Urashaka abashakanye bishimye, uribaza ibanga ryabo? Bamwe mu ba psychologue bagaragaje ingeso 11 zikomeye byanze bikunze bahari mumiryango yabafatanyabikorwa bishimye. Witegereze byoroshye, kandi ibisubizo ntibizatera gutegereza.
1. Erekana buri gihe uko ushima undi
Umubano mwiza ushingiye kumarangamutima meza, umugereka nubucuti. Buri mufatanyabikorwa ashaka kwerekana kenshi bishoboka nkuko ari ngombwa kuri we. Kandi kubwibyo ntibikenewe ikintu ndengakamere, cyane cyane, gusa ube umurava. Kureka ikindi kintu cyiza, andika ubutumwa kubyo utekereza kuri mugenzi wawe. Kora ibintu byiza byishimira ibyo ukunda. Mu kuza kuri psychotherapiste, abashakanye benshi binubira ko undi atazi icyo mugenzi akora ibyo akunda. Ariko ube ingenzi kumuntu, kimwe mubikenewe byibanze bya buri muntu.2. Mubyifuzo bishimishije biratongana
Ndetse no mubashakanye bishimye harimo amahane, ntaho bagiye, ariko bakeneye gutongana neza. Ubuyobozi bwimibare iboneye mugihe habuze kunegura, ibitutsi, kwirengagiza. Bizatwara umwanya muto, kandi uzabigira hejuru, ariko hatigera wibagirwa. Noneho, gerageza gukomeza ibirenze mugihe gitongana nawe, umenye ko amagambo mabi yose muri aderesi yumufatanyabikorwa yavukiye mu gukandamizwa, kandi ntabwo ari imiti.
3. Buri gihe saba icyo ukeneye
Kenshi na kenshi, abahanga mu bya politiki bagomba kumva ibirego umukundwa / abakundwa atazi icyo igice cyabo gishaka. Byongeye kandi, barizera kandi ko nibabakunda, byanze bikunze bari bazi kandi barabikora. Ni ngombwa gusobanukirwa ikintu kimwe - abantu basanzwe ntabwo bafite impano ya Telepati, ni ngombwa cyane kuvuga umufatanyabikorwa kubyo akeneye, uburyohe nibyifuzo. Kandi rimwe na rimwe, cyane cyane kurwego rwambere, rugomba gusubiramo inshuro nyinshi - kandi nibi nibisanzwe. Aho kubabaza n'umuntu wakundaga "kwambara," kugerageza kuvuga gusa ibyifuzo byanjye no kumubaza.4. Erekana umukunzi wawe
Umuntu wese agaragaza urukundo rwe muburyo bwe. Kubantu ni guhoberana, kumuntu, amagambo, ariko kubindi bikorwa nimpano. Hashobora kandi kuba abantu muri babiri, bagaragara muburyo butandukanye no kwigaragaza kandi ni ngombwa cyane kumenya uko bumva uyu mufasha. Niba uri umusenzi impano n'amagambo, kandi umugabo wawe ahitamo ibikorwa, hanyuma ukereke ibyiyumvo byawe ubifashijwemo nibikorwa nibimenyetso. Uburyo nk'ubwo ku giti cye buragufasha guhora dukomeza umushyitsi mu mibanire.
