazi cyangwa ibindi byihutirwa biri hejuru yawe?
Iyo umuntu atumva mubucuti ko ari ngombwa kumufatanyabikorwa, ibitekerezo bye bitatangira guhinduka, kandi akabona ubundi buryo bwo kumva ko ari ngombwa. Akenshi ubu buryo bushobora kuganisha kubibazo byinshi. Muganire ku byiyumvo byawe hamwe numufatanyabikorwa - arashobora rwose kumenya ko ubyumva. Gerageza gutandukana no gushaka uburyo bwo kuzenguruka ibihe kugirango bongere wumve ko ari ingenzi kuri mugenzi wawe. Amaherezo, abantu bose bakunda, mugihe ibitekerezo byerekanwe.
5. Urumva ko ukoreshwa?
Niba wumva wakoresheje uko utukiriza iyo mpamvu, byerekana ikibazo cyo kwizerana. Ugomba kwizera hamwe nubwenge bwawe. Niba umufatanyabikorwa yirengagije ibyo ukeneye kandi uhora yishyira imbere ya mbere, iki nikimenyetso kibi. Umubano uwo ari wo wose ntukeneye "gufatwa" gusa, ahubwo wafashwe "watanze".6. Kumva ko, kuba mubucuti, nkumbuye ikintu mubuzima
Urumva uhangayitse? REBA abandi bantu kandi bagumana Niki gishobora kuba umubano nabo? Rimwe na rimwe, barabikora iyo barakariye mugenzi wabo, ariko niba ibi bibaye buri gihe, noneho hariho ibibazo byanze. Ugomba kwibaza niba hari ibintu ushobora gukorera hamwe nkabashakanye. Nibyiza kugerageza gukora ikintu gishimishije byibuze rimwe mu kwezi kugirango dushyigikire "Ikibatsi" mubucuti.
7. Ugomba kureka kuba wenyine kugirango urinde isi mubucuti?
Iyo uhagaritse kuba wenyine, utangira kubana nikinyoma. Ibi akenshi bibaho mugihe umukunzi ahora agerageza kuguhindura, akatongana ko utari mwiza bihagije. Kugerageza kuba umuntu utari, muburyo busanzwe ni uwatsinzwe - abantu bose bakeneye gukunda uwo akeneye. Ibi nibyo abantu bose babishaka badafite ibintu bidasanzwe. Ntibishoboka rwose guhinduka, ariko urashobora gutandukana no guhindura ubwoko bumwebumwe.8. Ese icyaha cyikintu nyamukuru mubucuti bwawe?
Bamwe bakomeje kuguma mu mibanire yabo kubera ko yicyaha cyangwa indi mpamvu. Niba nta rukundo nubucuti, birashobora kuba igihe cyo gushidikanya kubwimpamvu zabo. Ikosa ntabwo arimpamvu nziza yo gukomeza umubano, kandi umubano wigihe kirekire ushingiye ku kumva kwicyaha ntazaganisha ku kintu cyiza.
9. Hoba hariho kumva ko uri gusa "gutanga" gusa, na mugenzi wawe "bifata"
Birakwiye kwibaza - ninde ukora ibishoboka byose mubucuti bwawe? N'ubundi kandi, umubano uwo ari wo wose, nta kuroba ugereranyije, birakenewe kugira ngo utere imbere no kubitaho, bitabaye ibyo, urukundo runini ruzarwana nk'ururabyo rudafite amazi. Niba wumva ko ari wowe wenyine "ukora" kubera umubano, igihe kirageze cyo kuvugana mubugingo. Akenshi birashobora kutumvikana, kandi ibintu byose bikiki byaganiriweho, urashobora kubona inzira.10. Woba uri mubucuti kubera ko wumva ufite umutekano muri "zone ihumure"?
Mubyukuri, iyi ni kure nkurugero rumwe kandi hari abantu benshi baguma mubucuti atari ukubera ko bishimye, ariko kubera ko aribyo byose bazi. Batinya gusa kutazwi kandi bahitamo ibyamenyereye. Ntabwo bikenewe kwemerera imyizerere mike kubangamira ubuzima bwuzuye. Gira ubutwari.
Umubano ni umurimo nyawo. N'ubundi kandi, abantu bafite umwirondoro utandukanye, inkomoko nibyo bakunda. Kwiyunga, gushyikirana no kwitabwaho bigira uruhare mukubungabunga umubano mwiza. Birakenewe kandi guteza imbere inyungu zawe, kandi ibi bizagira uruhare mu kugaragara kumahirwe menshi yo kwidagadura.
Ikintu nyamukuru nukwinezeza no gushyikirana buri gihe, kandi ntitugashyiremo ibyo yinyongera, ariko tukavuga kumugaragaro kandi tukagaragaza ibyiyumvo byawe. Kandi, byanze bikunze, shakisha umwanya wo kwidagadura. Niba hari amazu menshi yo munzu, monotony na gahunda, umubano uzatangira gupfa.