Nubwo ari we wenyine arira ko ikigo cy'umuryango cyangiritse, abandi bavuga ko yahindutse, akibuka ko umuryango twakundaga gusuzuma uko tubivugamo. Mu gihe kimwe nacyo cyagaragaye aho kuba undi muntu ubwoko umubano.
Hano birashoboka gutangiza urugwiro, ariko ntituzabikora. Ibi byahise bituruka kuri twe ntirizongera guhunga, birashimishije cyane gukosora impinduka zihuta. Iyo abahanga mu kwishoramari bavuga ubwoko bushya bwumuryango, umuryango wumubyeyi umwe numwana uzengurutse, undi - ubukwe bwubusa, icya gatatu - Ubukwe bungana. Ariko hariho ubundi bwoko bushya. Byagaragaye bitewe no gukwirakwizwa gutandukana. Noneho, iyo gutandukana bidakemutse kubera undi, abahoze bashakanye akenshi, bamaze kuzamura umubano mushya, bashyigikira umubano mwiza, kandi nyoko na se w'ikinege bakunze kuba kumazu abiri, bakunda urukundo rwuzuye Ababyeyi ndetse n'ubucuti bw'ubucuti n'abavandimwe na bashiki bacu bahujwe.Twasabye abagore bane kuvuga uburyo imiryango yabo yaguye kuva babiri hamwe nabana babo baba.
Moscou
Jye n'umugabo wanjye twatanye hashize imyaka itandatu, hashize imyaka ine nashyingiwe, hanyuma arongora. Dufite abakobwa babiri bari kumwe (11 na 9), ku mugore mushya w'uwahoze ari umuhungu wanjye (imyaka 8), twese dutekereza ku bana bashya mu bashakanye bashya, ariko tutabona amahirwe y'imari. Nibwo abana bakura kandi nabo ubwabo bahinduka akazi, hari ukuntu bitanga ibyo bakeneye, ahari, no gutangira.
Abantu bakuru bose bafite umubano mwiza, ntabwo ari urwo rukundo kandi ubucuti nubucuti, tubona ko turi umuryango munini, ndetse n'ababyeyi bacu baramenyereye. Ibi ntibisobanura ko tubana hamwe: kandi amazu ningengo yimari dufite. Abakobwa banjye barara muri wikendi, rwose haramarana umwanya numuvandimwe wahujwe (afite "papa" oya).
Dukora ibiruhuko byose hamwe (nacyo ndabifite), twese dushobora guhurira hamwe kugirango dushyigikire umuntu mubana mumagambo, mumarushanwa ya siporo. Umugabo wanjye yahimbye mu bihe nk'ibi kugira ngo yambure indena imwe, bisa nkaho turi itsinda ryumuntu ku bafana b'abana. Abana bajya ku ruziga rumwe (koga, Aikido na Elleysing ibumba) kandi bagakomeza kuba inshuti cyane. Ahari umuryango wacu munini muri rusange ni urugwiro kuruta uko nasambanijwe. Ahari ikigaragara nuko tuba hafi yacu, nababyeyi na murumuna wanjye - kurundi ruhande rwa Moscou.
Rostov-On-Don
Twahukanye hashize imyaka igera kuri icumi, dufite umwana usanzwe (Mwana, ufite imyaka 16) n'abana bava mu bashakanye bashya (Mfite undi muhungu w'imyaka 7, ku wahoze ari umugabo w'umukobwa,. Imiryango yacu yombi irasanzwe, ahari muriki gihe, ariko byatworoheye kwakira ko tuba ari impamyabumenyi imwe kuri bagenzi babo. Byongeye kandi, twahise dusanga ko twunguka - kubungabunga umubano wumuryango. Ubwa mbere, twe hamwe numugabo wacu wahoze ari akazu; Ntabwo twasangiye, ariko imbaraga zisanzwe zari zemewe kandi zikaruhuka mu cyi, bose hamwe, harimo n'Umwana wumugabo wanjye wubu kuva mubukwe bwe bwa mbere (imyaka 11).
Iyo uyobowe nubukungu bwihuriweho, bihinduka inyungu nyinshi. Ikintu nyamukuru nugukwirakwiza uturere twinshingano, kugirango tudashishoze, dukurikirana mu gikoni, kurugero. Twe nkurwibutso, tuganira kuri byose, guhitamo vuba uwo n'igikora, kandi ibintu byose bigenda neza. Igihe twasangaga mu mpeshyi, twishyuye amafaranga yo kugura hamwe no guteka ibiryo, tumarana amafaranga make, twahisemo gukora igice cyo guhaha mu mwaka, mu gihe kinini. Byongeye kandi, zimwe mumyenda n'ibikinisho biva kumwana kugeza ku mwana, nabyo ni byiza kandi mubukungu. Umuhungu usanzwe muri wikendi ntabwo ari ukuturuka kuri Data, ahubwo usuye nyirakuru na sekuru - ababyeyi banjye, baramukunda cyane. Muri iyi minsi yanjye, uyu mugabo wanjye muriyi minsi, azura. Abana babana, nubwo itandukaniro riri mumyaka ya quadric kugirango ibe intangarugero. Ariko bose bumva ko bafite umuryango, abantu babo bazahora bashyigikiye, ni ngombwa.
