Icyizere ni ikintu cyingenzi cyo kubaka umubano ukomeye uhuza. Nibisanzwe kuvura no kutizera abantu batamenyerewe rwose kandi bareke kwiringira abamaze guhemukira. Ariko, umubano mushya numugabo, ni ngombwa cyane kumuha ikizere imbere, bitabaye ibyo nta cyiza kizava muribi.
Nigute igitsina gore kigaragaza
Uburyo bwo kutizerana kw'abagore ku bijyanye n'abagabo bigaragarira muri: "Abagabo bose ... - abantu bose barabizera.", "Abantu bose bakeneye umwe gusa ...", " n'ibindi Kandi akaga k'ibitekerezo nk'ibyo nuko kuba yaramenyereye umuntu ukomeye rwose uzagaragariza urukundo urukundo kandi akayitaho, umugore azashaka kubifata, muri buri gikorwa cye azareba umutego: "Ubu ni umweru na fluffy, hanyuma ... " Abategarugori bamwe batinya ubuhemu kandi batinya gushukwa ko bagerageza kumenya amahitamo yose ashoboka mbere kandi bagahindura umugabo sheki nyinshi hamwe na manipune.By the way, ubundi buryo bwo kutizerana kwigaragaza muri ubwo bwicanyi, nk'utumvikanyweho ubufasha n'umugabo. Ndetse njya kurongora abagore badatangaje bagerageza gukora byose, udasaba ubufasha kumukunzi wawe. Bashyizeho itegeko ryuzuye ku bashakanye, ntimubemerera gufata ibyemezo byisunze, uhora unenga no gutanga amabwiriza asobanutse icyo nuburyo bwo gukora.
Nigute abagabo bitwara batizeye
Umuntu ukomeye, uhagije, kwiyubaha, ntazakomeza umubano numugore niba atamwizeye. Akeneye umurima ibikorwa, kandi kubwibyo bisaba kwizera no kwishimira abagore. Kumenya ko mu rubanza runaka, ntibazayakira - bagize umudamu, kandi ko, niba nta kamaro, byongeye kwemeza "iburyo bwabo."
Ibintu bisanzwe mu miryango, iyo umuntu ahisemo kubiba ku buriri, anywa byeri n'inshuti, kandi umugore yishora mu bisigaye - n'amafaranga yinjiza, kandi abana bakura, kandi bareba umurima. Mu buryo nk'ubwo, abagabo bitwara nkaho badafite ikizere. Ntiyumva imbaraga ze, atekereza ko afite intege nke - erega, ni ibyo bimutera imbaraga umugore ibikorwa bye. Nibyo, akenshi bikunze kuba umutekano muke, abagabo babo bakingiwe mu bwana bukomeye bwo kugenzura ababyeyi.
Umurumu uva he
Ari he kutizerana kimwe cya kabiri cyikiremwamuntu uturuka? Hashobora kubaho ibibazo byinshi byinkomoko yikibazo. Akenshi, iyi nicyiciro cyabagore bahemukiye abagabo bamaze gushukwa kandi ntibakibishaka ibyago nkibi. Ntabwo akenshi hari ibihe mugihe abakobwa bakuriye mumiryango, aho badafite umubano winshuti na ba se, nyirarume nabasogore. N'ubundi kandi, buriwese yiga kwigirira ikizere mu bwana - utabonye ubumenyi mu ntangiriro, kugirango amenye ikibazo no guteza imbere ubushobozi bwo kwiringira abantu bakuze bimaze kuba ingorabahizi.Niba umukobwa yakuriye na gato adafite se kandi nta karorero keza k'umuntu imbere y'amaso ye - biro yongera ibyago, aba umuntu mukuru, ntiyabyizera. N'ubundi kandi, mu ntangiriro bivuze ko bidashoboka kwishingikiriza ku mugabo - arashobora guhunga. Imyitwarire ya Mama yemewe, mumaso yumukobwa ikomeye, yihagije kandi irashobora guhangana nibibazo kandi nta mugabo. Kubwibyo, ni ngombwa cyane kubadamu bakiri bato kwerekana urugero rwiza kugirango ejo hazaza ntacyo babuze mubuzima bwite.
Nigute ushobora gushidikanya no kwizera umugabo
Iyi niyo paradox ikomeye. Ku ruhande rumwe, ko umugore atuma umuntu yizeye, agomba kubibona. Ariko ku rundi, nkuko imyitozo yerekana, abagore batangaje bakurura abo bagabo bashoboye - ubuhemu, uburiganya, guhemukira. Kubera guhora dusubiramo uburambe bubabaje, ibintu birushijeho kwiyongera - aho gutangira guhangana na we, bandidatangira kwerekana ubwitonzi no kutizera abagabo - uruziga rukabije rutangira.
Kumena, mbere ya byose, ni ngombwa kwitondera wowe ubwawe ko isi yuzuyemo abantu batandukanye - icyiza n'ikibi, nziza kandi atari byiza kandi ititayeho kandi ititayeho kandi ititayeho kandi ititayeho. Kubwibyo, niba intwari mbi zihuye munzira yawe, reba kuruhande, kuburyo utekereza no gusuzuma abakandida. Ahari kuri iki cyiciro bizakenera ubufasha bwa psychologue, bizemerera gucukura ibibazo byimbere no guhindura imitekerereze.
Abagore batazi kwizera abagabo ni abahohotewe bafite isuzuma rigizwe nibintu byo hanze. Kubwibyo, bizaba byiza cyane kumenya agaciro kabo, katajya ahandi na nyuma yuburiganya no guhemukira abantu. Niba umugore yubaha ubwe, akunda kandi ashima, yizeye rwose, rwose azicwa nabandi. Ugomba kwiga gutura hano none, ntabwo yongeye kubaka gahunda zimizimu kubakunzi mugihe kizaza - kugirango usuzume umuntu kubintu bye nibikorwa bye, bitanga imbere yicyizere hakiri kare.