Mu kuba umuntu mukuru, abantu bose bumva ko nta cyiza cyiza muri kamere, ndetse nibindi byinshi kuburyo abantu beza batajya hasi. Abagore n'abagabo batandukanye cyane mu ngeso zabo na psychologiya. Gutangira kubaka umubano, iki kintu kigomba kwitabwaho kandi kigagaragaza kwihanganira uwo mukunzi. Kuva ku ruhande rwe, abagore barashobora gushakisha iyo ngeso bararakaye cyane cyane ku bagabo kugira ngo babereke buhoro kandi bityo begera ishusho yerekana umudamu mwiza mu maso y'iburyo.
1. Inkuru zirambuye kubyerekeye umubano washize
Abagabo psychologiya y'abagabo itunganijwe muburyo butihanganirwa kugirango bagereranye numuntu, ndetse birenze ibyo aribyo. Kugira ngo wumve uburyo bidashimishije bihagije, birahagije kwiyumvisha umukunzi wawe mumaboko yoroheje hamwe nabanje, kandi byose bizahinduka neza.2. Kwizera ko mumibonano mpuzabitsina ikintu nyamukuru kiryamye muburiri
Umugabo akunda mugihe umugore agaragaje gahunda muburiri - birabahindura. Ariko "inyenyeri" mu buriri cyangwa, nkuko ahandi hahamagarwa, "igiti" ntabwo gikurura umuntu. Kandi umugore wigikundiro yari afite, icyo ari cyo cyose gitangaje ko yari afite - niba mu mibonano mpuzabitsina na we azarambirwa, umugabo azarambirwa, umugabo azajya gushaka imyidagaduro kuruhande.
3. Kubaka gahunda z'ejo hazaza nyuma y "ubwambere"
Imibonano mpuzabitsina nurukundo nibitekerezo bitandukanye, ndetse nibindi byinshi bihuriweho. Neza, niba ibintu byose bigenda neza nibitekerezo bizaba impamo, ariko ntibibaho buri gihe. Kubwibyo, ntugomba gutegereza ikintu kirenze umuntu wibeshya, kugirango rero bitababaje cyane bitezwa. Kandi hamwe nibiganiro byayo ku nsanganyamatsiko y'ubukwe bwihuse, umugabo arashobora gukinisha na gato.4. Bitera bidasanzwe ishyari mu mugabo
Duhereye ku ishyari, nta muntu wishimiye, harimo n'abagore. Ntabwo aribyo byiyumvo byiza cyane bitera uburakari n'umujinya. Kugerageza ishyari gukurura ibitekerezo byumugabo, urashobora kubabaza no gutera ibitero muri yo, ndetse rimwe na rimwe umukundwa ashobora kugenda.
5. Tegeka muri resitora gusa salade gusa
Kurikiza ishusho ni byiza, kuko ntabwo byakozwe wenyine, ahubwo bikaba kubwandusha, arashimishije kureba umugore mwiza kandi woroshye. Ariko arahamagarira resitora kugira umwanya ushimishije kugirango yizere ibyokurya biryoshye, cyane ko resitora itagenda buri munsi. Kandi kubyerekeye ibyo wicaye ku ndyo - ugomba kumenya gusa, abakunzi bawe n'umuntu, ariko ntabwo ari umugabo wawe.6. Ishyari mumwanya we bwite
Biragoye ko umugore yumva ko ibintu byajugunywe mu itsinda rimwe bishobora kuba itegeko, ariko abantu bafite ibitekerezo byabo kuriyi mitekerereze. Niba kandi ikiri ibisanzwe gusenya imyenda ye ku gikingo, hanyuma ugerageze gusukura ibyo akunda birashobora guhinduka ibyago nyabyo. Kubwibyo, nkuko byijoro byijoro bitarebaga inguni ye - nibyiza kubibona.
7. Icara ubwiherero amasaha
Nigute utagerageza gusobanura, ariko abantu ntibumva ko umugore akora mu bwiherero igihe kirekire. Kuki uteranya gusohoka, niba ushobora kubikora muminota itanu, uko babikora. Nibyiza, birashoboka, ubu ni bwo bwumvikane bwonyine butazigera bukemurwa hagati y'igorofa.8. Vugana na UNETa
Ubwonko bw'abantu burahumurizwa - bakeneye kuvuga kuri buri kintu kiri mu gahanga, bitabaye ibyo ntibazumva. Byongeye kandi, bararakaye iyo batumva icyo bashaka muri bo, ndetse birushijeho kuba bibi mugihe umugore akibabaza. Wibuke, abagabo ni abantu bamwe, ntibazi gusoma ibitekerezo - niba ushaka ikintu - kubaza kubijyanye, bizakomeza gushyikirana.
