Buri mugabo n'umugore bongeraho imyitwarire yabo mu mibanire - kuva abantu babana, mbere yuko abagira uruhare runini cyangwa bategura ifunguro rya nimugoroba. Nubwo inyandikorubishushanyo ngenderabu ari ibisanzwe kubantu bose, ikibabaje, ntabwo bose ari beza. Rimwe na rimwe, imyitwarire runaka irashobora gutera uburakari buke, ariko nyuma yigihe runaka, uburakari, burababaza umubano byoroshye.
Dutanga ingero zinyaburangantego 7-uburozi bugomba kwangwa mugihe ushaka kugira umubano mwiza kandi wigihe kirekire.1. Icyitegererezo cyo gutsimbarara
Dukurikije iyi gahunda, umuntu umwe yumva ko umubano we udashaka, undi akeneye umwanya muto. Ukeneye umwanya, "abarababaje" nuyu mukundana kandi arahatira "kwizirika" ndetse arushaho gukomera. Mubyukuri, nimwe muburyo bukunze kugaragara mubucuti. Kurugero, umuntu umwe yumva ko akarere ke keza ari intera, cyane cyane nyuma yo gutongana, undi yumva ko akeneye kuvuga nonaha. Kugira ngo ukosore, abahanga mu by'imitekerereze bagira inama yo kuvugana ku cyitegererezo cya mugenzi wabo. Kurugero, nibyiza kubaza gusa: "Urashaka kuvuga iki?" Guha umwanya w'abafatanyabikorwa kugirango utekereze ku kibazo.
2. Gushiraho icyaha kuri mugenzi wawe
Nukuri, benshi bamenyereye neza imiterere yo kwicira urubanza kuri mugenzi wabo mubihe byinshi. Bimwe byombi bifite akamenyero ko gushinjana mumakosa yabo, uko byagenda kose. Iyi ni akamenyero gakomeye cyane, kuko mugihe abafatanyabikorwa basezeranye gusa no kwiregura no gushinjanyana, babura amahirwe yo kugirira neza no kumva bafite ubucuti. Ibinyuranye nibihe nkibi ni ugufata inshingano kubikorwa byabo, kandi ubu ni ikintu cyihariye cyo gukura no mumarangamutima. Kubwibyo, aho kuba igitambo cyiyi ngeso, birakwiye kugerageza gufata inshingano kubikorwa byawe no kubiganiraho na mugenzi wawe, bitabaye ibyo nta cyiza kizashira.3. Umugabo muri Frendzone
Akenshi bibaho ko aba bombi bazitondera abana babo, ahubwo bazize ishyaka. Bombi batangiye gufatana nkinshuti nziza cyangwa mugenzi wawe. Kubwamahirwe, abashakanye bibagirwa ko bagomba kuba abakunzi nabafatanyabikorwa, ntabwo ari ababyeyi na / cyangwa abaturanyi bazengurutse icyumba. Ni ngombwa gukora kugirango wirinde ibi, cyangwa birakwiye kugerageza kwiyumvisha ibyiyumvo bitesha agaciro "ibinyugunyugu mu nda". Urashobora gutangira byibuze iminota 10 kumunsi kugirango uganire "Ntakintu", nkaho kumunsi wambere. Ubushakashatsi bumwe bwerekanye ko abashakanye basanzwe, bafite abana, bavugana iminota 15 gusa kumunsi. Birakwiye rero kongeramo byibuze iminota 10 yo kuganira cyangwa gukundana mugihe utaganiriye kubibazo, ariko ubaze uburyo "igice" cyari umunsi.
4. Ibibazo by'inshuti, ntabwo ari umufatanyabikorwa
Suzuma ibintu bikurikira: Inshuti zumva neza ibibazo byawe, kandi uhore kuruhande rwawe. Nubwo ari byiza, ariko niba ibi bibaye mugihe umubano, bizazana ibibi kuruta ibyiza. Kuramo ubugingo ku nshuti gusa, bityo Erekana umufatanyabikorwa mu mucyo mubi. Byongeye kandi, birashoboka kurwanya umubano nubucuti. Iyo hari ibitagenda neza, ugomba guhora ubajije ikibazo kuri mugenzi wawe kandi ugerageze kuganira kuri byose.5. Umubyeyi urakaye n'umunyarwandakazi
Tekereza ko umwe muri abo bafatanyaga yibagiwe yo kwishyura inyungu ku nguzanyo, kubera ko banki yashyizeho ibihano. Ntabwo bitangaje kuba undi ashobora gutakaza amaraso akonje kandi arababaza. Nukuri, ibi byabaye hafi ya bose. Kugirango wirinde ibi, uhereye ku ntangiriro ukeneye kugerageza kubaka imyumvire ku kirenge kimwe kandi ntufate umukunzi ukuze nkumwana. Buri gihe biroroshye kuvuga utuje kandi ugerageze gukemura ikibazo.
6. Kwirata cyane mu mbuga nkoranyambaga
Ubushakashatsi bwerekana ko gukoresha imiyoboro mibi bigira ingaruka mbi murwego rwabantu banyuzwe n'imibanire. Kubwibyo, ibi bivuze ko uko ugaragaza umubano wawe, niko ukeneye cyane bizaba kwerekana ko umubano ukomeye. Ahari umuntu yishimira gusa kugabanuka kwa dopamine nyuma y "gukunda" n "" ibitekerezo ". Ariko, birashoboka cyane, impamvu zimbitse. Ibi birashobora kwishyuza cyangwa guhisha umutekano muke mubuzima bwawe hamwe numufatanyabikorwa. Utitaye ku mpamvu, ugomba kwibanda ku gukosora ibibazo byawe, no kudahisha ikintu mumiyoboro rusange. Abashakanye bishimye rwose bamara umwanya muto wo gutangaza imiyoboro rusange nigihe kinini cyo gukora kwibuka neza.7. Kugerageza kubika ibintu byose bigenzurwa
Mubisanzwe, mubihe nkibi, umuntu umwe arashaka kuyobora undi no mubice. Kandi kugirango utuze mubucuti, undi muntu igufasha kubikora. Ariko ibi byose biganisha ku kuba umuntu uyoboye amaherezo azakumva ari uwahohotewe. Kandi ibi, kubishyira mu gatonga, ntibizayobora ikintu cyiza mubucuti. Kugira ngo wirinde inyandikorugero nk'iyi, ni ngombwa kwitabaza serivisi za psychotherapiste (cyangwa umuntu wese wizeye) niba utangiye kumva ubabaye mu mibanire.