Kandi, rimwe na rimwe witegure ibibazo bya Tricky.
Vuba aha, hamwe n'umuhungu wo hagati twagiye saa sita muri McDonalds. Namuhaye uburenganzira bwo gutumira mama wese mu maresitora z'ibanze, na amaherezo turahindukira hanze kuba hari. Turi tuganira ku ishuri, inshuti ze rishya ndengakamere, hanyuma bukwi na bukwi bararuciye bararumira, utekereza atwika Polangamburger aramubaza:
- Mama, n'uwo ukunda cyane, njye, Stanley cyangwa Edward?
Ikibazo classic, nzi, ariko numva ko ari bwo bwa mbere, kuva umusaza rimwe babazaga, ariko umuto aracyari kure filozofiya nk'iyo.
Hanyuma nashimishijwe nibitabo bijyanye no kureremba nasomye. Reka byinshi biguruke mumutwe, ariko shingiro - ntuzigere uvuga ngo "Ndagukunda kimwe" - gufatirwa neza.
Nubwo rimwe na rimwe byatekerezaga ko bisa nkaho aricyo gisubizo cyumvikana kandi cyukuri. Ati: "Mwese muri kimwe kuri njye no kuri papa, bana nkunda, mwese muri kimwe mu buzima bwacu kandi ntitukashyiraho amatungo," birasa, igisubizo kibishoboye, kikaba igaragara ahantu hangana.
Ariko bana, bihinduka egocentric, nibibazo byubutabera nuburinganire kuri barumuna babo na bashiki babo, iyo basabye ikibazo cyurukundo rwababyeyi, ubarure cyane.
Biragaragara ko iyo umwana abajije ati: "Ukunda cyane, Mama, njye cyangwa bashiki banjye," arashaka kumva ibye gusa, kumwihariko, ibyo byiyumvo uhura nabyo.
Kandi nk'uko umuntu kubahirizwa arambwira n'abanditsi mu, Adel Faber na Ellen Mazlish, uburinganire mu byerekeye abana mu magambo accumulates insobanuro yabo ndetse humiliates. Nk'ibiryo byo gutekereza mu gitabo "Bavandimwe na bashiki bacu. Nigute wafasha abana bawe kubana "bazanwa amateka magufi.
"Umugore ukiri muto ahindukirira umugabo we kandi atunguranye arabaza:
- Kandi ninde ukunda cyane, njye cyangwa nyoko?
Umugabo asubiza ati: "Ndagukunda kimwe," umugabo asubiza kandi akagenda ku bibazo bikomeye.
Agomba kuvuga ati: "Mama ni mama. Kandi uratangaje, umugore mwiza nifuza kubaho ubuzima bwanjye bwose. "
Nuko abana, igihe tuvuga ku buringanire no "kimwe" mu byiyumvo byabo, tuba equalize abana byambura nk'isano yabo. Ariko abantu bose bifuza kuba umwihariko kandi utandukanye nabandi.
Kandi ibi ntibireba gusa ikibazo kijyanye nurukundo rwababyeyi, ahubwo gikora gusa ku rukundo rw'ababyeyi, ariko kandi umubare w'incamafu ku isahani, kandi umwanya umaranye ku giti cyanjye hamwe na buri mwana, kandi ku ruhande rw'umubyeyi, azicara ku buriri.
Umwana kunyurwa nyamukuru byamarangamutima ye, ntabwo ari kugereranya na barumuna.
Kimwe: gufata na e. Mazlish yasabye ibi bikurikira interuro aho gukoresha ibisanzwe bingana. Kurugero:
imwe. "Aho kugabana ibintu byose kimwe (" ufite inzabibu nyinshi, nka mushiki wawe ") ...
Reka buri wese akeneye: "Utanga inzabibu eshanu cyangwa itsinda ryose?"
2. Aho kugaragaza urukundo nk'urwo ( "ndagukunda nk'uko nk'uko mushiki wawe") ...
Erekana umwana ko ubikunda muburyo budasanzwe: "Ni wowe isi yonyine muri rusange, nta muntu uzashobora gufata umwanya wawe."
3. Aho kuriha abana bingana amafaranga igihe ( "ngiye kumara iminota icumi na mushiki wawe, hanyuma iminota icumi namwe") ...
Fata umwanya kugirango ukeneye rwose: Ati: "Nzi ko nakoraga igihe kirekire hamwe n'ibitabo bya mushiki wawe. Iyi nyandiko ni ingenzi kuri we. Ndangije, ndashaka kumenya icy'ingenzi kuri wewe. "
Kandi nubwo nyina cyangwa se afite Pet, imiti neza bizatuma gukurwako ugutsindwa kwiyagiriza na, ashimangira Ibiranga na imbaraga buri abana, gutanga wese kumva nkunda kandi rukomeye.
Kandi uwo munsi, ku sita, jewe nabona mwene wanjye utuje ati amwenyura:
- Mfite gusa umwe Robert, umwe gusa nka igitangaza kandi gitangaje mwana uwo nshimishijwe cyane gusangira munsi. Ndagukunda cyane, cyane, kandi nkunda cyane iyo tumaranye umwanya.
Yaramwenyuye, arumye a Hamburger ambwira inshuti ye nshya ku ishuri, izina rye ni Messi, ndetse n'umukinnyi w'umupira w'amaguru ...
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