Inararibonye ku giti cye: Inyigisho no guhuza n'imihindagurikire ya Mama

Ati: "Uyu ni ukuba usangiye kuba umuntu gusa basangiye atari umukobwa gusa, ahubwo nanone," umuhanga mu by'imitekerereze yatangaje ku ruhande rwanjye ku nsanganyamatsiko y'insanganyamatsiko y'insanganyamatsiko y'insanganyamatsiko. Kandi afite ukuri. Tugomba gufata no kurokoka bidashobora kubaho kwabancuka n'ikuzimu bifitanye isano na we.

Amezi abiri yumukobwa wumukobwa rwose ni amezi abiri yumuriro wanjye. Nkeneye kuva ku mwana aho ari mubi, hamwe nabantu afite ubwoba. Kuri njye byatunguwe nicyo cyincuke itampa umudendezo bwite, kugirango ibi bitari kurekura ubuzima kuri njye, ahubwo ni umutwaro winyongera.

Nabwirijwe kwemera ko ishuri ryincuke ari sisitemu. Kandi nta mbaraga zanjye zizakora, nk'urugero, abagisha ikinyabupfura no gukundana, na Casserole ku nzoka ya nyuma ya saa sita iraryoshye. Harimo ubufasha bwamafaranga mumatsinda.

Ariko, inzira imwe cyangwa undi, nagombaga kwemera ibyo ntashobora guhinduka. Kandi kurokoka ubusambanyi bwabo. Natsinze imihindagurikire y'ikirere. Kimwe na ba nyina benshi badafite amahirwe yo guha umwana mubusitani bwihariye kubana, kandi bo, kimwe nanjye, bayobora umwana muri ubwo busitani bwami, butangwa - nta mahitamo. Kandi hano cyangwa amahirwe, cyangwa ntabwo ari amahirwe. Ntabwo twagize amahirwe cyane numukobwa wanjye.

Rero, kandi gusa, kandi ntakintu na kimwe

ICYEMEZO CY'INGINGO byanze bikunze no kudatsindwa byincuke nurufunguzo rwingenzi rwo gutsinda. Niba ntajijuka, uzarohama ushidikanya kandi wimpuhwe kumwana. Nibyo, umwana arababaje, ariko muburyo butandukanye. Kubwibyo, nubwo wicaye mucyumba cyo kwambarira igitero cyincuke hamwe numwana wangiza, mugihe umwana aratuza kandi atabona ko uzagenda, kandi umwana azagumaho.

Umutimanama utanduye

Fasha umwana mu kurwanya imihindagurikire y'ikirere: imihango yo gusezera n'inama, guhura n'amarangamutima n'umwana mu busitani hanyuma nyuma y'imyumvire kuri hysterics, ubufasha mu gushiraho abarezi - byingirakamaro na nyina. Kumenya ko wakoze ibintu byose biterwa nawe, biha imbaraga n'umutuzo.

Ndi Mama cyangwa Ntabwo Mama ?!

Icyizere nuko uburyo uhuza umwana mu busitani nibyiza kumwana wawe. Iki kintu kuri njye gikurikira uhereye kubanjirije kandi rusubira inyuma. Kwizera bituma ari byiza kuzigama imbaraga.

Nahagaze kuri gahoro gahoro no kubungabunga ikizere umubano ufunguye numwana, kubera ihohoterwa, harimo na psychologiya. Amarira, hysterics, kwigaragaza ibyiyumvo bibi biremewe. Nubwo bitari byoroshye kubamo, "gusya" ibyiyumvo byumwana ... ariko rero ubufasha bwa psychologue bwarafashijwe, - ikintu gikurikira. Na "postlade".

Ninde wo koga?

Byiza, nubwo bitahari buri gihe - ubufasha bwabantu bahuje ibitekerezo. Umuhanga mu by'imitekerereze y'abana yaramfashije. Hafi ya buri munsi nyuma yo kurota umukobwa mu busitani, nishingikirije kuri interineti. Kandi cyane basobanukiritse. Yamfashije kandi kumenya ko ibibazo by'ubusitani bitatewe n'umukozi wanjye cyangwa umukobwa, ariko imitungo ya sisitemu ya Pedagoge. Kandi ko ntakora ku bantu, ariko ibisobanuro birambuye bya Mechanism.

Kandi yafashaga inshuti - umuhanga mu burezi mu rugo. Yavuze ko yanyumvise, ko yego, birangoye cyane, arangirira impuhwe cyane ... kumpongora, natetse ikawa cyangwa nsuka ikawa cyangwa nsuka ububiko bwa divayi. Ati: "Nafashe ku mirimo" kandi muri rusange yahumurijwe muburyo bwose iyo nasangiye nyuma yikindi kiganiro numwarimu.

