Reka ukuri mumaso: guhangayika cyangwa guhangayika nkunda abantu bake cyane. Niba uhora uhangayikishijwe nibishobora kubaho cyangwa kutabaho mugihe kizaza, byanze bikunze bitera guhangayika. Mugihe cyitwa ibibazo byitwa hagati, guhangayika bigaragara kubantu hafi ya bose.
Igisubizo cya buri kibazo byombi ubwacyo kimaze kugorana, ariko niba uhuza hamwe ... Rero, uburyo bwiza bwo guhangana nikibazo cyo hagati.1. Byumvikane ko ikibazo cyimyaka yo hagati ari ibisanzwe
Nukuri, abantu bake ni bo bigeze bumva umurongo wa u-umeze nk'ibyishimo. Mubyukuri, igitekerezo nkibyishimo byizwe cyane, kandi umurongo wa u-shusho wagaragaye muri ubwo bushakashatsi, ndetse buri gihugu. Avuga ko umunezero w'umuntu ushobora kugera ku rwego rukomeye cyane mugihe cyibibazo byo hagati.
Ikibazo cyo hagati gisaza kirasanzwe kuruta umuntu wese atekereza. Kubimenya wimukira kunama za kabiri.
2. Kumenya ko utari wenyine urwana nka
Gutangira, ni ngombwa kwiyumvisha ko umuderevu wese wubuzima bwe. Ikigereranyo kigizwe nuko umuntu apire indege yuzuye abagenzi (umuryango, inshuti nabandi bantu akamaro kumuntu). Intego nyamukuru ya buri wese nkumuderevu nuko abagenzi be bafite igitekerezo cyuko ibintu byose bigenzurwa kandi ko ibintu byose bigenda neza kandi neza. Ikigaragara ni uko buriwese ari abapilote b'indege zabo, kandi burigihe kugeza igihe kugeza igihe bahuye nubucamuka mugihe cyindege.Ni ngombwa kumenya ko buri wese ari abaderevu, kandi umuntu wese ugerageza guteza impression ko ibintu byose bigenzurwa. Ariko mubyukuri, buri muderevu azahura n'imihindagurikire yindege zayo (ubuzima bwe). Ibi nibyo rwose bitera umurongo wa u-umeze nka u-shusho. Ntibikenewe ko utekereza ko rwihariye mu bwoba bwawe, abandi nabo ntibahitamo kwerekana impuruza zabo no guhangayika kubaturage.
Ukeneye gusa kumenya ko ntamuntu wenyine mubyakubayeho, kandi ko abantu benshi kwisi bahura numutima umwe wo guhangayika mugihe cyibibazo byo hagati. Kubwibyo, nibyiza kukubwira impuruza yawe kugirango ushushe.
3. Ntukigereranye numuntu "ugomba kuba"
Ni ngombwa cyane. Abantu bamwe bamara ubuzima bwabo bwose, bagerageza gutsindishiriza ibyifuzo byababyeyi, urungano, societe, nibindi. Bakora buri munsi kandi amaherezo bakumva batishimye.
Ni ngombwa guhagarika kugerageza gutsindishiriza ibyifuzo bidahuye nibishimisha cyangwa intego zubuzima. Abo. Birakenewe kureka kwigereranya numuntu "ugomba kuba", hanyuma utangire kuba uwo ushaka kuba.
4. Menya icyo ushaka rwose mubuzima
Ikibazo "Urashaka iki mubuzima?" Bisanzwe, kandi mubisanzwe igisubizo kirimo guhinduka cyangwa guhuza ibintu bikurikira:- Intsinzi; - Umva ko ugukunda; - Kugira ingaruka nziza; - amahirwe.
Birasa nkaho byose byumvikana, kuko udashaka kumva akundwa cyangwa gutsinda. Ariko birakwiye kubaza, n'impamvu nshaka ko byose byabaye mubuzima. Urashobora kuvuga ko abantu bose bazaza gusubiza: "Ndashaka kwishima gusa."
Biragaragara, intego zose mubuzima bwacu zirahari gusa kuberako hariho impamvu yo kwizera ko uzishima mugihe ubagezeho. Ariko, abantu benshi ntibumva icyo ukeneye kugirango wishime mugihe ukurikiranye izi ntego.
