Mu gikari cya XXI ikinyejana cya XXI, kandi uyu munsi ntawe uzavuga neza ko igihe cya Usssr, ngo "nta mibonano mpuzabitsina mu gihugu." Ukuhaba kwe kurumva hose: muri muzika, ibitabo, ibikoresho, firime, kwamamaza. Umuganda ku mbuga nkoranyambaga zitera insanganyamatsiko yimbitse, abagabo n'abagore ntibahisha umubare w'abafatanyabikorwa, gusangira amakuru y'ibigori. Nubwo umudendezo uriho, gusenya ugereranije na stereotypes nyinshi, kugeza ubu hari umurongo muto hagati ya "Wowe Macho!" Na "ah, wowe ... uburozi!".
Niba ko umuntu aranga, byingenzi ndetse nibisanzwe kugira imizigo yumuyaga, noneho umugore ufite "umukire" nka Kosos abahagarariye igitsina gikomeye. "Tikhoni" -Gutsinda, abo mukorana, uburwayi bwo mu mutwe ndetse igira ishyari, n'ishyari mu mutwe, ndetse igira ishyari, kandi ibya nyogosha ku ntebe birashobora guceceka - hano byose birasobanutse.
Kuki abagabo bashobora kugira umubare munini wabasambanyi, bashima urutonde rwinshi rwa "intsinzi", naho abakobwa kugeza ubu bafite agasuzuguro biteye isoni? Ibi byatewe nibintu byinshi byabaye amateka.
Abakurambere - ishingiro ry'ubusumbane hagati y'abagabo n'abagore ubu hari urugamba rw'abagore ku mwanya umwe ku bagabo. Ariko ntabwo buri gihe byari bimeze. Abakurambere ni ibintu bishobora kugaragara mu bihugu byinshi kugeza na n'ubu, cyane cyane mu burasirazuba. Uburyo nkubwo bwimibanire isobanura ubwinshi bwumugabo muri byose. Yitabira muri politiki, ubukungu, ni ubutware bw'imyitwarire, bugenzura umutungo kandi muri rusange bisaba kugandukira muri byose.
Abahanga bavuga ko icyitegererezo cya sosiyete cyagaragaye mu myaka igera ku 4000 mbere yigihe cyacu. Umugore yari akwiye kuba yumviye umuntu muri byose, kuko yari awe muri we. We, uwo rero avuga, yinjije muzima, yica mammose y'inzirakarengane, no mu buvumo yari ategerejwe n'umurinzi w'ibanze, wagombaga gukurikira inzu.
Aristote mu nyandiko ze yavuze ko abagore bafite ubumuga ugereranije n'abagabo, ntabwo bireba ku ruhande rumwe gusa, ahubwo n'abanyabwenge n'imyitwarire. Kubitekerezo bye, guhamagarira "intege nke igice cy'ubumuntu ni ugukora umurimo w'imyororokere, ukorere umugabo we.
Mu bihugu bimwe, ibyo bita "kugura" umugore w'ejo hazaza. Umukwe yatanze se w'umugeni wumugeni wumugeni, bityo amubona uburenganzira. Gushyingirwa byinshi byari kurwanya ubushake. Niba umuntu yashoboraga kurongora inshuro nyinshi, umugore yambuwe amahirwe yo kongera gushaka. Nyuma y'urupfu rw'umugabo we, yabaye umuryango utari muto kandi akenshi yarengereye amaboko, nk'uko ubuzima bwe ntacyo yari afite.
Kugira ngo ukomeze icyitegererezo cy'umuryango w'abakurambere, byari ngombwa kwemeza kuvuka kw'abazungura no kwimura nyirubwite rw'imibavu y'abakomokaho. Byashobokaga kubikora bishobora kuba binyuze mu kwamburwa umugore wubwisanzure bwo guhitamo imibonano mpuzabitsina, ibishoboka by'ubuzima bwigenga butagira uhagarariye igitsina gikomeye. Amategeko, ibibujijwe byakozwe, mu nyigisho z'amadini byasobanuwe mu buryo burambuye ishusho y'umugore agomba kuba bityo ayo mategeko yahujwe na sosiyete, yakuwe mu gisekuru kugera mu kindi.
Kuki bashobora, ariko ntidushobora?
Nyuma ya byose byavuzwe haruguru muri rusange, biba biteye ubwoba, gute byashimishije muri iki gihe. Ariko umukurambere yasize uruhara runini ku bagore, kubera ko urusaku rwe ruracyumvikana kugeza ubu. Kubera impamvu nyine, umugabo akwiye gukunda gukora ibikorwa byinshi societe izabikora. Niba asize abana - birashobora kumvikana, ariko birakwiye guta umwana wawe umukobwa, azabona "cuckoo" ubuziraherezo.
Ikindi nyigisho avuga ko umugabo ari umugabo, mu nzira y'ubwihindurize agerageza "gufumba" nk "igitsina gore". Ihindura ibikoresho bye, bityo bituma umwanya wabyo muri societe, twiganje mubandi "bagabo". Ubwihindurize bwatekereje ko umugore agomba guhitamo abagabo beza batandukanijwe no kuba hejuru yumubiri. Niba kandi uhagarariye imbaraga adashobora guhitamo cyane, noneho abafatanyabikorwa bakurikiza abafatanyabikorwa, bakirinda abanyantege nke kandi badafite ubuzima bwiza bari mumuryango. Kuvuga rero guhitamo bisanzwe.
Niba witondera societe igezweho, noneho abakobwa benshi bahitamo kuvugana nabafite agaciro. Abagabo bashidikanya kubijyanye nibintu, bahamagara abagore bagurisha. Mu bahagarariye igice gikomeye kandi bafite ababa kuri konti yabandi, ariko bitwa inyuguti, ariko ibintu bidasanzwe.
Urashobora gufata umwanzuro. Muri rusange, ntakintu gishaka guta ubuzima bwawe nkuko ubishaka, guhindura abasakura ibitsina buri kwezi, niba wumva ko wishimiye ibi.
Gusa ubutegetsi butatemewe ni: Abagabo rwose bazahitamo abadafite amahirwe. Birumvikana, niba tuvuga abantu beza, ba nyakubahwa.
Birashoboka ko hari uruta umugore, kuko ntabwo ari ubusa ko ashoboye guha ubuzima kumuntu mushya. Amaherezo, urubanza ruri mu mico myiza, ubwisanzure mu mutimanama. Ku muntu, ni ibisanzwe kwirata imizigo itanga ubuzima bwite, abandi baceceka mu buryo bworoheje. Ntakintu cyiza kandi iyo umugabo asinziriye ibumoso bwose. Ibi ntibishushanya imico ye bwite, ariko byerekana gusa ko agerageza kwemeza inzira. Kubwibyo, abagore bahitamo abafatanyabikorwa bakwiriye ubwabo kugirango nta skeleti iri mu kabati.