Ariko iki ni ikibazo cyanjye. Ahari wizeye guhura na sisitemu n'abarezi. Ni ngombwa ko inkunga y'abo cyangwa uwo wizeye yari.

Vuba vuba…

Icyago, ariko Ibyakozwe. Imyitozo yo kuruhuka. Gutuza ibitonyanga, icyayi cyangwa ibinini. Inzira y'amazi. Umwuka mwiza. Imyitozo ngororamubiri. Nakunze kuva mu ishuri ry'incuke n'amaguru. Mubisanzwe tujya mubusitani na bisi (ni ubuhe bwoko bw'ubusitani bwatanze ...), kugamuka intambwe yihuse muri sneakers nziza - iminota 30-35. Mu minsi mike igoye nageze mu nzu mu minota 20. Yafashe ubwogero, yikubita ku buriri ... Twari turira inshuro nyinshi, amarira nana aruhuka kandi atuze. Nimugoroba, baragenda buhoro hamwe n'umukobwa we, baryamye hamwe n'umukobwa we. Uruhinja rworohereza ubwato, massage, urugendo, kwiruka no gusimbuka nabyo birafasha, by the way.

Ubwisanzure

Ibyifuzo byambere kuberako ubwisanzure bushobora kandi "butabaho." Nibura, ubwambere ubwambere incuzi ntizirekurwa, ahubwo ni umutwaro winyongera. N'imyitwarire, n'umubiri, n'ibikoresho. Ntabwo nari niteguye gutya. Bihuye no kugura imyenda yo kudakaraba buri munsi, ifishi ku burezi bwumubiri, inkweto ntabwo ari igihangange / cyiza / cyiza, kandi ku buryo umukobwa ashobora guhangayikishwa no guhubuka) , byateje uburakari kandi bitateganijwe mu ngengo y'imari.

Kuba amezi abiri yambere yubusitani bizagihe cyo gukomeza kurwanya sisitemu, nabyo byaje gutungurwa.

Umunywa psychologue y'abana Liana Naboshivili agira inama Ababyeyi gutangira guhuza umwana mu busitani amezi 3-6 mbere yo kujya ku kazi (birumvikana, niba bose ari abantu bose): "Ikibabaje na bose Irwibutso ni inzira itateganijwe ifite umubare munini wibihinduka: Ugomba kuzirikana ibintu byumwana, imyaka, imiterere yababyeyi, nuburyo bwimirimo yabagenzi mu ishuri ry'incuke, nibindi byinshi. N'umwana umwe udafite ingorane zidasanzwe zinjiye muri sisitemu yo mu busitani, ikindi gikeneye ibyumweru bike cyangwa amezi kugirango amenyereye, bityo rero yifuzwa kugira ikigega runaka "kuri Maneuver".

Kuki byose bikenewe?

Amasomo afatika yiga nayo afasha - binyuze mu gushyira mu gaciro ibintu no gukuramo. Ni iki cyampaye cyane kubijyanye no kubijyanye n'incuke ry'umukobwa?

Icyizere gikomeye mubushobozi bwawe no mu burenganzira bw'ababyeyi. Ubushobozi bwo kwishyiriraho umwana wawe no kurengera imipaka yacu. Iki ni kimwe mubyo byagezweho cyane. Igihe umwarimu avuga ati: "Noneho usobanurira umwana ko umwana yumvise nabi, ntabwo ndahiye, ariko ndavuga cyane, ariko sinzabwira umwana wanjye ko atumva ko atibeshye. "

Ba inshuti, ube inshuti ... ariko ube ushyira mu gaciro

Kandi n'ibyo dufite, ikibabaje, nticyakoze - umubano n'abarimu. Niba bishoboka, bisaba ubwo busabane kugirango ushire kandi ukomeze. Iyo umwana abonye ko Mama avugana numurezi, biramworohera guhindura no gutandukana nababyeyi be. Kandi nyina biroroshye kuva mu mwana mu busitani.

Liana Nordooshvili: "Ni ngombwa kugerageza gushaka uburinganire hagati yo kurengera amahame yayo no gukosora, imikoranire yubaha. Rwose ntugomba gutegereza ko umuntu yegera umwana mu ishuri ry'incuke - mu itsinda iryo ari ryo ryose, inyungu nyinshi zizaba iy'ingenzi kuruta inyungu z'umuntu utandukanye. " Ndi mu rugamba rwo kureba ko umwana ari mwiza, yagerageje kugera ku buryo ku giti cye. Ibiteganijwe bifatika nurundi rufunguzo rwo gutsinda.