Ntuye mumubiri wundi. Dysphoria: Mugihe uzi neza aya magambo asobanura

Abahanga mu by'inararibonye bakorana n'abagore baravuga kuri Dysphoriya y'umubiri, bigira abantu benshi hamwe na xx chromosomes kuruta guhagararirwa. Twabajije umuhanga mu by'imitekerereze Asu Mikheev kuvuga kuri Dysphoriya kubasomyi bacu.

Mubisanzwe "Dyspfiria" ni euphoria kubinyuranye. Ibisanzwe biratandukanye muburyo bumwe, gusa muburyo bunyuranye. Kandi kimwe na euphoria, dysphoriya irashobora kugira impamvu zitandukanye - iyi ntabwo ari indwara, ni ikimenyetso.

Umukunzi wumubiri yitwa imitekerereze nkiyi aho umuntu adashobora kwakira umubiri we nkigice cye "Njye". Ikibazo cyihariye kandi cyiza cyane cya Dysphoria ya Dadily - Umukunzi wuburinganire, iyo umubiri utari uko umeze nkuko bimeze, ariko byumwihariko ni irihe tegeko. Ibi birashobora guherekezwa no kumva ko ubabaye cyane "Kuki bamwe mu ndorerwamo rudasanzwe mu ndorerwamo?" Cyangwa uburakari "umurambo wakonje, nzagusenya," ariko ntitwongerera ubuzima nubucuti kubishoboka byose.

Icyizere ko "ari rwose si jye" mushobora kwihanganira hose, no guhunga kuri gender undi si bibi Ihitamo ugereranyije warwaye, zikwereka na kwisiga kubagwa, kwibabaza no kwiyahura. Kandi imitekerereze ikomeye ntabwo irimbura ikintu cyose kururu rutonde.

Umukunzi wa Dadily, cyane cyane cyane, ni (neza, ibyo ugereranije ni ibintu) ibitera imiterere ya tekiniki gusa. Kurugero, ubudakomeye bwa hormone, Schizofrenia cyangwa igihano kivunitse cyimibonano mpuzabitsina - mugihe umuntu, mukugaragara kw'ibitekerezo by'umupfakazi "bihinduka umuntu wa chromosoosonal ubangamiye iterambere ry'iterambere ry'imibereho. Kuri Schizophrenia, umukunzi wa dysphoriya nayo ntabwo ari uguhuza cyane (gregor "kafki ibuka?). Ariko abantu bibaho hamwe numutwe wuzuye winkoko kandi icyarimwe kwemerwa byuzuye umubiri wabo; Kandi abakobwa bibaho kurwego ruhe rwa testosterone abatuye bifuza kubohereza kugirango babeho mu ngabo zo mu kirere - ariko icyarimwe, kandi banyuzwe rwose kandi banyuzwe rwose nubunini nuburyo bushimishije. Kandi byuzuye, byuzuye abagore bazabwira imyifatire myinshi mumaso "ntabwo umurwayi wanjye!", Korali ya genetike nana bana bazavuga bati "Nukuri umugore!" Ndetse no gusesengura imisemburo yigitsina ntigushidikanya. Kandi bo, bisa nkaho ari ibisanzwe, guhora bajya muri iyi euphoria kubinyuranye. Kandi byose kuko umubiri atari. Rimwe na rimwe na rimwe na rimwe, nibyo rwose. Tits? Ntabwo aribyo. Izuru ryimuwe? Yanyoye igifu? Imitsi ya SUMPED? Naguze Stapon kandi navuwe imbere yindorerwamo? Na none ntabwo ... Oh! Tugomba kumeneka indogobe!

Ikikije urwenya, ariko ntabwo gisekeje. Afifike, amaguru atandatu yifotoje arababara ku gishishwa cya chitinular. Reka ndekure muri ibi. Hari ukuntu. Urahawe ikaze. Reka bibe byiza kuri Schizofrenia - byibuze barabifata. Kandi asa nkaho ari cogs zose mumutwe aho, ariko mububiko gusa kubwimpamvu runaka ihita ijya kureba ingano S. nubwo hari byinshi, imyaka myinshi irwana na L. Ariko iyi ni ... Ntabwo ari njye. Ntibishoboka ko ari njye.

Kuruhande rwa Dyspfia ntakibazo cyo guhangayika cyo kwitandukanya umubiri. Ngaho, byibuze, umubiri wawe ntutemekera cyangwa uburakari kumuntu. Umuntu gusa ntumwiteho. Hafi nko ku gifuniko cya gari ya moshi, aho agenda ku kazi. Guhanuka rwose hano indi gari ya moshi ntabwo ari ngombwa, nibindi - ni irihe tandukaniro. Aho ndi, kandi iyi modoka iri he, ntakintu gihuriweho. Imiterere nziza cyane, cyane cyane mugihe ukenewe, udafite umubano wihariye, abantu batandukanye nabo bakora. Gutandukanya n'umubiri biranga moteri byamugaye, indaya kandi bishyiraho ababyeyi ba ba nyina. "Uzaswera - ntukabeshye." Yego, yego, ni.