Ubuzima ni bugufi cyane kugirango twibande gusa kugirango tugere ku byishimo gusa. Ugomba gutangira gukunda ibyo ukora nonaha, kandi ntukomeze gukora gusa kugirango "ugere ku byishimo".
5. Sohoka muri zone nziza
Mubisanzwe, iyo umuntu yisanze ari ibintu bitoroshye, utiriwe ugaruka mubuzima bwe busanzwe, amenya rwose uwo ashaka. Nukuri mugihe ubitekereje. Ariko benshi bakoresha imyuga yabo, koga hose. Ntibashidikanya guhitamo kwigira, cyangwa abakorera. Batigeze bakomeza kandi bagenda mu cyerekezo icyo ari cyo cyose aho abayobozi babo, abo mukorana n'inshuti bashaka ko bagenda. Kubera iyo mpamvu, hafi ya bose bigera mu cyiciro, aho yavumbuye ko ibyo yakoze, atari byo ashaka gukomeza gukora.
Birakwiye kugerageza gutera intambwe irenze akarere kawe keza hanyuma ugerageze ibitigeze bikora mbere. Kurugero, aho kwibanda ku mwuga wawe, urashobora kwishyura igihe kinini kugirango wishimishe. Kandi urashobora kujya murugendo rwiminsi rwinshi.
6. Kubashimira kubisanzwe bihari
Ugomba gutekereza kubyo umaze kugeraho, kandi ntabwo kubyo ugishaka gukora. Ni ngombwa kumenya ko ingenzi yamaze gukorwa kandi hari mubuzima bwa buri wese. Ugomba gutekereza kubyo wagezeho, kubantu babaho, kubuzima ufite ingaruka nziza. Ibi nibintu byose bikomeye ukeneye gushimira. Abantu biragoye kubyinginga. Bahora bashaka byinshi, ariko ntibashima ibyo bafite. Iyi "umururumba" irashobora kuba inzitizi ikomeye mu byishimo.Inama nziza izibanda kubintu byiza ufata mugihe uhangayikishijwe nibibazo byawe byo hagati. Muri icyo gihe, ntugomba kwibagirwa ko Pesdesist abona ibibi cyangwa ingorane muri buri mwanya, mugihe icyizere abona amahirwe muri buri kibazo. Ibi bivuze ko ukeneye kwibanda kubyerekeranye hano, aho kubura.
7. Fata ikarita
Benshi bizera ko diaries igenewe gusa abakobwa bato gusa, ariko iri kure yinzira. Ubuyobozi bwa Diary bugufasha kumenya byinshi kuri wewe kandi bigatuma bishoboka gukata mubihe bigoye.
Muri diary birakwiye kwandika ibyo uhangayikishijwe nibitishimye, ubishaka mubuzima, uburyo bwo kubigeraho.
Igihe cyose wumva uhangayitse, urashobora gufungura ikarita yawe hanyuma wongere ibitekerezo bigezweho kuriyi. Cyangwa urashobora kongera gusoma ibitekerezo byawe bishaje kugirango wumve neza igitera guhangayika.
8. Shakisha psychotherapy
Ahari iyi nama ni myinshi kandi ntiyiteze kubona hano, ariko biroroshye cyane. Ubuvuzi burashobora gufasha guhangana n'amaganya mugihe cyibibazo byo hagati. Ako kanya birakwiye kubika - nta mpamvu yo gutinya kujya muri psychotherapiste. N'ubundi kandi, nta tegeko ryigenga ryo gusura umuganga usanzwe mugihe urwaye ububabare bwumubiri, none kuki uhangayikishijwe no kuvuka kubera ububabare bwamarangamutima.
Icy'ingenzi ni uko ukeneye kwibuka mugihe uhuye n'amaganya mugihe cyibibazo byo hagati, bizwi ko ntamuntu wenyine. Ibyiyumvo bibi bihura nabyo, ibisanzwe, kandi nabandi bantu benshi nabo bafite. Na none - ugomba guhagarika kwigereranya nande nagombye kumenya icyo ushaka rwose mubuzima, va mukarere keza mugihe gito hanyuma ugerageze mubindi, wibande kubintu byiza hanyuma utangire ikarita.