9. Icyifuzo cyibiganiro nisaha
Abagore bakunda kuvugana mu bugingo, kwinubira ububabare no kurira muri post, abagabo ntibazi gukora kandi ntibabishaka - kuko ari bo ibi ari ukugaragaza intege nke. Baruwe rero kuva mu bwana. Niba kandi nshaka kuzana umugabo mubiganiro mumutwe, reka avuga, birakenewe kubikora witonze, buhoro buhoro kandi neza. Ubwa mbere ukeneye kugirango ukwizere rwose kandi noneho urashobora gutangira gukurikira intambwe ikurikira.10. Guhora unenga
Guhora uganira kubikorwa byanyu byumuntu, imyitwarire, uburyo "Myashka uyumunsi yari yambaye neza cyane" - ntabwo ari igitekerezo cyiza. Ubwa mbere, ibyo umugore avuga umugabo atumva gusa impamvu ibi ari ngombwa, ariko, icya kabiri, umva bitakana. Abagabo, muri rusange, peculiar, kwita cyane kugirango bishyure ubuzima bwabo, mugihe abandi atari ingenzi kuri bo.
11. Imyitwarire yanga inshuti ze
Umugabo ayoboye ubuzima bwe mubucuti numugore, azabona uruziga rwitumanaho, afite inshuti ze zigeragezwa nigihe nikibazo. Ubucuti bw'abagabo ni bwera kandi nta mugore ushobora kumugiraho ingaruka. Byongeye kandi, abagabo bakunda kumva ibitekerezo byinshuti, harimo kumutwe watoranijwe. Kubwibyo, niba ubanza uhaguruke mumarushanwa n'inshuti ze, umubano urashobora guhagarara vuba. Wibuke, ntushobora na rimwe guhaguruka hagati yakundwa na "koreya" - bizarangira nabi.12. yayoboye umugabo wo guhaha
Kora umwanya hamwe nibyiza, ariko ntabwo ari uguhaha. Kugura neza hamwe nabakobwa bakundana basangira umunezero wo kugura. Ku bagabo, urugendo rwo guhaha, cyane cyane mu gitsina, rusanga guhangayika cyane, kandi ntitwishimira. Birashimishije cyane gusuzuma ibisubizo byanyuma bakabona umugore wabo wimbere yimibonano mpuzabitsina n'imyambarire mishya igikundiro, kandi ntibabona uburyo inzira yo guhitamo no guhaha byabaye.
13. Shira hamwe n'uburenganzira bwayo
Nigute rimwe na rimwe njanjagura umuzingo muri bose: "Nibyo, nakubwiye!" Ariko nubwo byatifuzaga ko ibi byagenze bite, nubwo byatangiye gute gusohora, ntibishoboka kubikora. Ikubita ubwibone bwabagabo, kandi umugabo arashaka kubana nuwo azaba umutware, ntabwo ari igikinisho cyo kwiyemeza. Igihe cyanjye kibi, arashaka kugwa mu isi, yumva byose, bityo ntukeneye kurangiza.14. Ibisabwa muri raporo
Nubwo waba uri hamwe, umugabo, nawe, nawe, ugomba gukomeza kuba umwanya wihariye, hagomba kubaho ubwigenge. Kubagabo, ibi ni ngombwa cyane. By the way, kubura uku kwigenga no gutera ubwoba hasi muburyo bwo gushyingirwa. Kubwibyo, ntugomba kwerekana ubuyobozi ukunda cyane, bisaba raporo kuri buri ntambwe hanyuma utegure ibazwa ku kuntu umunsi wabaye. Ariko ibintu byose hari imipaka - niba yavuze, asohoka mu minota itanu, na we ubwe arazimira amasaha menshi, noneho ufite uburenganzira bwo kubaza ibisobanuro.
15. Kugira ngo tumenye neza ko "abagabo bose ari bamwe"
Emera, abagore nabo ntibashimishije kumva ko "abagore bose ...". Umuntu wese ni umuntu ku giti cye, ntibishoboka ko muri rusange ikimenyetso kimwe gusa. Iyi nteruro irashobora gukuramo icyaricyo cyose, kuki ukeneye scandals yinyongera no gusesengura indege?