Kenshi na kenshi, umuntu yagiye mumitekerereze iyo ashaka guhindura ikintu mubuzima bwe. Abamuhugu ba psychologue bemeza ko gukandagira umuntu ejo hazaza heza ku nkari ntacyo bimaze. Ariko bazi icyo ukeneye gukora kugirango ugerayo wenyine.
Ati: "Iyo uretse kuba uwo utari we, impinduka zibangamira," Amategeko y'imyanya ya paradoxicatable muri Psychologue Albert Baderers Byumvikane nkibi. Paradox nuko bishoboka kuba umuntu uhinduka, urashobora kureka kugerageza kwihindura. Gukomeza, ugomba guhagarara. Kurokoka ubundi buzima, ugomba kubaho ibi. Iri tegeko ritanga ibisubizo ako kanya. E. NYUMA YANUANTU, ariko ntiyigeze azi kubisubiza. Yizeraga ko bigenda neza kandi bikaze, byashobora guha abakoze ibyaha bidakwiye. E. Yibye ubwe, yarimo yitegura, ategereje "gukubita", ariko, amaze kumva undi ijambo ribi, ryongeye gufata imibabaro bucece. Dukurikije Secireka, kugerageza imibereho yo gukora indi miterere, ntuzigere ufasha. Ntacyo bimaze gufatafatana (nabandi): impinduka zibaho muburyo busanzwe. E. Twatekereje, kandi mubyukuri, ni we uhura nububabare? Byaragaragaye ko atuye ubwoba buteye ubwoba. Bukwi na bukwi, niba asubiza abanenze, abantu bazareka kuvugana nawe? Mu makimbirane yegereye, yahise asubiza imvugo: "Oya, ntabwo uvuze ukuri ..." Muri ako kanya, E. Nabonye ko namaze kuba undi. Nibyo, kandi byatangiye kumuvugisha ukundi. Impinduka zitangirana no kumenya ukuri, kandi ntabwo hamwe no kwibeshya cyangwa ibitekerezo.
Aho amababi asigaye
Urugamba rwo "gukura ku giti cye, kubyo guhindura cyane - kuzimya. Birashobora kuvugwa kuri we ko "hano igipimo cyakazi gifatwa nkumunani," kuko ntawe ubona ibisubizo. Imbaraga zose z "gukura" zijya ku rugamba hagati y'aho hazaza h'uhimbano kandi bisa nkaho ari ukuri. M = Kurota kugirango abuze ibiro. Yasaga nkaho ari igisimba gikomeye, mu nzozi yabonye ubwiza buto. Kumyaka, ibiro byayo byihuta, kandi umwuka uri hafi buri gihe. Igihe kimwe, M. yiribye ubwe maze agira ati: "Mubyukuri, ndi umugore usanzwe, nkunda kurya ibiryo biryoshye kandi sinshobora kubyihanganira." Nyuma yigihe runaka, yasanze, kuba, ntabwo yari yarakosowe gusa, ahubwo yiyongera afite imbaraga zituruka ahantu hose, kandi yari afite umwanya wo kugenda kuruta mbere.
Kuki Guhindura biteye ubwoba
Ibihe bya Crystal Ubunyangamugayo imbere yabo ntabwo bibaho. Kandi ibi nibisanzwe. Ishishikarire ko uri umunyakuri, umva ibyifuzo byabo n'ibyiyumvo byabo, turabuzwa na masike yacu, inshingano zacu, imipaka, twubatse kuri wewe kugira ngo birinde akaga k'iyi si. Muri bo n'ibibazo: ingeso za kera na manipulation ntibikunze bihagije kubintu bishya. Bashobora kugereranwa no gupimwa cyane, hamwe n'intwaro za rusty cyangwa ndetse no mu gikomere, kigeze guhagarika amaraso, ariko ubu gitangira kuniga. Abahezanyi babiri P. na T. kwinubira ibibazo hamwe na bagenzi bawe. Abantu bose bafatwaga P. Gmurym na kaminuza, nubwo yashakaga kuba inshuti. T. yavuze ko igihe yabazwaga ku kintu runaka, yaracecetse kandi agasuzuguro gato ko ntamuntu numwe ushaka kumwegera ku nshuro ya kabiri. Nubwo bimwe t. bizeraga ko yari afite umugwaneza cyane. Igihe P. na T. rwaretse gutekereza kubyo bashaka kugaragara kubakozi, bamenye ko bakorana. Rero, P. Yagendeye ku Biro, areba kuri terefone bityo akaba uwo atigeze asuhuza uwambere. Na T., dutekereza cyane kubibazo, uhereye ku bumwe bwakozwe igihe kirekire kandi ukagorana umunwa. Kumenya ibibera byose byahindutse: P yakuyeho terefone igendanwa mu mufuka, kandi T. yahisemo kuburira abantu ibyerekeye isura yabo, ariko, bidatinze, byari bitari igiteranirwa.
Gusezera mu gipfura hamwe nibyahise
Icyifuzo cyo kwatura mugihe cyacyo cyangwa ikinyabupfura, kidahagije cyangwa kutitaho ibintu binyuranyije na "byiza" ", kugirango bikenewe kureka ibibi byose: ibitekerezo nibikorwa. Mubyukuri, abahanga mu by'imitekerereze kandi ntibasaba kongera gutora mu makosa yabo, bakazamuka kera cyangwa kwibira mu bwoba. Ariko sibegwa yaranditse ati: "Gukiza imibabaro, ugomba kurokoka burundu." Ibyahise bigomba kwemerwa, mu kinyabupfura kumusezeraho, hanyuma ibikomere bishaje bizahinduka isoko yo gukura gushya. H. Imyaka yatangajwe n'inzu nini kandi nziza azagura kandi atange, ariko atari ahantu runaka, ahubwo mu mahanga. Ariko ishyirwa mu bikorwa ry'inzozi ze ni ikintu gihora, nk'ubumaji bubi, bwarujijwe. Ibintu byavaguwe mu kigo cyapfuye gusa no kumenya: ntabwo akunda inzu ye ishaje, ariko abantu bamusangiye. Kandi, nkuko yizera, rwose bagomba gufatana nabo murugo rushya. Kandi hano turasubiye mu nyigisho ya paradoxique y'impinduka. Intambwe yambere yo guhinduka ntabwo ari intambwe igana imbere. Numuheruka mubintu byose bigutera. Ngaho, inyuma, hari ikintu. Ikintu kigutera. Bitabaye ibyo, warahindutse igihe kirekire. Kugirango ukureho guhuza, ntugomba gukurura umugozi, ahubwo ugomba guhagarara no kunguranagura neza. Muri iki gihe ko wabaye undi muntu nimpinduka zasaga nkaho bidashoboka, bibaho, ubwabo kandi mubisanzwe. Dukurikije ibikoresho by'ubutegetsi bwa Harris, Albert Bahawe Baderers.