5. Kora imirimo hamwe
Umubare munini cyane w'amakimbirane yose muri coupri ziri ku ngingo yo murugo, ni ukuvuga ikibazo cyo gukora icyo murugo. Ariko mubashakanye kwishimye kubera ibyo ntibarahiye, bakora byose hamwe. Kurugero, niyo yaba umugabo adakunda gukaraba amasahani, azabikora kugirango umukunzi we yari mwiza. Urashobora kwicara kumeza yo kuganira hanyuma uganire ninde uzakemura. Ninde ubizi, wenda mumugabo wawe uba Umwuka wubwoba, kandi azishimira gutegura ibyo arimo gutegura amasahani.6. Shimira intwaro
Kugira ngo ukomeze idyll mu mibanire, itumanaho ni ngombwa cyane, nyamara, ntabwo ari ngombwa kugabanya akamaro k'amaboko. Abahanga bagaragaje ko mugihe cyo guhura na tactile mumubiri, imisemburo ya oxytocine, ikaba zitwa "imisemburo y'urukundo". Afite uruhare runini mumibanire yimitekerereze hagati yabafatanyabikorwa. Oxytocine igabanya ububabare bw'umubiri, bugira uruhare mu gushimangira ubudahangarwa, ihuza abantu no gukuraho imitekerereze yo mu mutwe. Kubwibyo, akenshi abashakanye bahobera no kuvugana kumubiri, imibanire yabo.
7. Vuga kubibazo
Umuntu yakoreshwaga kugirango yirinde kuganira kubibazo, kwizera witonze ko igihe kizaba cyakorwa ubwacyo. Nuburyo busa bukora muburyo bunyuranye. Kwambara byoroha uko ibintu bimeze - ikibazo kiriyongera cyane, gitangira kurakara no gutemba mumakimbirane. Ntugomba gutegereza kugeza ibirunga byakangutse - ndetse nibibazo bito nibyiza kubihagarika umufatanyabikorwa ako kanya.8. Witegereze imipaka
Niba imipaka yumuntu atubahirijwe muri couple - ntihazabaho umunezero. Hamwe nubufasha bwimbibi, urashobora kumva aho urangiza kandi umukunzi wawe atangira. Ibintu nkibi nabyo bigomba kuganirwaho nabakunzi, abantu bose bazashobora guhaza ibyo bakeneye batabyangiritse. Abahanga mu by'imitekerereze yizihiza ubwoko 3 bw'imipaka:
- Amarangamutima: Ni ikihe gihe cyo kubana, muri societe ya buri wese, kandi bitandukanye cyane.
- Umubiri: Niki kandi nicyo hazabaho imibonano mpuzabitsina, kimwe ninshuro zo gukoraho.
- Virtual: Birakwiye guhuza uruziga rwinshuti, niba guhindura imiterere murubuga rusange, ni kangahe guhuza ku ngingo yimibanire.
Ibi bintu bisa nkaho bito, bigira ingaruka cyane kumikoranire.
9. Ikuzimu gusaba imbabazi no kubabarira
Hatabayeho ubushobozi bwo kubabarira, ntibazashobora kurokoka umubano - iki nikimwe mubintu byingenzi byubuterane bwamahoro. Iyo umuntu asabye, byerekana ko amenya ikosa rye kandi azagerageza kubikora kandi ntagikeneye. Kandi umuntu mwiza yumva uko ibintu bimeze, yemera kandi yibagirwe ibyabaye, ntibikiri kwibuka ibyabaye. Mu mibanire ishimishije, abantu ntibigeze bahagarika ikibazo cyerekana ko bafatanaga.10. Kuruhuka
Ni ngombwa cyane mubucuti no gukomeza kuringaniza hafi no kwigenga. Ndetse no kubana, ibuka ko umugozi utamanutse kumucyo we yakundaga, uracyafite ubuzima bwihariye, inyungu zanjye ziragumaho. Ugomba kubaha umwanya wawe bwite, ntuzuzuze isi yose yumukunzi wawe. Nyuma yo kumara umwanya hanze yumuryango, uzarambirwa, kandi ibi bizagira ingaruka nziza kumubano. Kubwibyo, wige kwishimira ubuzima muri sosiyete kandi wizere uwo ukunda.
11. Gusaba ubufasha
Mu mibanire myiza, nibisanzwe mugihe bashaka ubufasha niba hari ikintu gishoboka kubikora wenyine. Guhumuriza hamwe kuri psychologue, kureba amahugurwa kumibanire yumuryango, nibindi. Ntawatinya kubaza Inama Njyanama, ntamuntu ufite isoni mubibazo, ntabwo yumva ubusuka kandi ntamagana undi.