Igitutsi gikunze gutukwa kubagabo ni interuro: Nta bagabo beza. Ni ngombwa cyane gusobanukirwa nijambo "nyaryo", kuko kuri buri mugore urutonde rwamagambo, agena ibitero byumuntu cyangwa undi muntu. Kuri bamwe, urutonde rwibintu bigena iri jambo ari bunini, burimo amanota 30 kugeza kuri 50, kandi kuri bamwe bihagije na 5 - 6.
Urutonde rwibisabwa abantu benshi kubagabo nyabo:
1. Abagore bashaka ko guha indabyo n'impano. Byose ni byiza, icyifuzo kirasohozwa, ariko hariho "ariko", burigihe biterwa numugore. Ubu bushobozi bwo gufata byose, bugaragaza umunezero no gushimira, abagore bamwe bahisha ubuhanga.
Umuntu wese arashaka guhitamo kwawe, akagira amarangamutima meza kuri we, yiteze kubona mugihe cyo gutanga impano. Ariko niba, aho kwishima, abona isura nziza irwanya ibi, nta byishimo bitazakira umugabo nyuma yibuka isomo nk'iryo iteka ryose. Kubwibyo, niba hari imyumvire y'ejo hazaza guha impano nkabo, abantu bose bahisemo.
2. Abagore bashaka ko bubahwa. Kubwiyi ngingo, ikibazo gikurikira kiremewe cyane: "Abagore bararwanya?".
Mubihe byinshi, igisubizo cyikibazo kizaba kibi. Mugushinyagurira, gutuka no kuvuga amakosa yabandi bahagarariye hasi, abagore ubwabo nabo batema ishusho idasanzwe kumugabo ubasubiramo gusa.
3. Abagore bifuza ko abagabo nyabo babakunda, bakundwa, babitayeho kandi bakandagira. Muri uru rubanza, paradox ni uko abagore ubwabo rimwe na rimwe batazi uburyo bwo kwishora, kwiyitaho no gukunda. Nigute umuntu yakagombye kubikora?
Birumvikana ko tutari abahagarariye bose bahanganye n'imibonano mpuzabitsina intege nke (gukomera?), Ariko ikirego muri uru rubanza kibaho.
Kubatekereza neza, kwiyumvisha ubwabo n'ibyifuzo byabo, abagore bazi kwikunda, abagabo bahora bakurura.
4. Ikibazo kirakomeye kandi cyigenga. Igitutsi ni uko abagabo badafasha abagore mubibazo byo murugo: Karaba umukungugu, reba umwana, kandi, icyemezo cyaki ni kimwe nubufasha gusa gutuka gusa, ariko ntushimire ubufasha.
Igitutsi ko ari ngombwa kudakora nkuko yabikoze, cyangwa yakoze nabi rwose. Kwitotomba bitagira akagero kubyo azakora byose neza kandi nkuko bikenewe, bicwa muri "vew" phan umuntu wese ushaka ubufasha.
5. Abagore bifuza ibikomangoma byiza, ni ukuvuga "abagabo" "nyabo" batwaye ibyifuzo byabo. Ibyifuzo bitigeze bivuga cyangwa kuvura, ariko birasanzwe nkuko ibitutsi bitagomba.
Amategeko yoroshye abagore bagomba kwibuka kugirango ibyifuzo byabo bishwe, ni ukuvuga umugabo ugororotse, ntabitekerezo, ku buryo yasobanukiwe neza icyo bamushaka. Noneho rero gutenguha kubintu binaniwe bizaba rimwe na rimwe.
Mubisanzwe, kuri buri mugore, nkuko bimaze kubivuga, inzira yose yo gusobanukirwa numuntu "nyawe". Kimwe n'ibihe birema. Birashobora kuba ikibazo cyuburezi, ikibazo cyo gusobanukirwa cyangwa societe, ariko biracyafite imbaraga zumugore mugushiraho "umugabo nyawe" ni ngombwa. Mubihe byinshi, abagabo barabyifatamo kandi bakuramo imyitwarire yabagore.