Ibibazo byinshi bivuka mubuzima bwumuryango, kuberako abashakanye batatongana gusa, ariko ndetse baritegura igice. Hariho ingorane zidashobora kurokoka gutuza, kubabarira cyangwa kubyemera. Birashoboka kwemera ko umugore yagaruye mugihe cyubukwe? Suzuma imwe mu mpamvu zisanzwe kandi za paradoxical zitera gutandukana - inyungu z'umugore muburemere.
Umugabo ni iki?
Iyo ikibazo kibaye mu muryango - amahirwe yo gutandukana kubera umuvuduko ukabije ku mugore we, - benshi bari ku ruhande rw'umugore: "Ntabwo ari ku ruhande rw'umugore:" Ntabwo ari ku ruhande rw'umugore: "Ntabwo ari ku ruhande rw'umugore:" Ntabwo ari ku ruhande rw'umugore: "Ntabwo ari ku ruhande rw'umugore:" Ntabwo ari ku ruhande rw'umugore: "Ntabwo ari ku ruhande rw'umugore:" Ntamukunda, kubera ko avuga ... ari Kubera ko atabishinja ko yagaruye ... Mu myaka yashize, abantu bose batakaza urubyiruko n'ubwiza ... umugabo aribeshye. " Ariko reka tubimenye, nibibi kumuntu witeguye gutandukana numugore ufunze?Iyo abashakanye bahuye, birashoboka cyane, umugore yari mwiza, igitsina, slim. Yitaweho, yagerageje guhora asa neza, yicara ku mirire ndetse akora siporo. Ariko mu myaka yashize. Ubwiza bwiyongera burigihe nyuma yo kuvuka kw'abana, ubuzima bwigihe kirekire, bafite imyaka.
Umugabo areba umugore we, kandi ntakibona ubwiza, bwakundanye. Birashoboka gushinja umugabo kuba umukobwa ukiri muto kandi witeguye neza, none imbere ye yicaye ikiremwa gifite ubunebwe kandi akusanya ikiremwa? Umugabo yashoboraga kwihanganira kuba mumyaka yashize umugore adahindura urubyiruko. Ntibishoboka guhindura ibi. Ariko, biracyashoboka guhindura bike kandi bikurura.
Buri rubanza rugomba gusuzumwa kugiti cye. Hariho abadamu bakiri bato, ubwibone no kudakemura mu bashakanye, bizera ko bagomba kubakunda muburyo ubwo aribwo bwose. Niba umugabo yakundanye numugore kubwiza bwe, kunyerera no gukomera, rwose arashira igihe yatakaje iyi fomu. Nakagombye kumushinja? Ntibishoboka. Ntabwo agomba kuryozwa ibyo umugore wa mbere yashakaga guhuza ibitekerezo bye, kandi mu myaka yashize areka kugerageza na gato.
Nubuhe buryo ku mugore?
Imyaka ntabwo arimbisha umuntu, cyane cyane umugore. Kuvuka, gukenera guhora bigisha abana, imirimo yo murugo, iminsi migamiro yicyumweru kandi imyaka mike ituma umugore atari muto cyane kandi ashimishije nka mbere. Mubisanzwe, umugore asaza, yongera ibiro, araba undi, ntabwo ari nkuko byari bimeze mbere. Mu bagore bamwe, nyuma yo gutwita, gutsindwa hormonal bibaho mugihe nta gihe gito abasore bato bahindukirira "ingurube".
Hoba hariho vino muri aba bagore? Ntabwo. Kandi umugabo agomba kumva ko mumyaka yashize umugore atazaba muto kandi akomeza kuba mwiza. Byongeye kandi, inyuma yubukonje bugira ingaruka kuburyo muburyo bwumugore. Hano hari abadamu bafite amateka ya hormone byose byose nibyiza. Kandi hariho abagore, nyuma yo kubyara, ntibagishoboye guhinduka.
Umugore ntabwo ari uwuryozwa kuberako imyaka itamugira mwiza cyane. Cyane cyane ko bireba ibindi bibazo: Inzu, abana, akazi, nibindi. Umugore ni rimwe amasaha abiri kumunsi kugirango yicare ku ndorerwamo no kubara karori. Hano ukeneye gukora inshingano kugirango igihe cya buri wese.
Niki gukora umugore niba umugabo akangisha gutandukana?
Niba umugabo yatangiraga gutera ubwoba gutandukana numugore wamize, ntagomba gucire urubanza bidashidikanywaho. Birumvikana ko umugabo agenda nabi, avuga umugore we ko atagiye kwihanganira ibirometero byinyongera. Ariko, bigomba kumvikana ko rimwe na rimwe umuntu atavuzwe cyane. • Hariho abagabo badakunda abagore babo, bityo biteguye kubakuraho kubera gusa bavuga. • Hariho abagabo bafite ubwoba abagore kugirango batane kugirango bajugunye mumaboko bakatakaza ibiro. • Hariho abagabo bahatirwa gutera ubwoba no gutandukana, kubera ko ubundi buryo nibiganiro bitatanze ingaruka zifuzwa.Niki cyo gukora umugore niba umugabo akangisha gutandukana mugihe cyo kubura ibiro?
1. Birakenewe gusobanukirwa n'impamvu umugabo yimuka. Ntibikenewe ko witondera impamvu ashaka ko ubahuta. Ngiyo icyifuzo cye afite uburenganzira. Byiza witondere niba agukunda cyangwa atoragura ubwinshi bwawe bwo gutandukana. 2. Niba umugabo agukunda, ugomba kuvugana nawe uko wakemura ikibazo. Sobanura impamvu zawe kubera ibyo wakwirakwiriye (ibi ntibyabaye nkibi), kuko rwose umugabo wanjye yafashije nuzuye. Gerageza hamwe gushakisha uburyo bwo kugabanya ibiro. Niba umugabo akunda, hanyuma umusabe ubufasha n'inkunga. Mbwira, icyo ukeneye urukundo rwe kugeza icyo gihe, mugihe utakaza ibiro. Bizagufasha. 3. Niba umugabo adakunda, noneho yumve ko niyo yo gupima ibiro, azakomeza kutishimira. Ashaka gutandukana nawe. Kuki atazabibwira mu buryo butaziguye, ikibazo ukeneye kumubaza. Mugihe uzatakaza ibiro, azakomeza kunegura. Ndetse uburyo bwazimiye ntuzabitegura. Nkwiye kugerageza umugabo nkuyu?
Na nyuma: Turasaba abagore ubwabo. Niba weroheye muri ubwo buremere budahaza umugabo wawe, hanyuma umubwire. Ntabwo ugiye kugabanya ibiro, uba mwiza.
Hari umugabo agutwara, cyangwa uranena. Mumaze gutangira kumutera ubwoba, bivuga ko adakundana aramutse atandukanye nawe. Nyizera, niba umugabo akunda, azashobora kwakira ibiro byawe niba ukunda kumera nkawe.