Hariho impamvu zibiri zituma twese murwego rumwe cyangwa undi twahuye no kwishima gufata umubiri.

Ubwa mbere, twese twatsinze rubiro mugihe umurambo utunguranye, utabangamiye intambara, atangira kwimuka kuruhande rudateganijwe. Kandi nubwo utareba mu ndorerwamo imyaka myinshi - imyenda iracyatitonda, shoal n'ibikoresho birashonje, inkweto ziguruka, buto iguruka, ikuramo imvange y'injangwe, tar na munzani w'amafi. Mbere, ntabwo byari! Niki? ... kandi niba ubonye ubutwari ukareba mu ndorerwamo? Ndetse n'abo bahanganye kandi bishimye batagukubise ibinure ndetse n'uruhu rwakomeje kugira isuku - basanga izuru ridasanzwe, imiyoboro aho udakeneye, atari ku maso yose akaba na Ouzas irambiranye umusatsi w'amabara.

Ariko ikintu kimwe cyaba kibi. Mu kurangiza, iyo ugishijwe, ntabwo umubiri uhinduka gusa. Nibyiza ko tumaze kurasa neza ibyifuzo bivuye kubyo ikinyugunyugu kigomba kuguruka mubipupe by'ingimbi. Byumvikanye n'uburiganya bwitondewe.

Ubundi se, nigute wubatse ibyateganijwe kubyerekeye ejo hazaza h'umubiri umukobwa uri hagati (ni ukuvuga umuhinzi) ni mu myaka magana abiri ishize? Mu bwogero, buri cyumweru. Mu myaka cumi n'itanu nzagereranya nka mushiki wanjye Mosa. Mirongo itatu na gatanu ni kimwe na mama ubu. Mirongo ine na bitanu - nka nyirasenge. Kuri mirongo itandatu - nka nyogokuru. Niba umuryango ufite ibintu birenze kimwe (Nyirasenge Massha n'umutwe ni inguni, n'amaguru mato, kandi mushikiwabo Annie, Umunyamisogwe Ba inkuru yororoka kwa Data kandi Azamera nka nyirasenge, kandi wenda muri nyina - kandi azamera nka nyina. Ihitamo risa nkirondo rya Jean Baker - ntabwo!

Reka tugereranye uburyo umukobwa abona umubiri wambaye ubusa, igice cyuzuye kandi cyambaye gato mucyumweru, kandi ni bangahe muriyi nzego bafite genootype isanzwe hamwe numukobwa? Nibyo, kuba inyangamugayo - ni bangahe mu mibiri y'abagore batweretse muri rusange bifitanye isano na KhomosapiEns, kandi ntabwo ari amafoto yemewe ya Photoshop?

Kandi abagore bakuze bakuze begereye genotoype yumukobwa ntabwo yiteguye cyane kwambara iruhande rwe. Ni ibishishwa. Ntakintu nakimwe cyo kureba hano! Tanga igitambaro!

Kandi umukobwa rimwe na rimwe yemeza - reba nk'igifuniko - cyiza kandi cyiza, kandi mu nzira ntakintu giteye ubwoba, cyatsinze, inkingi z'umuhanda zimanikwa, hari imodoka. Birasa na mama - biteye ubwoba kandi bigomba gutwikirwa. Genetics kutita ku kwamamaza, kandi adukiza ibyo birenge n'indogobe, mushiki wa nyina. Cyangwa guhuza na barumuna be babiri.

Noneho, amaherezo, ni iyo mico yumuntu usanzwe yabantu (cyane cyane igitsina gore isa nkaho iterwa nubutunguranye kandi biteye ubwoba - iyo myaka icumi ishize yarimbuwe neza mumashusho. Uyu munsi, urugamba ruzana na selile n'umusatsi ku mubiri - kandi nyirakuru na ba nyirakuru bumvise bikabije bikabije, umusatsi ugororotse n'ibirenge byinshi. Ibuka amateka ya bashiki bacu ba Cinderella? Ntabwo rero, ibi ntabwo ari ibitekerezo. Gura inkweto kumanini abiri make "kuri elegance" - ni ingingo nyayo. Hanyuma ugende, yego. Kandi wizere "skisi yacitse." Ndetse bambaye isoni zo kureba ububiko ku bunini bwa Kavukire 39, cyane cyane ko mu gihe habaye abahungu na bote gusa. Kandi imiyoboro yahinduye icyatsi cyose, kugeza kuri chlorine. Tekereza wenyine - "Umweru" mu maso.

Ariko mbwira noneho imyambarire yerekeye ugukubita akarere ka Bikini - yari gucika intege.

