Mu 1961, Phyllis w'imyaka 22 y'amavuko yashakaga akazi. Yavuze ko hashyizweho umwanya wa kaminuza ya Harvard yo mu mijyi no mu karere ka Harvard, ariko aho kuba "yego" cyangwa "Oya" yakiriwe na Porofeseri Umufasha William Döbel, umurimo wo kwerekana ko abarimu badakoresheje igihe cyo guhugurwa.
Ati: "Ibyababayeho, ndetse n'abagore b'abakobwa beza, berekanye ko abagore bashakanye bigoye gukora umwuga mwiza wo gutegura, bityo bakaba bumva ko igihe n'imbaraga bimaze kubona imyuga byimyuga byarafunzwe. (Ibi, byanze bikunze, bireba hafi amabwiriza yose yo kwiga amashuri makuru).
Rero, kubwinyungu zawe, kandi kugirango udufashe kuza kubyemezo byanyuma, ntushobora kutwandikira impapuro imwe cyangwa ebyiri, mugihe bigukosoye, biragaragara ko usubiza uburyo uteganya guhuza ubuzima bwumwuga muri Gutegura imijyi hamwe ninshingano zawe imbere yuwo mwashakanye numuryango ushobora ejo hazaza? "
Richman yahisemo kutamara umwanya wo kwerekana ko akwiye uburenganzira bwo guhuza urugo no gukora. Nyuma yimyaka 52 gusa, muri 2013, kuba umwanditsi uzwi (ahiza ibihembo "Agatha Christie") hamwe no kunegura resitora, Madamu Machman, amaherezo, yahimbye inyandiko kuri Priteli. Kandi twagushizeho, kuko dutekereza ko iyi ari inkuru yigisha cyane.
Ati: "Ndasaba imbabazi ko ntasubije ibaruwa yawe kuva muri Kamena 1961 igihe kirekire. Mugihe wahanuye, nari mpuze cyane. Mperutse gusezereye mu gukurura impapuro, yatsitaye ku butumwa bwawe maze amenya ko nubwo natangiye kubiganiraho, sinigeze ngusubiza mu nyandiko.
Ibaruwa yawe mu 1961 yankubise mu kajagari, ariko ntiyayikubita inzira. Nubwo abategarugori b'iki gihe cyanjye bakunze gukoresha umwuga wingenzi, benshi muribo byabaye kugirango batsinde inzitizi mu nzira zabo. Kugeza ibaruwa yawe, ntabwo nambajije kuri njye ko ishyingiranwa ryanjye rishobora kubangamira ko nzanjyana kuri Harvard cyangwa kwangiza umwuga wanjye. Nacitse intege cyane kubisubizo byawe ko ntashobora kurangiza igisubizo cyanjye. Kandi nari nacitse intege cyane ku buryo ntangirana nawe igihe twahuye kugiti cyanjye.
Icyo gihe sinari nzi gutangira kwandika inyandiko wasabye. Ariko ubu, nyuma yubukwe bubiri, hamwe nabana batatu numwuga wanditse neza, ndabishoboye, nkuko ushyira "gusubiza" ushidikanya ko uzwiho ko uzirikana ko uzwiho ko uzirikana ko uzwiho ko uzirikana ko uzwiho ko uzirikana ko uzwiho ko uzirikana ko uzwiho ko uzirikana ko uzwiho ko uzirikana ko uzwiho ko uzitabira ibaruwa.
Ntabwo nujuje umugore umwe, "wakumva ko igihe n'imbaraga byagiye mu burezi bwimyuga." Ntabwo nigeze nicuza umuntu kubijyanye ninzira imwe. Muri rusange, namaze mu mashuri makuru hafi y'imyaka icumi, nubwo yamenetse, kubera ko "inshingano zanjye imbere y'uwo mwashakanye", nk'uko wabimenyeshejwe n'uwo mwashakanye ", mu gihe we ubwe yarangije ku mugabo, mu gihe we ubwe yarangije ishuri ryangiza - Kandi wari umushinga wimyaka 10.
Irashobora gushimangira kwizera kwawe mubyo gushyingirwa n'umuryango byafunze imikurire yanjye yabigize umwuga, ariko ndatekereza ko niba nemerewe muri Harvard, umwuga wanjye wangana n'umwuga w'umugabo we. Nubwo amaherezo nakuye ubuzima bwumwuga kandi uhembwa neza, ibaruwa yawe yerekana umubare wa Harvard, tutavuga umugabo wanjye, tutavuga ko nanjye ubwanjye mfite igihe natangiraga iyo natangiye gutunga inzira.
