Nta mpungenge z'umugore, yatangiye urukundo rwe rudafite ishingiro. Kubwamahirwe, kuri pics.ru yandika psychotherapiste adrian Izh, uzi gutandukanya ibintu kandi, amaherezo, kugirango ukemure ikinamico cyurukundo ntabwo aricyo (cyangwa sibyo).
1. Ntabwo ukunda umuntu
Yego, mubyukuri, ntukunda. Nyuma ya byose, gukunda umuntu, agomba kumenya. Nibyiza ibyiza. Niba ubabaye kandi ugenda, birashoboka cyane ko utazi uyu muntu.Kurugero, ukunda ubwoko bwinyabwenge. Cyangwa mwiza. Cyangwa uburyo igitsina gihindura amapine nimodoka. Cyangwa nkibishushanyo bidasanzwe kurukuta. Cyangwa mbega ukuntu umusaraba wavoye. Ntabwo ari urukundo. Nibyifuzo byimibonano mpuzabitsina byo kwiga neza. Niba udashoboye kumenya - urukundo runaka.
2. Wiyemeje ibikenewe
Imiterere y'urukundo irashobora kwitwa ibikenewe. Ufite icyifuzo cyo kurerwa, mugushyigikira, guhaza imibonano mpuzabitsina. Kandi uyu muntu asa nkaho ari ibi bibereye.
Ariko nanone rwose ntabwo byukuri bikwiranye nibi. Yoo. Rimwe na rimwe tugwa muri pome ya plastike kuva inzara. Cyane cyane niba mbere yibi biryo bisanzwe ntabwo byigeze bigaragara na gato. Kandi cyane cyane, akenshi tukira ibintu bimwe bitakenewe mubucuti na byose - kurugero, umuntu ushyirwa mubikorwa kimwe na chimie. Ni ikihe gihe, mubyukuri, kuvuga kuri chimie? Cyangwa ni kangahe mu mwaka bahindura amapine?
Pome ya plastike nibyiza kugenda aryamyeho neza, aho aryamye kandi ntugerageze kubikora.
3. Ukitiranya ibirango
Niba ubabaye kubera ko utamukunda (cyangwa we), birashoboka cyane, nta myifatire afite kuri we cyangwa wowe, cyangwa wowe, cyangwa wowe.Washyinguye "igitangaza" cyangwa "udasanzwe" kuri uyu muntu, kandi ikirango ni "Rero", none ikanatera ubwoba. Birashoboka cyane, abandi bantu bamwe bagufashe izindi shusho. Ahari kuri uyu mugabo cyane, imbaraga zayo bwite.
Ariko inshingano byumwihariko nukugerageza guhura rwose no kumenyana. Ni gake. Ariko, na none, kugeza igihe byagaragaye - nta rukundo ruhari. Hano hari ibiganiro hamwe na labels. Ntabwo imyenda yose ya valentino ni nziza. Ntoroshye kureba kuri tagi, ugomba kubigerageza - nkuko ubibona, nta bukwe. Muri rusange, ni iki? Ni he?
4. Urababara ubusa
"Ariko ndababaye rwose!" - Bavuga urukundo rutishimye.
Imibabaro ni iki - noneho ukuri. Kandi, by the, ni iki?
- Ukurikije ibyo adankunda? - Noneho impamvu kubura ikintu bintera ububabare.
- Tuvuge ko ndi umukoni? - Ibi ntabwo ari ku rukundo.
- Tuvuze ko inzira zose zikane zinkunda, kandi ntabwo ari intungane - Imana ifite miliyoni? - Yego, akenshi bibaho. Kandi nakuye he igitekerezo cyuko umubiri mwiza ugomba kuba? Kuki bidahagije kuri njye?
- Noneho sinzigera mbaho mubuzima bwibyishimo? - Ngwino, ntitugavuge ejo hazaza nkaya. Nkimva ufite inzara, ntibishoboka guhaza pome ya plastike, ariko urashobora hamwe na pome nyayo, karoti na sandwich, kandi kwemerwa nigitsina ninzara zacu ntibuzuza umuntu wenyine kwisi, kandi benshi, benshi, benshi abagabo n'abagore. Ikibazo niho ho kujya gusa uhamagara nuburyo bwo kuvugana nabo.
5. Uragerageza kwigomwa wenyine
- Tuvuge iki ku rukundo, ubumwe bwo kwiyuhagira, igice kidasanzwe?
Iki nikibazo nkunda, urakoze kumubaza.
Mubisanzwe munsi yiyi sosi ihishe itangazo hari ukuntu bishimishije kwigomwa wenyine. Nibyiza - kumuntu. Nibyiza gusa kandi ntukirize kubintu byose. Birashoboka cyane - bamwe basanzwe batazi no kubibona. Ukeneye neza?
Nibiba ngombwa, iyi ntabwo ari psychologue, iri mumagarasi. Bakunda ubwabo, ibyo kurya byinshi.
Niba bidakenewe - noneho urukundo nibyiyumvo bigoye, biremwa mumwaka, ikindi mubashakanye rwose. Irashobora kuvuka inshuro nyinshi mubuzima no kuzana umunezero mwinshi. Kandi muri ibyo bidasanzwe.
No gufungura imitsi ntibisaba. Niba bikenewe - iyi ntabwo ari urukundo. Yagenzuwe.