Muri iki gihe, abakobwa baragenda bareba mu kajaga kubatoranijwe, baba baribagiwe ko hariho urukundo. Niki cyingenzi mubuzima: urukundo cyangwa ubutunzi bwumubiri? Ikibazo cyose gifite igisubizo cyabo.
Urukundo ni imitekerereze yumuntu. Noneho ntuzahura nkibiri, ninde wukuri, uhuza. Abakobwa barumirwa ntabwo barongora kumuntu, ahubwo ni kubutunzi bwe, konte ya banki n'umufuka. Abagabo, na bo, gukomeza ubwoko. Ariko muri iki gihe hari abagabo bitaye kumwanya wabo muri societe, tubikesha gushyingirwa kumugore wiboneye mubintu. Ku bagabo nkabo, nk '"urukundo" bagira uruhare mu kwigaragaza no kwihesha agaciro.
Urukundo ni iki? Buri kimwe gifite ibisobanuro byaryo kuri iri jambo. Wikipedia aduha ibisobanuro nk'iki: "Kumenya umuntu, umugereka mwinshi kandi wifuza ku wundi muntu cyangwa ikintu, kumva impuhwe zikomeye." Kubwurukundo runaka ni ikinyugunyugu munda, mugihe ushaka kurema ibyiza, kandi mumyumvire yuko hari igitonyanga cyigihe iyo uhinduye imyumvire yo kwishakira ibyiyumvo. Kubandi, ubu ni imyumvire yo kwizirika mugihe ushaka kubyuka nuyu muntu, usinzirana na we, mumukorere byose. No ku musozi kandi mu byishimo kubana na we, kuba hafi, bimutekerezeho buri gihe, kugira ngo tubone ibyiyumvo bishyushye kandi byuje urukundo. Kubandi bantu: Iyi ni ibyiyumvo bidasobanutse, kuburyo hamwe numukunzi wawe ushaka kuba hafi, ubabarire byose, kandi buri selile ashaka kubana nuyu muntu, ntabwo areka umuntu. Kandi intera ntizitihangana guhangayika, kuko utangiye kubura, nkaho nta bice byawe. Umuntu ntibumva iyi myumvire na gato, umuntu atigeze amubona kandi ntazi ko aricyo, kandi bamwe bahuriza hamwe amakuru yose hejuru yibiranga, buri muntu afite isi yabo yumwuka nicyo gitekerezo cyihariye cyurukundo.
Umufilozofe w'Uburusiya Vladimir Sergeevich Solovyov yageneye ubwoko butatu bw'urukundo: 1) Urukundo rwo hepfo, garuka kugaruka k'urukundo ndetse n'umuntu muto. Kurugero, gukunda ababyeyi kubana babo, kurinda intege nke - gukomera, uhereye kuruhande rwabakuru bakuru kuri bato; 2) Kuzamuka urukundo, amatara ntarengwa, ariko ntarengwa ibona, nk'urugero, abana bakunda ababyeyi, abana b'ababyeyi babona byinshi kuruta kubaha; 3) Urukundo rwimibonano mpuzabitsina, nkuko yabitanze, cyane, rwuzuye ubuzima bwubuzima, kurugero, urukundo rwabashakanye, nkuko umugabo yatangaga urukundo, bityo azabyakira, uko yatanze, ubuziranenge y'urukundo rwatanze, umugongo kandi uzakira.
Erich kuvam yageneye uburyo 2 bwurukundo: 1) Urukundo rwo guhanga ni urukundo, rwuzuyemo ikintu cyimpuhwe, inyungu, imitekerereze; 2) Urukundo rwangiza nurukundo rushaka kwambura ubwisanzure bwikintu cyurukundo rwayo, kutajugunya gusa, ahubwo no mubuzima bwe. Kuki yangiza? Kuberako, asenya byose, umugereka wose, murukundo, urukundo, gusenya umuntu imbere, ntabwo arikundwa gusa, ahubwo no mu rukundo.
