Inyangamugayo kandi yazanwe neza umukobwa wa kiriya - ni iki? Kwihaza, bikaba, bifite intego, gutsinda. Ntabwo nsanzwe nsaba, ibyiringiro wenyine wenyine. Ukeneye imyambarire cyangwa terefone - izakora, imodoka - izakira uburenganzira no kugura ku nguzanyo, inzu yegeranijwe ku musanzu wambere kandi ufate inguzanyo. Mama na Papa bigishaga. Kandi bigishije kandi ko kwiga mbere numwuga, noneho ubuzima bwihariye. Kandi na nyuma ya byose, muri rusange, iri ni amasezerano meza. Ariko tubona iki amaherezo?
Abakobwa b'ukuri n'abakobwa bafite ubwenge bishimiye cyane ababyeyi babo, kuri 25 (na benshi kandi muri 30) ntibagiye kurongora. Oya, ntabwo "imbeba zijimye", imyambarire yimyandikire, reba neza, biragoye. Bafite ibintu byinshi bishimishije, inshuti nyinshi hamwe nisi yimbere yimbere. Ariko bose biruka ahantu, barahuze cyane, ntibashaka gutakaza umunota. Kandi kubwimpamvu runaka, bizera ko ibyo bagezeho byose bikiri imbere, kandi ubuzima bwihariye buzategereza.Kandi iyi ni inzira yisi yose. Dore ababyeyi batinyaga ejo ko umukobwa wabo azita ku ya 16, basobanukiwe ko ubu bashaka kunyura hamwe nabana. Batangira gutinya undi: ko umukobwa atazamutwita na gato, kandi ntibazategereza abuzukuru.
Ubwoba bwa bene wabo burahinga buri mwaka, kuko abafite ibyo barazimira, nkikibazo nkikibazo kiri hafi, cyangwa ahitamo "kopi" ya nyina, ndetse numukobwa wa nyina. Kuki ibi bibaho? Ni ukubera iki Natkos idahwitse kuva ku bwinjiriro bwa mbere yashakanye neza 22 kandi itegereje umwana wa kabiri, kandi umunyabwenge nubwiza bwacu ni njye wenyine?
Urubanza mu nganda zingufu, aba bakobwa basohora. Ibitekerezo byabo bikurura ibyabaye hamwe nabantu. Reka turebe icyatubangamira umunezero.
1. "" Nshobora "cyangwa" ngomba kugera kuri byose nta mfashanyo. "
Kwishyiriraho cyane mugihe cacu. Akenshi umukobwa akunda cyane umugabo yakundaga, ntabwo azi kumwegera. Kandi rimwe na rimwe irambika na gato, kumva. N'ubundi kandi, ntabwo yigeze asaba ubufasha, kandi kugerageza kuba ingirakamaro rwose. Hanyuma aratenguha kandi akababi, atumva impamvu yiyitiriye amaherezo ya Nasha.
Kandi ikigaragara nuko yari "akonje". Umugabo ni ngombwa kuba umuntu wizeye ninkunga, umva ari ngombwa. Kandi byiza - bikenewe. Kandi ushimire cyane mumaso yumukunzi we ni ibihembo byiza kubibazo byuzuye muri byo.
Umuhe rero aya mahirwe. Ntugashishikarire ibintu byose ku bitugu, reka inshuti yawe ititabira ubuzima bwawe kandi ifashe gukemura ibibazo byose.
2. "Ndashaka umuryango, ariko simbifite umukunzi."
Bibaho ko icyifuzo cyo kwanga icyari cyumuryango cyeze mbere kuruta mubuzima kimwe, umwe wenyine rugaragara. Ariko, kubwamahirwe, bivuze ko ibikomeye bishoboka cyane ahari! Kugira ngo ibintu byose ari byiza, ugomba gutega amatwi witonze. Ni uwuhe muryango urota?Tekereza mu bisobanuro byose: • Ni abana bangahe kandi mbega igitsina; • Ni iyihe mico umugabo afite; • Aho utuye nuburyo amazu asa; • Hariho inyamanswa; • Nigute icyumweru gisanzwe hamwe numunsi usanzwe, nibindi.
Ibi byose bizafasha kumenya ibyihutirwa no gukora ishusho isobanutse yibisubizo byifuzwa. Ibi byitwa kwiyumvisha. Kwakira neza, gutanga ikimenyetso cy'isi n'ijuru: "Niteguye, ndategereje." Hamwe nabazi neza ibyabaye bikwiye bibaho vuba.
3. "Abagabo bose ni bamwe. Hariho, byukuri, ariko bamaze igihe kinini bahuze. "
Ibitekerezo nkibi mubisanzwe byashishikarizwa nubunararibonye. Mubyukuri, nta bantu basa. Yaba bagabo cyangwa abagore. Nibyo, mubyukuri, abantu beza ntibaryamye mumuhanda. Ariko ibi ntibisobanura ko utazahura nuwawe. Ikintu nyamukuru ntabwo ari uguhuza no kubogama. Kurekura ibyahise kandi wemere ko bishoboka.
4. "Sinshaka kwirinda umuntu uwo ari we wese. Biranteye ubwoba kandi birantera intege nke. "
"Nishimiye umudendezo wanjye." Mubyukuri, umubano wa hafi ushyiraho imipaka runaka. Hariho inshingano zitari zitari mbere, ziba nke cyane. Ariko izindi nyungu nibyabaye bishimishije nabyo bigaragara.Niba ushaka umubano wa hafi, ugomba gushyikirana nawe kandi wemere ko bumwe mubwisanzure buzabura. Ibi bibaho ubwabyo nkuko byatejwe imbere. Mu butabera bukwiye kumenya ko ntacyo bizagiraho ingaruka, ahubwo bizanagira ingaruka. Urwego rwo kubuza rushobora kubyemera buri gihe no kubona amahitamo azategura byombi.
Kandi hafi ukurikije undi muntu - Hariho kandi ibyiza hano. Rimwe na rimwe, ni byiza cyane kubyumva intege nke, wumve icyo ushobora kwishingikiriza kumuntu mugihe kitoroshye. Kandi uyu muntu ntazanyemerera arawutanga.
5. "Umuryango, Bana - Ntabwo nshimishijwe rwose."
Nta manza iyo itangazo ribisubizo byuko reaction yo kurinda psyche. Iyo umuntu adakora igihe kirekire, yibwira ati: "Nibyo, kerera, si byinshi kandi bishakishwa cyane!". Hano rero ni ikintu gisa. Niba bitakiri "" umugabo we kuva kera, bivuze ikintu kimwe gusa: ntabwo ari igihe. Kandi, birashoboka ko ukeneye kureka gushaka. Noneho umunezero uzagusanga wenyine. Ikintu nyamukuru nukwumva hakiriho imbere wowe ubwawe mbega umunezero wawe.
6. Nkuru nurubanza rwanyuma - mugihe mubyukuri udashaka kurongora. Nta gahunda.
Ibikorwa bitemewe ntabwo bigomba kubiryozwa, ibigo - ntukababara rwose. Gusa nta cyifuzo gusa, kandi nibyo! Ukunda uburyo ubuzima bubijwe, kandi ntabwo witeguye gusa kubyanga kugirango ushyigikire igikoni ndetse nabana.
Muri iki kibazo, ikibazo cyabuze na gato: niba umuntu akwiriye byose, nta mpamvu yo guhindura ikintu cyose! Ubu, iki gihe, uko bigaragara, urashaka undi, kandi igihe nikigera cyo gukonjesha, ibintu byose bizahinduka wenyine. Amaherezo, ibi bisaba icyifuzo gusa. Ishimire!