Nibyo. Hamwe nabana birasobanutse - jya ku mucanga hamwe inshuro nyinshi no muri pisine. Nyirakuru ntiyibagirwe kujyana nawe. Kubijyanye no gushushanya diva ntukibagirwe kukwibutsa ko bashushanywa, kandi mubyukuri ntibibaho. Kuri enterineti, yuzuye abambuzi uburyo bafata amafoto imana, abana b'ibitsina byombi ntibishoboye gushakisha ibitwenge, no gutekereza.

Kandi icyo kijyanye nawe? Hamwe na Melancholy, ibikikirizaho, ubugingo buguruka, nizeye kubwimpamvu runaka iyi nyama zihishe, nayo isaba kwitabwaho? Ninde ugomba kugoreka, ifuro (kandi iracyashaka, ntabwo ishaka), muburyo bwemewe mu mibereho, ntibirenze, bitarengerwa na byose? Iyi nyandiko, urimo gutwara, bareba kandi bakabyifatamo (kandi ibyawe imbere muri kalile, ntabwo abantu bose bashobora gukeka). Kubyara, cyane cyane baratangijwe numuryango wuje urukundo ("cyane cyane?") - Ntabwo rwose ari byiza. Umubiri, ukomoka mubitekerezo muri "progentage idasanzwe", wambuwe uburyo bwo gutegura kubimenyesha ibyo umubiri ukeneye. Nkigisubizo, tugomba kumenya icyo ishaka, dukurikije ibimenyetso bitaziguye. Ndashaka gusinzira, "kandi" Nzongera kugura ku rukuta, "Nashakaga kunywa," na "Ntabwo nanditse ijwi n'ejo, sinifuza ko ibyo biryo" kandi "Nibyo, na none, na none muri Acne". Cyangwa wumve (neza, mugihe muri gatatu yongeye kuvugurura, ntabwo ari hafi, yewe oya, ntabwo ari hafi) kuko ikintu cyose kigiye guhobera, hanyuma uhobera, Byose, by, mu irimbi rya Agness Ivanovna yabonye, ​​umwibuke?

Ni iki gishobora gukorwa?

Mu kugereranya kwambere - fata umubiri ibaho, n'icyo aricyo. Ntabwo ukunda (ubu ni bwo buryo bwiza) - kandi, kurugero, nkamatungo yawe. By the way, mwiza. Kandi mwiza, reba, mbega ukuntu mbi. Muburyo, nkikintu gisa nabantu ukunda - ikintu kuri mama, ikintu kumuhungu wanjye.

Ntukamubabaza. Tekereza, wagukomeza nta kinyobwa kimwe \ pee amasaha umunani, kurugero, injangwe? Wagaburira ifarashi hamburger? Gukomera ku mbwa umukandara hakurya y'inda ku mwobo uko ari eshatu nziza?

Hariho abantu badakunda igitekerezo cy '"amatungo", ariko nka "nkaho umubiri wanjye ari umwana wanjye." Birashoboka. Urashobora, nkuko ubishaka, gusa uvuye mumubiri kugirango ugire ubwenge umuyoboro w'itumanaho wagaragaye. Kuba umuntu muri dayphoriya yifata ibimenyetso urusaku cyangwa gusenyuka ni ukubona nkibisabwa mubuzima. Gake gake kurenza twe ubwacu, ariko rwose. Ahari ubuzima bwangiritse. "Unywa itabi ndashaka" - kandi icyo gukora, ntibishoboka kureka itabi kubantu benshi, ariko reka dukureho kuruhuka undi munsi? Kandi ndabijya kubice bituje kandi turimo kubira ibyuya-i-m, urashaka? Kandi amazi yabadamu arakonje?

"Ndashaka ibirayi bikaranze" - Ibirayi neza? Cyangwa birashoboka ko amavuta yabyibushye, amavuta ya elayo arashaka? Nibyiza, ibirayi bimaze rwose - cyangwa birashoboka ko dutsindira file?

Mubyukuri, isura, niba tubibona nka "Uyu ni umubiri wanjye kavukire, ntibishoboka kubibabaza," nanone bigaragara ko ari bike, ariko byoroshye. Nibyo, yego, ntabwo ari byiza kandi ndetse na Rihanna. Nibyiza, kandi kwibanda, ntakibazo, ntukave muri Afuganisitani. Reka dukore kure gusa, dutunganijwe, dugaburiwe, kwishimisha foxterier. Kandi ugomba gukora - wishimye, usukuye, ufite isuku hanze. Kugenda, icara, ube mwiza muri uyu mubiri, mwiza kandi ushimishije.

Kandi iyo bimaze igihe "Condy, byoroshye kandi byishimye" bizahinduka ibisanzwe mubintu, mubisanzwe nabo ubwabo ntibashobora kwangirika "gukurura, guhagarara kandi byiza." Nibiba ngombwa, birumvikana. Rimwe na rimwe, ingingo eshatu za mbere nazo zihindura ubuzima bwabo n'ubushake bwo kuba umwe hamwe n'ibinyabuzima byabo.

By the way, amagambo "umubiri" na "byose" ni igihe kimwe. Bikomeye.