Ngeze murugo nyuma y'ibitaro by'ababyeyi, ananiwe, byavunitse, ariko byishimira ko ibintu byose bimeze neza n'umwana, sinatekereza no ku mwana wa kabiri. Nubwo bimeze bityo ariko, ikibazo kijyanye no "ku wa kabiri", kugeza na n'ubu: mu bikinisho, gususuza bene wabo bitera, ku kazi no mu nama n'abakobwa bakobwa. Uyu munsi ndangije gusubiza utuje: nta na rimwe. Kubisanzwe, birumvikana ko hari impaka igihumbi n'imwe, kuki ngomba kubyara byibuze umwe. Nanjye ubwanjye nateguye impamvu zituma nshobora kandi mfite uburenganzira bwuzuye ntirishaka kubinyuramo.
Ako kanya nzavuga ko ingingo yanjye ntabwo ari umuhamagaro kandi ntabwo kwiyamamaza ntabyare. Ubu ni umubano wanjye muri iki gihe. Muri icyo gihe, ntabwo mpakana ko bishoboka kugaragara k'umwana wa kabiri mu muryango wacu. Sinshobora kumenya neza ko imyifatire yanjye itazihinduka, cyangwa ahari uko ubukungu bwimari bwumuryango wacu buzahinduka neza kandi nzumva ibiteganijwe.
Ariko kumwanya sinshaka umwana wa kabiri, kuko:
Ubuzima bwanjye ntabwo bugaruwe byuzuye, kandi umubiri wanjye ntiwakire ivuka rya mbere
Nubwo gutwita byakomeje, nari mobile nyinshi kandi nagiye mu mijyi n'uturere, njya ku misozi, igihe cyo gukira cyararemereye. Imikorere ya cop hamwe nibuye muri impyiko byakuze cyane mugihe utwite byagize ingaruka cyane mubuzima bwanjye. Kandi sinshaka kongera kubinyuramo. Nisezeranye mu buzima bwanjye, nkoresha amafaranga menshi ku baganga beza kandi ntagishaka kugira ububabare.Igitekerezo cyo Gusubiramo CYEREAN kigira ubwoba bwinshi
Iyo numvise inkuru zinshuti zanjye ninshuti kubijyanye nibikorwa biri imbere, bikubiyemo amahano nyayo. Muri rusange, nagize ibitaro byiza byo kubyara, abaganga beza, ababyaza, Urugereko rufite hamwe, ariko ububabare bubazwa nanjye, nkaho inkovu ikomeje kubabaza. Ntabwo narokotse muri aya mezi make, ntabwo nakoze imbere, ntiyibagiwe, sinzongera kwiyagirana.
Umwana asaba amafaranga menshi yimari
Niba imyenda n'inkweto bishobora gukiza no kwimuka ku murage w'abakobwa n'abavandimwe, hanyuma ibiryo, imiti, imiti y'abana igomba kugura buri gihe, kandi ifite agaciro kanini. Ku nyungu zita ku nyungu, turasekeje gusa mu gihugu, ndetse tugakora ku mugaragaro, ntabwo ari ngombwa kubara ku kwishyura neza buri kwezi. Ndashaka imodoka nshya, ndashaka ibintu byiza no gusana neza munzu, kuntuga kumarana umutekano uhagije kuri umwana.Gusa nagiye kukazi ndeba ubwanjye, ariko ibyiringiro byumwuga
Nibyo, nagiye kukazi igihe umuhungu wanjye yari 1.7, kuko reba ingingo 3. Inzira yo gukora yari ifite imitsi nubunararibonye, nagerageje cyane kwerekana ko mfite uburenganzira bwo kwigarurira umwanya wanjye. Njyese nagombaga gukora duhereye ku rukemu. Noneho, mbonye kuzamurwa kwambere mubuzima, sinshaka kuva mu itegeko rya kabiri. Ndahaguruka saa kumi n'ebyiri za mugitondo, ndarushye, ariko icyarimwe hamwe nibi kukazi ngiye. Nkora ibyo nkunda kandi birashimishije. Amaherezo, nkura inzoka, kandi nimugoroba kandi muri wikendi nishimiye cyane kumarana numuhungu wanjye: Turasoma, tugasinzira tugabera.
Ndashaka gukora ingendo nyinshi
Mu Kwakira, mfite urugendo rwa mbere mu burayi. Nzareka kwinezeza iminsi itanu. Birumvikana ko mfite impungenge kandi mpangayitse, ariko icyarimwe ndategereje kutiha kuri iki gihe. Ntabwo nagurukaga mu mahanga, nari mfite hafi imyaka itatu, ntabwo nahawe. Ubuzima bwanjye bwose ndota gutembera. Noneho, igihe Umwana amaze gukura gato, nzishimira kumusiga kuruhuka niba bishoboka, nzishimira ku ngendo zubucuruzi kandi nzabireka hamwe na papa. Kubaho umwana wa kabiri ntibizanyemerera kuba mobile, nubwo mbyumva ko ushobora kugendana nabana babiri.Mfite umwana utuje cyane
Byasa nkaho ari impaka gusa kugaragara k'umwana wa kabiri. Ariko oya, sinshaka neza kuko ntashobora kumenya neza ko umwana wa kabiri azaba impano imwe. Kandi ntawe ushobora. Ubu ni bwo bwoko bwa tombora, ntabwo ari amahirwe muri uyu mukino. Mu babyeyi bamwe, abana batandukanye bavutse: bafite imiterere itandukanye ninyuguti. Ubu ndimo kumenyera umwana umwe hamwe na gahunda n'imyitwarire ye, kandi sinshaka kurenga kuri iyi idyll.
Kubyara cyangwa kutabyara abana ba mbere, ya kabiri cyangwa nyuma - ikibazo cyababyeyi
Uburenganzira bukomeye bwo gutora bugomba kuba ibyacu, kuko ni bwo dukoresha umutungo wacu wo kwihangana, tubyara no kurera umwana. Ibibazo byerekeranye nigihe umugore yagiye mubitaro byababyeyi kugirango akurikira, nibyiza kugendana na we, buri wese muri twe nta mpamvu yo kujyayo. Niba utaganiriye kuri iki kibazo, bivuze ko atari ubucuruzi bwawe.
Umwanditsi Umwanditsi: Evgenia Polyanskaya
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