Twe muri pic.ru Turababajwe n'imbaga y'abantu, bagenda munsi y'ibendera "kugira ngo ducire", "ibyago", "iyi ni karma yawe." Niba uri kumwe natwe icyarimwe, reka turwanye abashinjacyaha kugira ngo basangire iyi ngingo ya psychologue Julia Angram. Kugirango byoroshye, twatemye inyandiko kubyo ingingo zingenzi.
Umwe mukundana wanjye yararwaye. Yari afite imbaraga zo kwerekana imyambarire kandi agerageza gusaba ubufasha buke bwambaye muri Guru. Aho gushyigikira, umujyanama wo mu mwuka yasabye gutekereza ku "masomo" amwigisha iyo ndwara. Umugore ufite ikibazo cyo gufata urugo agwa muburiri adafite imbaraga. Kumyaka 36 yakazi, imitekerereze ya psychotherapiste nabonye abakiriya benshi bakorewe abantu nka giru. Nibyo bakunze kubwira abantu baguye mubibazo:- Ntugire ikibazo, kuko ibintu byose bitampanuka mubuzima
- Ntamuntu ushobora kukugirira nabi utabanje kubiherwa uruhushya
- Ndabaza impamvu wemeye kurwara?
- Ni karma yawe gusa
- Impanuka ntizibaho
- Tugomba gushinja ibintu byose bitubaho
Nita ikigereranyo cya "Gishya-Ibihe" (Imyaka Nshya ni izina rusange ryitsinda ryitsinda ryimiterere itandukanye muri 70. Icyitonderwa cya TheUrans. Bwa mbere nakoresheje iyi mvugo nyuma yo kujya muri 90 njya mu nyigisho GURU itaha. Yavuze uburyo "kurema ukuri kwacu".
Umwe mu bamuteze amatwi yadusangiye uburyo yigisha umukobwa we gutwara igare. Umukobwa muto yaguye arapfukama, nyina ntiyamuhumuriza. Yategetse umwana kwicara no gutekereza uko yashizeho ibi byabaye mubitekerezo byabo. Kubwoba bwanjye, abantu bose bashimye iyi nkuru. Guru yizeraga ko abana bagomba gusobanukirwa: ibintu byose bibaho nabi nabo gusa amakosa yabo.
Ni wowe ugomba kubiryozwa
Birumvikana ko kwizera ko tugira ingaruka ku rubera yacu birashobora gutera imbaraga kubantu bamwe. Abakiriya banje bizeye byimazeyo ko bashinzwe ibibera mubuzima bwabo, bahanganye no gukomeretsa imitekerereze yo kugarura imitekerereze kuruta abakomereje mu kimwaro / kuzunguruka cyangwa kubandi). Ariko iyi ntabwo ari imiti rusange.
Imwe mu ncuti yanjye, Genedang, yabuze indwara ya leukemia. Mugushakisha igisubizo kubibazo, nkibyo, yaje i Budisime. Kwizera kumutuje, byongeye nongeye gusubira inyuma. Gene yemera ko ubuzima bwe bushingiye rwose kuri karma ye. Ariko ntabwo yigeze ashimangira ko yigisha Budiyame mu matsinda y'abarwayi ba kanseri ati: "Sinzi niba rero bidakwiye kuri yo."
Umupaka ni ngombwa cyane. Kubona imyizerere yawe ni inzira. Niba uhari, watangiye gukira nyuma yihohoterwa rishingiye ku gitsina, icyiciro cya mbere cyakazi ni ukunesha imyizerere ikunzwe "kubiryozwa". Iyi myizerere ntabwo igutera imbaraga.
Mu myitozo yanjye yubuvuzi, ntabwo nahuye numuntu wese utazanyura mu ntambwe yo kwigaragaza. Akenshi, ikintu cyose gifite imbaraga zihagije kubakiriya mugihe cyambere cyakazi, ni ukumva ko ihohoterwa ari ryo riryozwa, mubyukuri, umufata kungufu. Mbwira umukiriya utishoboye twose twose b'abirabura b'ibyishimo byacu, kandi muramuheza mu kwicira urubanza.
Abajyanama bakora mu buhungiro bw'abagore bahuye n'ihohoterwa rishingiye ku muryango cyangwa abahohotewe bazize igitero kirekire kandi gikomeye kubakiriya babo ari ukugarura ibyiyumvo mubuzima bwabo. Bizaba ubugome cyane ku mugore wiciriritse, icyo yari afite icyaha. Nshishikarizwa abakiriya gutekereza neza ku myizerere, ukurikije iki ukeneye kuzigama umubano gikomeye cyangwa umurimo mubi, kuko "Hariho amasomo agomba kwiba" cyangwa "nka karma". Ahari ahari muriki gihe uroga wenyine.
Kuki rero bavuga?
Abantu bakunze gukora babishaka bivuye kumugararira. Ariko baribeshye. Kurugero, duhereye kubibabi, ntidushobora kumenya hakiri kare ibisubizo byibikorwa byacu bazibukwa, ibyo bikorwa byashize byakoze ibisubizo nkibi. Kubwibyo, niba umuntu asubije ubunararibonye mu nteruro "Ni karma nkaya", bivuze ko adafite ibyiyumvo byo kwishyira mu mwanya impuhwe kandi ntasobanukirwa neza karma.
Duhereye kuri psychologiya hari indi mpamvu yabahohotewe. Vicky Sharp, inzobere mu gukorana n'abahohotewe, isobanura muri ubu buryo: "Abantu bakunda kuba abahohotewe, kuko bituma bumva badafite intege nke no kugenzura byinshi. Batongana: Hano umugore yigeze kuva mu idirishya nijoro, yurira mu nzu aramusambanya ku gahato. Yafashwe ku ngufu kuko yakoze ikintu kibi. Yasize idirishya, kandi sinzabikora, nanjye mfite umutekano. "
Ba uko bishoboka, iyi mjwi irasobanura gusoma no gutanga inama zidajanjaguwe. Ahari twese twakwigira kuri Buda, birashoboka ko, byavuzwe kubyerekeye imyizerere ikurikira: "Ntukizere ikintu cyose kuko cyavuze ko umunyabwenge kuko yavuze. Ntukizere ikintu cyose kuko cyemewe. Ntukizere ikintu cyose kuko cyanditswe. Ntukizere ikintu cyose kuko bavuga ko ari imana. Ntukizere ikintu cyose kuko umuntu abyemera. Izere gusa ibyo wowe ubwawe wanze ari umwizerwa. "
Inkomoko: Juliangram.com.