Binyuze kuri byose ni abakunzi, ntacyo bitwaye, bahuye numwaka umwe cyangwa icumi, mugihe runaka haba mu masangano - abafatanyabikorwa barambiwe umubano. Inyuma, tandem yabo irashobora kugaragara neza - byombi bikunzwe, babitayeho, bafite icyo bavuga nicyo bavuga, ariko ahantu hose amarangamutima arabyuka, hari ahantu hibuka.
Hanyuma umuntu wenyine (kandi rimwe na rimwe haba rimwe) yemerera ikosa rikabije - yihisha kuvuga, akajya kwihanganira mask, yihanganira mask, yihanganira ... igihe cyose ikintu kiri imbere, kiganisha ku mibanire gusenyuka.Kuki ubana - ntibisobanura gukunda 24/7?
Tuzaba inyangamugayo, abashakanye bashyikirizwa ubutane kubera kwivuguruza bidasubirwaho, intego zitandukanye, imiterere yimibonano mpuzabitsina cyangwa ibibazo byamafaranga, ibintu byose ni amakosa - ingeso yo gutanga ibyiyumvo byabo. Iyo umuntu uvuye kubafatanyaga ahisha bike, ariko acecetse. Noneho habaye inzogera ya kabiri n'uwa gatatu, kugeza kurakara h'imbere byegeranijwe ku mpande, kandi haguye igitonyanga cya nyuma nticyaguye hejuru. Ariko mbere yuko ibi bitonyanga byari ibihumbi n'ibibi! Bombi bararushye, ariko bahisha amahirwe yabo. Muri iki kinyoma kandi hari amakosa.
Nibicucu kwitwaza ko buri gihe dukunda abafatanyabikorwa bacu, bahora biteguye kubatega amatwi no gushyigikirwa. Abantu ni ibiremwa bigoye biterwa na gishorthms, imiterere yumubiri, ibitonyanga bya hormonal ndetse no mu nkoko mumutwe. Ntidushobora guhora kurambura ukuboko gufunga, ntabwo dushaka gusangira imbaraga zacu, kwitanga nta kuringaniza no gufata ababakikije nkabo. Kamere yacu ntabwo ari ibintu bidahungabana, bitewe no gusohora kwiyubaha, igitutu cya societe na biologiya. Igihe kirageze cyo kwemera ko umuntu umwe akundana numuntu 24 kumunsi kugeza igihe cye kirangiye - umurimo udashoboka. Ntibibaho. Uyu ni utopiya twaduhatiye kwiyemera idini n'imigani yerekeye urukundo "rw'iteka". "Ntuzigere utandukana, ubeho neza kandi umwenyure!" Yoo, na sisitemu ihuriweho ishobora gutanga ikosa, cyane cyane iyo sisitemu yubatse umuntu utuyemo.
Iyo umubano utanga gutsindwa
Umwe rero, umwe mu bafatanyabikorwa yifataga atekereza ko yabuze umunaniro mu mibanire. Uyu munaniro urashobora kugaragazwa muburyo butandukanye - kurakara, icyifuzo cyo kumara weekend mu kwigunga, gushimisha hafi cyangwa itumanaho ryimbitse. Birumvikana ko buri wese muri twe afite uburenganzira ku byiyumvo byabo, agerageza ibibi - mubisanzwe, ni ngombwa kuri raporo kuri iki gice, shakisha umwanya wo kuvuga ku bugingo. Yoo, 90% by'abantu bafite isoni zo kuvuka k'umunaniro kandi bakayitwara cyane mu bwoba bwo kwibaza ukuri k'umuntu ukunda. Birasa natwe kwereka kuvuga ibyifuzo byabo, biroroshye cyane, nta ishyaka, risubiza gusomana. Bigeze kugwa mu buriri nta cyifuzo, harabona amaso "arashaka" - kandi ikintu kiri imbere cyaturitse, gitanga ingaruka zinyuranye. Aho kugira urukundo rw'iteka, habaye ikuzimu, nyuma yatangira vuba vuba.
Kuberako dutondekanye kuburyo tudashobora kubaho gusa kubwabandi, ego yacu ntizababarira ibi. Mugukuza ibintu bikabije, tuzakomeza gutega amatwi, ibyiyumvo byacu nibyo dukeneye. Niyo mpamvu guceceka ari uburozi busenya imiryango. Twababajwe, hanyuma basangira gusa "guhagarika", badahaye umufasha gusobanukirwa nibyo adakora ibyo twashakaga kuri we? Urukundo ntirwicwa amagambo nabi, ariko kubura kwabo, guhisha nkana ukuri. Niba kandi utinya ko, wavuze uko nameze, urimbure umubano wawe, dufite inkuru mbi kuri wewe - urukundo hano kandi ntirunuka.
Ubuzima nikintu kitoroshye, burigihe burigihe bwihungabana no kuzamura mugihe ubuzima bwiza busanzwe hamwe, kandi mugihe hari ikintu kimeneka, kandi tugomba gusana. Niba wararenze imbere - ntuceceke, vuga kuri yo, gusa rero uzagira amahirwe yo kurokora umubano.
Urukundo ntirubaho buri gihe ibicucu, ndetse n'ibyiyumvo bivuye ku mutima kandi birageze bishobora kubona icyiciro cyo guhagarara. Nta kunanirwa hagati yabo kandi ntanubwo amakimbirane akunze gutongana. Abantu bakorerwa ubutane, buzuye imyumvire ushobora guhura n '"umuntu" wawe, uwo tuzahora tumeze neza. Nta kutumva nabi, kugendera burimunsi, gusa pony numukororombya 24/7. Ariko ntibibaho. Twese turarambiwe kandi rimwe na rimwe turasaba ikiruhuko, igihe kubwawe nubugingo bwawe. Ibi nibisanzwe.