Akenshi, abakobwa benshi baragerageza gukomeza inshuti n'uwahozeho, kuko "iki kintu kiri hano." Ariko, mubihe bimwe, iterambere nkiryo rigomba kwirindwa kubiciro byose. Hano hari impamvu zifatika zijyanye na platoon hamwe nabambere ntibyaba bikwiye cyane.
1. Uracyari mu rukundo
Ibyiyumvo byabitswe hamwe nibyiringiro byibanga bigaruke birashobora kuba ubushake bukomeye kugirango bukomeze kuba inshuti hamwe nabambere, ariko, birababaje, nimwe mububiko bubi. Niba ibyambere byatanze kumva ko adashaka kubana nawe, birashoboka, bike birashobora gukorwa kugirango ahindure ibitekerezo. Niba kandi ukomeje guhora ubona, bizatuma gusa gusubiramo imibabaro kandi amaherezo bituma numva nihebye. Tugomba kugerageza kumarana n'inshuti zituma wumva ukunzwe kandi ufite agaciro. Ibyambere birashoboka cyane ko atari umwe muribo.2. Birababaje kuri we
Niba gutandukana kwanyu kandi uwambere abiboneye nabi, mubisanzwe, ko ntashaka kubikora nabi, kwanga icyifuzo cyubucuti. Ariko, ibi birashobora rwose gutuma yumva arushijeho kuba mubi.
Abantu bakunda kumva ko bashyigikiwe niba babikeneye, ariko ntibashaka kumva ko babikeneye niba bafite amahitamo. Inkunga yawe ikomeje ntabwo ishaka kubafasha kurokoka gutandukana no kubaho, kabone niyo byaba byiza iruhande rwabo. Ugomba kumenya neza ko abambere bahawe inkunga yabandi bantu mubuzima bwe, kandi ntabwo ari wowe. Mubyongeyeho, ugomba kumuzanira imbabazi zivuye ku mutima, kandi ntukurura igihe kirekire.
3. Urumva ufite irungu
Amaze kunyura mu gutandukana, biroroshye kumva ko mubuzima bwawe "umwobo washinze", kandi birashobora gufata igihe cyo kuzuza uyu mwobo. Niba wumva ufite irungu nijoro, ubutumire bwambere bwambere bwa cinema busa nkaho bushimishije kuruta kugerageza kumenyana nabantu bashya. Ariko irashobora kandi kuyobora haba kuri "golkov y'Abanyamerika" mu mibanire, ndetse ikabura gushidikanya, ibibazo binini mu itumanaho, ndetse no kunyurwa n'ubuzima. Kubura imibanire yimbitse mumibanire y'urukundo birasobanutse. Nubwo bimeze bityo ariko, ntabwo ari ngombwa gukorana nabambere. Nibyiza kumara gusa umwanya hamwe numuryango ninshuti.4. Twizere ko azahinduka
Tutitaye ko watandukanye kubera ubuhemu bwahoze ari mugenzi wawe cyangwa kubera ko yakoresheje inzoga nyinshi cyangwa ibiyobyabwenge, hafi ya yose, bizakura muri uwo mukunzi, akeneye. Gukomeza kuba inshuti, urashobora "kubigumana hafi" kandi, wenda, ndetse bikamufasha guhinduka neza. Ariko ntibikunze kugaragara kugirango ibyiringiro byo guhuriza hamwe bishobora gushishikariza abantu kuba byiza. Ariko niba uwahoze abyumva, arashobora "kwigana" ibyo ashaka guhinduka, gusa kugirango agume hafi. Ntucike intege.
5. Amahitamo
Bamwe barashobora kugira icyifuzo cyo gukomeza gushyikirana na Ex hamwe nikibazo niba badashobora kubona umuntu neza. Ntawabura kuvuga ko inzira nkizo ari akarengane ijyanye nayo, ariko irashobora kandi kukugabanya. Rimwe na rimwe, ugomba kureka umubano wa kera, niba ushaka guhambira ibishya.6. Urashaka kumukurikira
Nukuri, nyuma yo gutandukana, ndetse birababaza no gutekereza ku kuba uwahoze ari urukundo rwabonye mu bandi bantu bahobera, kabone niyo waba uzi ko umubano wawe utari utunganye. Kugumana inshuti, biroroshye kugwa mubishuko byo gukurikiza amatariki ye ndetse biramushyigikira. Nubwo bishobora ibigeragezo, ariko niba wabaye "umucungamutungo" wahoze, noneho mugihe kirekire, ntuzamugirira akamaro cyangwa cyane cyane, niba utazi neza ibyiyumvo byawe kuburyo byose bikura.
Nubwo waba ukomeje kuba inshuti kuri Facebook, birashobora kuguha "icyuho" mubuzima bwawe. Ni ngombwa kumenya ko "gukurikirana" kuri Facebook bikunda gushimangira impuruza n'ishyari, kandi niba bigoye ko urwanya ibyiyumvo nk'ibyo, nibyiza kuva mu karere kahoze ari inshuti.
7. Urwaye Syndrome "Ibyatsi Green"
Niba ukomeje kubona amakosa yumukunzi mushya, birasa nkaho bishimishije kuba bahuye nuwahoze ariwe. Akenshi, urashobora gutangira gukundana numuntu mumaze igihe kinini umenyereye, kuko uri byinshi "bidahangayikishijwe n'amakosa n'ingeso mbi." Ariko birakwiye ko bizirikana ko uyu ari umutego. Niba "ibyatsi biri ahantu hinesha," ntuzigera wishima kandi unyuzwe nibyo ufite. Niba utishimiye umubano wubu, birakwiye kubiganiraho hanyuma ukagerageza gukuraho ibyo byiyumvo, kandi ntukerekeza ku nkunga yahoze cyangwa nk'uburyo bw'ibiti. Biragoye gusa uko ibintu bimeze.
Noneho, hari impamvu yo gukomeza kuba inshuti nuwahozeho. Niba nta mpamvu zihishe zisa nizitonde zavuzwe haruguru, kandi niba ubucuti bwawe butagira ingaruka kumibanire yawe (ikizamini cyiza ni ukumenya ko werohewe no kuvugana numukunzi wawe mushya hamwe nuwahoze ari uwahoze Umufatanyabikorwa yumva ari meza mugihe uri hafi), noneho kuki utabikora.
Birakwiye rwose kumenya neza ko uri inyangamugayo nimyumvire yawe nyayo kubijyanye no kuvugana nabandi.