Umunyamakuru na Mama, uba muri Alaska, bavuga ibyamubayeho nk'umubyeyi urera ndetse nibyo abahanga bavuga ku bana bo mu miryango mito nka "Jye na Mama".
Nari mfite imyaka makumyabiri n'itandatu gusa igihe nahisemo kubanza kwishingikiriza ku bugabo bwanjye. Birumvikana ko nari umusore kubona amaso ya oblique yabantu batumva impamvu nahisemo inzira nkiyi.
Ku bw'ubutabera, iherezo rya nyina umwe ntabwo ryigeze riba inzozi zanjye. Ariko igihe nabwiwe ko uburumbuke bwanjye bwasenyutse kandi ubushobozi bwanjye bwo gusama ubu cyangwa butazigera bugwa, nari nzi ko nzahitamo kuba umubyeyi umwe.
Isanzure ryagize gahunda zabo, kandi kugerageza gutwita byananiranye muburyo bwababaye. Ariko nyuma yimyaka mike, amezi abiri nyuma yimyaka mirongo itandatu, nahawe amahirwe yo gufata umukobwa muto. Navuze "yego" kandi ntituzigere na rimwe twicuza aya mahitamo.
Birumvikana ko niba warataye kubitekerezo kuri interineti, ushobora gutekereza ko umukobwa wanjye yarimbutse. "Imibare kuri bagenzi bacu bonyine bateye ubwoba!" - Menyesha ibyatazwi. Ati: "Abana babo ni ahantu hahanamye cyane kugira ngo bakoreshe ibiyobyabwenge, kwirukanwa mu mashuri makuru no kurangiza muri gereza!"
Iyi mibare ikunze kugerageza kunkubita umuhanda, nhitamo. Ariko yimbitse mu bugingo, nahoraga nzi ko ataguhagarariye cyangwa umukobwa wanjye.
Nishakishije uruhare rwa Mama umwe, numva neza ibyo twiyandikishije. Mfite ishuri inyuma yanjye, umwuga mwiza, ubuzima buhamye hamwe na sisitemu idasanzwe. Nka babyeyi hafi ya bose bahisemo gutya, ntabwo nigeze kubaho munsi yumurongo wubukene. Ntabwo nigeze mpangayika kubera ibiyobyabwenge, ntabwo byagaragaye ko ari gutwita bidateganijwe kandi ntibyahuye n'uko se w'umwana yantaye. Iyi mibare ikubiyemo ababyeyi benshi barera abana, bahatirwa guhangana n'ikirundo cyose cyibibazo, ibyo ntibireba mubuzima bwanjye, kandi nari nzi ko bigomba kwitabwaho.
Biragaragara, nari mvuze ukuri. Vuba aha, ubushakashatsi bwasohotse, bugereranya abana nababyeyi barabatsimbiye nkana badakundana, hamwe nabana mumiryango bafite ababyeyi babiri batandukanye. Kandi uzi icyo cyahishuye? Ibyo rwose "nta tandukaniro mu mibanire y'ababyeyi no guteza imbere umwana."
Abana ni bameze neza. Imibereho yabo n'iterambere ryose ikomeza nkuko bikwiye. Ntabwo ari bose binjira mumibare ivanga hamwe nababyeyi barera abana.
Ariko tuvuge iki ku bizeye ko abana kubera iterambere bakeneye ababyeyi bombi? Umushakashatsi wa Matilde Brewaeyscher yagize icyo avuga kuri uyu mwanya.
Asobanura agira ati: "Gutekereza ko umwana ari bibi gukura mu muryango adafite se, ashingiye cyane cyane ku nyigisho y'ababyeyi batanye kandi barokotse amakimbirane mu muryango." "Nubwo bimeze bityo ariko, kimwe no kuba iterambere ry'abana bigira ingaruka mbi kubibazo by'abana ndetse n'imibanire y'ababyeyi, kandi ntabwo ari Data."
Imyaka itanu irashize, ubushakashatsi nk'ubwo bwerekeye ababyeyi bahuje igitsina byatanze ibisubizo bimwe. Nari nzi kandi ko bishobora kwagurwa ku babyeyi bibarutse nkana nta mufatanyabikorwa, ariko byari byiza cyane ku buryo ibyiyumvo byanjye byemejwe.
Nibyiza kumenya ko ntababaje umukobwa wanjye, utaranyeganye se.
Noneho tumenye ko imiryango "yuzuye" ihitamo, kugirango umwana azuze, afite ubuzima bwiza kandi akundwa. Kandi, nubwo ubushakashatsi bwibanze ku babyeyi barera abana, ndatekereza ko bishimangira ko nta mubyeyi agomba guhimba umwana uzuzuza iyo mibare. Kuba umubyeyi umwe ntabwo bihagije kubisubizo nk'ibyo, hari ibindi bintu muri uyu mukino.
Umwanzuro ni uko tutari imibare. Natwe dushoboye kandi gukomera, abana batsinze, batera imbere, nkundi muryango.
Niba utemera, reba gusa kugenzura umukobwa wanjye mumyaka makumyabiri. Kuri njye mbona ko bizaba umuntu usanzwe.
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