Kwiheba ntabwo ari imyumvire mibi gusa, nkuko bimenyerewe, kandi nimpamvu nziza yo guhura na psychotherapiste. Yoo, intera yo mu mutwe ni "bihenze, kure kandi hari ukuntu umunebwe, cyane cyane duhitamo kurira mu ntera. Kandi rimwe na rimwe birafasha rwose. Rimwe na rimwe oya. Niki gishobora kuba kibi kuruta uko ibintu bimeze mugihe aho gushyigikira amagambo ya kashe - ibicucu nkumwuka wa mugitondo kuri televiziyo kandi uramba, nkinkuta ziri mu ivuriro ryabana?
1. Abantu benshi barakurenze Kandi benshi ni beza. Ese ibibazo byanjye birashira? Kugerageza kugereranya buri gihe bifatwa numuntu ubabaza numuntu muzima, kandi imbere yawe ubu umuntu afite intege nke. Ntushobora gushyigikira, guceceka neza. Cyangwa kora ibinyobwa bishyushye kubigisha byamatwi Sheldon cooper.
2. Ejo ubyumva Utekereza ko kwiheba ni utuntu duto dusinzira kandi ntabwo buri gihe tugaruka mugitondo? Urashobora kandi gutanga icyayi - mubice mubisanzwe birafasha, ariko imyitozo yerekana ko kwiheba bitanyura buri munsi. "Ahari ntuzoroha kandi ejo, ariko ndakwiriye kandi niteguye kuvuga," - byumvikana neza, sibyo?
3. Ubuzima ni akarengane Yego. Nshobora gukira muri ibi? Menyesha ibintu byihariye byabantu, ntukeneye ibivugwamo bidafatika.
4. Ugomba guhangana nibi Nanjye ndabyihanganira. Urashaka kumva, ntemeza gute kujya muri iyi si ya Shitty? Ibi byahamagariwe guhangana no kwiheba. Abadafite agaciro bitwa ukundi. Ugomba - ijambo ribi, byaba byiza kubuzwa. Muri iyi nteruro, igitutsi kitorohewe, gisomwa nka "uragoye kugerageza." Mugihe cyo kwiheba, igitutu cyubwibone ntabwo aribwo buryo bwiza bwo guterura. Hano ukeneye inkoni itavomera.
5. Ubuzima burakomeza! Ukuri? Noneho witwa uruziga rushya, rwa cumi? Ntukavuge koragaruka, batera isesemi. Bwira amakuru, nibabe beza kandi bishimishije inshuti yawe. Byifuzwa ko zirimo imbaraga zikorwa. Kurugero, ukuza kwitsinda ryakubabaje hamwe nigitaramo ni amakuru akomeye.
6. Nzi ko ubyumva, nagize kandi kwiheba ejo Kwiheba ntabwo ari ibintu bibi. Kandi oya, ntuzi icyo numva. Ntabwo kugerageza nabi, ariko biracyareka ngo dusubireho. Ati: "Nubwo mboneye vuba no kugira ibihe bitoroshye, nshobora gukeka gusa ibyo wumva."
7. Witwara wenyine Isonga aho yari arira imyaka icumi, rimwe na rimwe irashobora no kwerekana. Mu bihe bitesha umutwe, umuntu afite umutungo muto na we. Ntabwo ari kwikunda kuruhande rwawe noneho kugirango ubyiteho?
8. Ugomba guhagarika neza: Jya mubwato hanyuma utware. Kandi ufite ibyumweru bingahe byo gukora kugirango ukore? Ntabwo. Oya. Mumaze kubyumva.
9. Ndababaye kuri wewe Ndababaye kubyumva. Agahinda nikibazo cyawe. Kandi urayihindura inshuti - "fata nawe ikintu nari cyiza kureba." Reka twongere tugerageze: "Sinshobora kwiyumvisha ibyo wumva, ariko kundenka ko numva niwe."
10. Uratekereza ko iyi arimpamvu yo kwiheba? Utekereza ko kwiheba ari amahitamo umuntu akorera ku bushake? Rimwe na rimwe arabaho. Niba kwiheba byabaye - yego, iyi niyo mpamvu yo kwiheba. Ariko ntabwo buri gihe arimpamvu yayo.
11. Range! Kandi? Noneho uzanyicuza? Ntabwo buri gihe umuntu wo kwiheba yicuza akagisomerwa. Rimwe na rimwe, agerageza kumenya ibyiyumvo bye kandi atekereza cyane. Nta kibi kiri.
12. Ugomba gukina siporo Urashobora kundera mu buriri? Siporo irashobora gufasha rwose. Ariko kwiheba bikabije rimwe na rimwe bituma bidashoboka no gusohoka munzu. Ntuhite usaba igikorwa gikora kumuntu, musabe kuba umufasha. Reka gusa ufate gusa guhagarara. Erekana urugero, kandi hariya, ishyamba rizashidikanya.
13. Ugomba gusohoka kenshi Nawe. Urashobora kugenda nonaha. Hano hari paradox ibinyoma. Ku ruhande rumwe, ibikoresho byo kurwanya depression bitanga imibonano, ku rundi - baraduka kandi birushijeho kwihanganira. Itumanaho rigomba gufatwa no kwirinda abantu bafite uburozi. Nta gahato yo gushyikirana bidakwiye, gusa ubutumire bwo gukora sosiyete.
14. Abandi basohoka impamvu udashobora? Kuberako nshobora undi. Icyo badashobora gukora. Abantu bose baratandukanye. Dufite sisitemu itandukanye ifite ubwoba, ibikomere byabana bitandukanye, ubuzima butandukanye, amaherezo. Aho umuntu yunamye, undi arakwiye. Ariko umunsi umwe ararambiwe ahagaze, azavunika kandi agomba gusukurwa. Ibi ntibisobanura ko uwavunitse afite intege nke. Ahari, inzira, irakomeye cyane. Umubare woroshye wakusanyije.
15. Urakomeye, urashobora kwihanganira Yego. "Komeza" kandi ibyo byose. Amagambo asa - kugerageza gukuraho amarangamutima kumuntu wifashe. Inkunga isa nkaho itangwa, ishyirwaho imbaraga, reka ahangane. Ariko mubyukuri, inshuti yawe akeneye ubufasha. Kubwibyo, tanga gusa. Ikimenyetso gito kivuye ku mutima kizaba bihagije.