Urabwirwa: bihagije kuyambika, wifate mu ntoki, umukobwa wa Samurai, komera amaso ntabwo ari. Kandi ntiwumva. Kuberako gukubita, kwitotomba no guterana mubyukuri ni ingirakamaro cyane.
Natya Kuraho Impagarara
Numutego, kubera ko umwuka runaka ufite intege nke ugwa mu kwinuba no kwinubira impamvu iyo ari yo yose yo kutazigera. Nibyo, urabizi, ndetse n'umutuku mubipimo biringaniye bishimangira ubuzima, kandi mububabare butagira imipaka, hangover no guhamagara mbere.
Ntabwo turi hano ku myitwarire, ariko kuri psychologiya: Gukubita bifasha kuvuga no guharanira ibibazo byabo. Ubwoba bwavuzwe buturuka buke kandi buke cyane.
Natya afasha kubona ibintu ayoboye
Cyane cyane iyo nta bundi buryo bwo kuyobora ibiziga. Kurugero, niki wakorana na mama, ukomoka mu isabukuru yimyaka 18 ya buri kiganiro gitangirana n'ibiganiro ku bazuzutse? N'ubuyobozi nyirabukwe, akabati kakera, ntatindititsa kugereranya n'uwahoze ari uyu munsi - "Nibyo, umukobwa mwiza"? Hamwe na shobuja? Hamwe ninzira nyabagendwa? Nta kintu na kimwe, ndetse ibakiriya.
Ariko ibi ntibibuza ibiganiro bihoraho mumutwe wawe, kandi hano nibyiza kwerekana ijwi ribabaza cyane - nta mpaka, kandi umuntu afite urugwiro. Imitekerereze, ibi ni kimwe nkuko ushobora gutanga uburyo bwiza bwo gutanga kubuntu kubantu bumva bafite umurwanyi wubutwari wuburenganzira numuntu ufite byose.
Natage ikomeza umubano wimibereho
Reka dutangire neza ko ntamuntu ukunda cyane, bararakaye. Barambiwe nabo. Ntibishoboka kumva amasaha, ni izihebana babo bumvira kandi beza, abanyeshuri beza, bavuga umugabo mwiza cyane, uko basoma mubyumba byabo bitatu muri iki kigo na buri sock mu mwanya wabo. Ntakintu nakimwe cyo kuvuga.
Ibibazo bihita bitanga impamvu yo kwibuka ibibazo byabo, gusangira ibyababayeho, utange inama yubwenge, hamwe kugirango uhuze kandi amaherezo wumve ko bagize uruhare runini rwabantu bahuje ibitekerezo.
Imibereho iteza imbere ibyemezo
Ibibazo - kimwe, mubyukuri, gutabaza: Nabaye kuri Shayze, mpanganye kandi umbwire icyo gukora. Niba witotombera abantu beza - ni ukuvuga, abumva ibibazo - urashobora kubona igisubizo kandi gikwiye inama. No kwishima no gutuza hamwe ninama mubisanzwe ntizizamuka.
Kureba Kuzamura Kwihesha agaciro
Mu 1996, imitekerereze ya psychologus robin kovalski yakoze ubushakashatsi kandi imenye ko kwiyubahwa kwiheba ari hejuru cyane kuruta abafite guceceka. Hano, mubyukuri, guhuza byombi. Ku ruhande rumwe, abantu bizere ubwabo bizeye ko ibibazo byabo bishimishije kandi ntibigira isoni kubasuka hafi. Ku rundi ruhande, iyo witotombeye, abantu bose baragutabaho, bafungura umunwa, ubupfu no kunezeza: "Yego, biteye ubwoba." Gutekereza gukomeye ni byiza. Irema kumva ko uri umuntu wingenzi, ntabwo ari ogotie ya societe.