Mugihe wahanuye, "umuryango ushoboka" wabaye impamo nyuma yimyaka itanu nyuma yo gushyingirwa alvin. Igihe umwana wanjye wa mbere yavukaga, nafashe ikiruhuko mu kazi ngo nkore. Yakiriye kandi umugore wawe wa mbere, ubwo twabwiraga bwa mbere muri 1961. Birashoboka ko utibuka, ariko yari urugero wakoresheje kugirango usobanure impamvu abagore bari mu burezi bugari. Ikibazo, ndakeka, cyari gitobanye nurwego rwawe rwigihe gito. Google irambwira ko umugore wawe yakiriye impamyabumenyi ya shebuja babiri n'urwego rwa muganga. Ifite umwirondoro utangaje, harimo ubushakashatsi, igenamigambi ryinama nibikorwa mbonezamubano. Uracyatekereza ko amashuri ye ari uguta igihe?
Mu 1970, twimukiye i Washington, kandi nakomeje gukora impamyabumenyi ya databuja. Ariko nagombaga kumubura, kuko umurimo wanjye wa siyansi wahuye nimbogamizi zidasubirwaho. Kwita ku bana, nitoje muri benshi. Igihe nari mfite umwana umwe, nashoboraga kumuhambira ubwanjye kandi nkajyana nanjye mu ngendo zubucuruzi. Nashoboye guhangana na babiri: nize imyifatire y'abaganga no konsa, kandi yashoboraga kwandika, kwita ku bana ku gikinisho. Hamwe n'abana batatu, nagerageje gushakisha imyumvire y'abana b'amoko, ariko barandanjagura. Nari nkeneye nanny, ariko nannies yasaga nkuburyo bwiza, nkuko nabitaye. Hanyuma natanze igikoni mu nzu yacu, hubakwa igikoni mu nsimbi kandi atamba icumbi ry'abanyeshuri bo mu rwego rw'abanyeshuri ba kaminuza mu rwego rwo kwita ku bana.
Igikorwa c'umwanditsi wa Freelancer, nk'uko nabimenye, ni byiza ko guhinga abana. Nashoboraga kwandika ahantu - muri parike, mugihe abana bafashe ibikeri n'amasasu, cyangwa murugo, nijoro, mugihe basinziriye. Niba nibanze ku ngingo nko gusuzuma ice cream cyangwa gupima urugo rwa microwave amasako, nashoboraga gushimisha no kugaburira abana, icyarimwe.
Kubwamahirwe, iyo ukorera umwanditsi, hasi ni munsi yindi mirimo yose. Ibicuruzwa byiganjemo isuzumwa nibyo babona kurupapuro kuruta ibindi byose. Ariko nubwo umwuga wanjye watangiye kubona imbaraga, imirwano nubusanzwe igitsina nticyahagaze. Babiri mu bana banjye biyandikishije mu Bwana ku ishuri ryigenga. Bidatinze, nakiriye umurimo wo kumara ibyumweru bibiri, kwiga muri resitora mu Bushinwa. Amahirwe adasanzwe mu 1980. Umugabo wanjye yahisemo kujyana nanjye. Twahamagariwe ku ishuri kandi turansoma rwose, kuko tuvuye abana bacu. Nubwo nasanze abanyeshuri batatu bashuri bakorana nabo babaye abicaye. Byongeye kandi, abanyeshuri bari biteguye gusimbuza ababyeyi n'abavandimwe banjye na bashiki bacu. Ariko ishuri ryashimangiye ko mpagaze urugendo. Ntamuntu wavuze ko umugabo wanjye nawe agenda murugendo.
Twembi twagiye mu Bushinwa. Abana bacu bahanganye. Kubera iyo mpamvu, bageze kubintu byose nshobora kwizera - nk'ababigize umwuga, abaturage, ababyeyi. Bishimiye intsinzi zanjye kandi birashoboka, ubu, igihe nagiye mu kiruhuko cy'izabukuru, urabakundwa cyane. Igihe cyanjye gituwe n'indwara idakira, uruhare rushya rw'abanditsi ndetse n'abashinzwe umutekano mbonezamubano, umugabo mushya (kandi umurikirwa) n'ahasekuru gushya kw'abazukuru. "
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Richman yarangije ibaruwa ye Döbel asinya icyifuzo cyo gushyigikira abubatsi brott brown. Yavuze ibyo atigeze avuga nubwo nubwo inzitizi zose, yarwanije inyigisho kandi igakora muri Komisiyo mu Komisiyo ishinzwe ibiro by'imirwano ya Philadelphia.
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