Nigute ushobora kwemerera umuswa: inama kubagore

"Konoshilovil akajugunya," "Ibumoso, ntarakaga, ati:" Ntiyabuze umuhamagaro "- abagore basa n'abagaruka. Nigute hasi cyane "yita kumutwe" intege nke, kugirango abatangira kwizera ibitabaho?

Abagore benshi barababara kubera urukundo rudakenewe, ndetse no gusobanukirwa ko batigeze bakunda abantu, kuko bari bararira, bararambiranye. Igihe kirageze cyo kumenya abagabo bihumura abagore ko abakundana nta kwibuka.

Ubwa mbere hagomba kumvikana ko abagabo kuva mu bwana bakurakara. Iyo bafite kunanirwa imbere yurukundo, batangira kwibasira cyangwa kubabaza abagore bose. Abagabo benshi bahisemo kutazongera gukunda, ariko gukoresha abahagarariye imibonano mpuzabitsina badakomeye kugirango babone ibyo bakeneye. Ibi birakenewe kugirango umenye ko kuva kumunota wambere gukundana kugirango uteze amayeri yumugabo no kutizera kumwenyura.

1. Ibyiringiro

Ingimbi cyane kuburyo umugore ashobora kubaho, ni ukugaragara kwimizero ko umugabo amukunda kandi ashaka kubana na we. Bigaragara bite? Ibintu byose biroroshye bihagije: Umugabo asezeranya umugore icyo ashaka kumwumva. Arashobora kwiyemerera gukunda, gusezeranya ejo hazaza heza, ndetse no kubaka gahunda zihuriweho. Umugore akimara gutangira kwizera icyo umugabo atabikoze kandi atazi, ahita agwa mu mutego we.

2. Urukundo

Iyo umugore atangiye kumva ibyiyumvo byumugabo, ahindukirira umuswa, yiteguye kuri bose kumukunzi we. Benshi "bakomeye iyi si" bayikoresha. Babona ko abafatanyabikorwa bazimye ubwenge bune kandi bumvire amarangamutima yabo. Noneho urashobora kuyobora abagore nkabo kugirango bakora ibyo abantu babishaka byose.

3. Kwizera

Nta gushidikanya, nta kwizera, ntukubake umubano ukomeye. Ariko, bigomba kuyoborwa na collation: Reba urebe icyo umuntu akora. Ntugomba kwizera abagabo, bitabaye ibyo bazayikoresha gusa. Igomba kandi guhagarika gutekereza ko ari bibi kugirango umuntu akurikira umuntu kugenzura, guhindura ibintu aho umuntu yigaragaza. Umuntu ntakeneye kwizera, akeneye kubimenya. Kandi ibi birashoboka nyuma yigihe kinini cyane kubireba mubihe byihariye. Mugihe umugore yizeye, akomeza kuba impumyi.

4. Imibonano mpuzabitsina

"Niba ari mwiza mu buriri, noneho tuzahora turi kumwe na we," Umugore azi guhuza bidahuye. Kuba umugabo yahindutse umukunzi mwiza, ntarasobanura ko atagerageza muburiri nundi mugore. Abategarugori benshi bakomeza umubano gusa kubera imibonano mpuzabitsina gusa, ndetse ntibamenye ko abafatanyabikorwa bashobora kubahindura, gukora ubuhanga bwabo.

5. Amafaranga

Ufite amafaranga afite nayo imbaraga. Abagabo babona uburyo abagore bunamira abakurambere. Kuba umukire mumaso yumugore ntabwo bigoye: yabikennye muri cafe, yagendera nimodoka, kugura imyambarire ye. Umugore atekereza ko yinjiye kuri "Chealden Frolled", nubwo mubyukuri umuntu akoresha amafaranga ye yahuze, azarangira vuba. Akenshi, abanganira bakanga vuba vuba bazicara abadamu babo, basaba inyungu nyinshi. Biragaragara, isanzwe umugore agomba gutanga amafaranga yose.

Uburyo bwiza cyane bwuburyo bwo gushuka umugore nukwumva amahugurwa, aho bavuga icyo agomba kwifuza, nkuko bisabwa kwitwara no kwitondera kumva ko umugabo abishaka. Abaganga b'abanyabwenge bagomba kwerekana gusa ibibanza n'ibimenyetso byose, bavuga ngo "interuro iboneye" kugira ngo umugore atekereza ko amukunda. Noneho arimo kuri flaok ye! Buri mugore afite ahantu honyine. Yaba ntatekereza iyo akundana, yemera amasezerano meza, cyangwa yizeye cyangwa akaba munsi y'amafaranga.

Abagabo bahita bumva bafite intege nke zo kubashyiraho igitutu no gucunga abagore.

Iyo babitanze, bahita bashira ahantu runaka, nubwo bashoboraga kwatura gukunda no kubaka gahunda zihuriweho ejo hazaza.