Kiev
Nari mfite umugabo utoroshye, ariko nahise nterana na mushiki we na bashiki be umuryango, bose barakinguye, bishimye kandi bafite urugwiro kandi bahuye n'ababyeyi bo mushiki wanjye. Hamwe n'umugabo wanjye, twaratandukanye cyane, kandi sindakundana na we rwose, kandi ntamukwemerera kuvugana n'umukobwa wacu (imyaka 6). Ariko nyuma yo gutandukana, mushiki wahoze yahise avuga ko mpama inshuti ye na nyina wicyubahiro be kandi yari kwishima ndamutse myogeyeho (umukobwa umwe - urungano rwanjye). Na mushiki wawe wahoze kandi umuryango we wose wadufashaga kandi akadufasha kandi ubufasha, ntabwo ari ugufasha gusa, natangiye gushyingirwa, natangiye kwicarana numwana - hariho Nta burezi nabwo), ariko nanone.
Dukunze kujyana ku nshuti, tubaho mubyukuri mumazu duturanye, dufashanya gusohoka. Dufite ifunguro rya nimugoroba n'umukobwa wanjye ku cyumweru, nimugoroba na mushiki wanjye na nyina na nyina na nyina bateranira hamwe, bishimangira cyane, baganira mu makuru, muganire ku makuru. Hashize amezi abiri, nari mfite umukunzi, kandi na we arabyemera cyane, rimwe na rimwe anyishyize ku ruzinduko mu muryango wa mushiki wa mushiki wa weekend. Ntabwo ari mumuryango munini ube mwiza, ndatekereza, ariko mubucuti kandi wishimye, nkiyi - umunezero nyawo. Umwaka utaha, abakobwa bacu bazajya mwishuri hamwe, turashaka kuzindika mucyiciro kimwe.
St. Petersburg
Dufite inkuru idasanzwe muri rusange. Umugabo wanjye wahoze kandi uriho yahoze ari inshuti nziza, hanyuma barashyingirwa, hanyuma ... Mu myaka mike bakunze abagore, ni ukuvuga ko umugabo wanjye wahoze ashakanye n'uwahoze ari umugore wanjye. Mu mizo ya mbere, ibintu byari biteye ubwoba, igihe cyose cyumvikane, ariko hari ukuntu bituje, baratandukanye barakubita urushyi. Kandi bamenye ko tudashaka gutakaza, kuko twese turi abantu beza bakeneye gufatwa.
Mubukwe bwa mbere, nta mwana twari dufite, ubu tumaze kubyara, mfite umukobwa, mu muhungu wanjye wahoze ari umuhungu wanjye, hafi imyaka itatu. Twese tuba mu gikari kimwe, kandi duhita duhuje umugore wumugore wanjye yahujwe no kwita kubana, byatanze amahirwe yo kuruhuka. Abagabo bamenyereye gusa guteka. Byongeye kandi, dukora igice cyo kugura hamwe, kurugero, injangwe zacu ziroroshye kugura ibiryo mubwinshi, ibicuruzwa biroroshye kandi bihendutse kugura amashyaka manini. Iyo abana babaye mukuru, turateganya kujya kuruhukira ahantu runaka, bityo rero bigomba kubahendutse. Ababyeyi bacu baratangaye mbere, ariko ababyeyi b'ubu kandi ibyahoze na bo bari inshuti igihe kirekire, kandi abahoze ari abagore bahoze bafashe umwanzuro ko isi yoroheje iruta amakimbirane nziza, kandi ishyizeho twe na twe bose. Ntibashobora kudufasha cyane, kandi turacyafite.
Umwaka mushya Tugiye guhura n'Umuyobozi: Jyewe, umugabo wanjye, umugabo wanjye, wahoze ari umugore wanjye (ni we wahoze ari umugabo wanjye) n'abana. Mubyukuri, uzaba umwaka mushya wambere, buri wese muri twe azahura nayo ntabwo ari mumuryango wababyeyi. Nizere ko ibi bizaba intangiriro yumuryango mwiza wumuryango. Rimwe na rimwe turabazwa niba tudakomeje gusinzira hamwe na mbere, ariko tumaze igihe kinini dukemuye umubano, ntabwo tudukurura. Ntabwo dukora n'abandi bantu kandi tugashaka gukomeza.
Ingingo yateguye: Lilith Mazikina