Kubaha
Kuri bamwe, birashobora gusa kubabariza umuntu, ariko mubyukuri kuva kubaha ari umubano ukomeye. Ni inkuru zingahe zisekeje zubatswe ku ngingo yukuntu umugore yakodesheje umugabo we inzitizi yo gushyikirana ninshuti, kuko bitemerera kugenda muburobyi. Ibi ntabwo arigaragaza kubaha mugenzi wawe. Reba nawe igice cyawe, umugabo ayoboye ubuzima bwe, akora ubucuruzi bwe, kandi ntagomba kureka inyungu ze gusa kuko atagukunda. Wubahe ubuzima bwe bwite, noneho umugabo azagushimira kandi ambara mumaboko, abandi bazamugirira ishyari gusa.Himbaza umukunzi wawe kenshi
Abagabo, kimwe nabana, bakundwa cyane iyo bashimwe. Cyane cyane iyo bikunzwe. N'ubundi kandi, ni ngombwa cyane gukomera, ubuhanga n'ubutwari mu maso yabo. Niba kandi ubitanze kugirango wumve ibi, bazaba biteguye nibintu bikomeye kubwakunzwe. Ntukemere ko ikinyabupfura no mu kinyabupfura ku mugabo wawe - vuba cyangwa nyuma, bizaba impamvu yo kumwitaho urukundo n'umugore.
Reka akingure
Kugira ngo bamenye neza uwo mugabo, ku matariki ya mbere utagomba kumugaragariza ibitekerezo kugirango adakora kandi atavuga, bityo azitwara muburyo butandukanye kandi azerekana imico ye. Ibi bizagufasha kumva niba ugomba gukomeza kuvugana numuntu nkabo cyangwa atari amahitamo yawe.Uburezi bwumugabo mugihe cyamatariki
Ku matariki ya mbere, ntabwo ari ngombwa gukosora umuntu, ariko kure, icyo gikorwa kigomba gukoreshwa. Erekana reaction yawe kumyitwarire ye - niba udakunda ikintu, mbwira ubigiranye amakenga. Ikintu nyamukuru kuri iki cyiciro ntabwo arigutemera kunegura, gerageza kwerekana byinshi kutoroherwa no kwishongora no kubona ibintu bike.
Ntutegereze kumugabo wigikora
Biragoye kubaka ingeso zanjye ako kanya. Kubwibyo, ntugomba gutegereza ko imyitwarire yumuntu izahinduka ako kanya igitekerezo cyawe. Erekana kwihangana no kumuha umwanya. Mugihe kizaza, niba ufite akamaro kuri we, rwose azakwibuka ibyo ukunda, nibitemewe. Kandi muri rusange, birakwiye kwibuka ko umurimo wumugore atari ukwirukana umugabo ntabwo ari ukumusubiza munsi ye, ahubwo ni ukwereka uwo yifuza kubona iruhande rwe.Ntukihutire gucira umugabo kumunsi wambere
Nibyo, abagabo barakomeye kandi bashize amanga, ariko bose ni abantu bamwe bahura nibyishimo mbere yitariki. Gusa nkabagore barashaka no gutangaza. Kubera iyi, imvugo yawe irashobora kwitwara bidasanzwe kandi bidasanzwe. Ibyishimo bimaze kumanuka - byose birasanzwe, birashoboka guha umuntu gusuzuma.
Fungura umugabo ukunda
Birumvikana ko udakeneye guhinduka igitabo cyo gusoma, amayobera agomba kuguma mu mugore na nyuma yimyaka 30 kubana. Ariko kuvuga umugabo kubyo ukunda, umubaze ibyerekeye - amahirwe akomeye yo kwerekana impuhwe ze kubabwira. Ariko kandi wibuke ingingo zombi zabujijwe kumatariki yambere ni umubano wa kera, politiki nibibazo. Byaba byiza, ingingo yambere ntabwo igira ingaruka.Kuba ibisanzwe
Mugugerageza kugirango umugabo ayikunda, ntugerageze guhuza ubwoko runaka. Bitinde bitebuke, uburiganya buzakingurwa kandi ibyo ntibizaganisha ku kintu cyiza. Byongeye kandi, birashoboka ko cavalier yawe atagomba kuryoherwa niyi shusho, ariko nyayo yawe irabifata. Noneho, ube karemano, ntukigabanye ubugingo ukavuga byose uko biri. Noneho, uzumva impuhwe umuntu, uzamenya neza ko aricyo gikwiye, ntabwo ari uruhare rwawe.
Niba umutima wawe ari ubuntu - shakisha igikomangoma cyawe
Ibi ntibisobanura ko ukeneye kuboko byose bikenewe hanyuma ujye gushakisha. Birakenewe gusa kuba umuntu ufunguye, reka gutinya abagabo, kubibaza. Tuvugana nabo mubwikorezi, kukazi nibindi bibanza rusange - ntutinye gusaba ubufasha bwumugabo ukunda, kurugero, bifasha gutanga imifuka iremereye cyangwa kwimura imyenda murugo. Kubisabwa nkibi bitari ngombwa, ikiganiro kizakurikiranwa, kandi ninde ubizi, wenda uyu mufasha kandi hari igice cyawe ...