Ariko guhitamo urukundo, ntukibagirwe iyo nteruro nka: "Ntuzagaburirwa urukundo rumwe" kandi "urukundo ruza kandi ruragenda, ariko buri gihe nshaka kurya." Ariko ibi ntibisobanura ko ukeneye gusa gushakisha indangagaciro z'umubiri mubuzima!
Amafaranga ni ikintu gifatika cyumuntu. Ndashimira amafaranga, imibereho irashobora kugerwaho muri societe. Mugukora ubushakashatsi mu nshuti ze, ingingo zitoroshye zagabanijwemo kabiri: 1. Bamwe bemeza ko umuntu ufite amafaranga ashobora kutishima, kuko uwo ukunda ashobora kuvuga ibibazo bye, akajyana na we, igitugu ku rutugu, ingorane zose. Kugira amafaranga, ntushobora kugira umuntu uri hafi.
2. Abandi, bizera ko hazabaho amafaranga, hazabaho urukundo. Ariko, ikibabaje, akenshi, kubakire, ntibakundana, bakunda amafaranga yabo gusa, ntabwo bakundana gusa, atari mubantu ubwe.
Emera, abantu bishimye ni abafite urukundo namafaranga. Ariko rimwe na rimwe biraryoroshye kubigeraho, bidashoboka. Nigute dushobora kuba umukire no kwishimira urukundo? Igisubizo kiroroshye, ariko ntabwo ari ibya bose: gushaka ibyiza hamwe nuwo ukunda. Ariko ntabwo buri gihe bibaho, umuntu arambiwe, umuntu ajya undi, umuntu arambiwe kandi agiye gushaka amahitamo yoroshye: umugabo ufite igikapu kinini.
"Hamwe n'abo ukunda na paradizo mu gihise." Nibyo, ariko iri jambo rifite agaciro gusa kugeza ufitanye umubano wurukundo, kandi mugihe hari intambwe ikomeye mubuzima, cyangwa nimiryango, noneho "igihe" ikeneye buri gihe kandi ahantu hose hakenewe kandi ahantu hose . Mubuzima bwumuryango, abakobwa benshi bakangura abagabo babo kubura amafaranga. Kandi birashidikanywaho, kuko mubyukuri, ntugomba no kwambara, kubika inzu, kandi niba hari abana, noneho ibiciro bigenda birushaho kuba byinshi. Isi izategeka amafaranga?
Umuntu wese nawe afite ibitekerezo byayo. Ariko biramanuka cyane kuburyo amafaranga ari uburyo bwubuzima, nyirayo ubwe, ubuzima bwe. Amafaranga ntategeka, bakera gusa ibibazo byinshi. Ariko gukunda amafaranga ntibigura. Mw'isi yacu, abantu birashoboka cyane ko batabaho, bakora kugirango babone amafaranga. N'ubundi kandi, birakenewe kubaho mu ishyingiranwa ryemewe - ukeneye amafaranga, tubyare umwana udafite amafaranga, bivuze kutamuha imbaraga, ukenera amafaranga. Kandi rero abantu babaho, izi "impapuro" zarenze ibitekerezo kuri benshi.
None, nikihe kintu cyingenzi mubuzima: urukundo cyangwa ikindi kikirinda? Umuntu yizera ko urukundo, umuntu atekereza ko amafaranga, ariko hariho nanone ko urukundo n'amafaranga ari ngombwa ku muntu, nk'uko byavuzwe haruguru, urukundo ni bwo mu mutwe, ariko kutabaho nta mafaranga. Bombi bagomba kujyana isano, umukobwa ntagomba "kwicara ku ijosi" avuye ku muntu we, ntagomba gusaba amaguru ku mutwe, uko yakagombye kuzana mu nzu. Ariko umuntu wese afite igitekerezo, indangagaciro zayo, ntibishoboka kugirango umuntu ayihindure, buri wese yazanye peculiar.