Vuba aha, habaye ingingo kuri Network, yakurikije ko imanza zitoroshye, abagore batizera cyane ni abadafite ikibazo na mama Vaaabsh. Ntabwo dufite ibyo tubyemera. Ariko, ishyano, ibibazo bya mama muri bagenzi bacu bibaho kenshi kuruta Caries. Kandi nta kubabaza.
Hariho ibibazo gakondo bitandukanye hagati yibisekuruza, nibibazo gakondo bifitanye isano no kuba abagore benshi badashaka kwibwira ko bageze musaza kugirango babone abantu bakuru badakeneye kwita kubakobwa. Ariko hano turacyahora duhuye (inyongera!) Kandi nukuri ko mama yacu yakuze kandi akabaho muburyo bumwe mu rindi isi, no gukina byinshi kubyerekeye amategeko. Harimo natwe.
Kandi rero, ntushobora kubona utubuto hamwe namaboko azunguza amaboko, umukunzi wumukobwa arahamagarira, yashyize ku ruhande amaguru, aho ushaka gutegereza ko gusobanukirwa no gufasha. Kandi wakora iki?
Umva kandi usubize
Mubyukuri, niba aguhamagaye ngo ubwire ibi byose, noneho usanzwe ari munini. Abakobwa badafite umuntu wo gukomanga kuri Facebook ubaze "Umva, Mama yavuze ko mfite umukecuru uteye ubwoba ku ifoto yanjye. Mbwira, ijosi ryukuri riteye ubwoba cyangwa uyu mubyeyi nuko amasaro yanjye atakunda? " - Noneho rero, jya mu majwi, niba isi yasaze, cyangwa ubwabo barasaze. Ariko kugirango tutasubiza ikibazo nkiki - ku buryo ubajije ikibazo nk'iki, birakenewe igihe kirekire, birebire, burigihe mubucuti nuyu mukobwa mu buryo butaziguye kugirango usubize ukuri. Uko byagenda kose.Muganire kuri gahunda zo Kurinda
"Niki gukora mugihe mu mugongo wateguye inyuma yawe ongeraho ibikoresho?" "Icyo gukora mugihe umwana afite imyaka itanu avuga ko papa ari schmuck akaba yaratsinzwe?" "Icyo gukora mugihe umusore wawe ufite ikibazo kiremereye abajijwe, gusetsa, amaherezo amaherezo ari ubukwe?" "Icyo gukora iyo wakuye mu kabati k'imyenda yawe kandi umanika aho, nka aho?"
Icyo ugomba gukora icyo gukora. Abantu bakuriye mu isi itandukanye rwose muriyindi miterere, nta gitekerezo kuri ibyo bintu nk'ibi bisekeje nk '"imipaka ku giti cye." Nabo ubwabo bambaraga ko bashoboye kugura, ndetse niyo babasha guhindura nyina. Kandi nabo ntibakunze kugira Abaminisitiri. Kandi nta kintu nk'imibanire bwite. Umubano wahoraga uhora uhangayikishijwe n'umuryango wose - Nkuru, kuko we n'umwana wicara, bavandimwe - kuko agomba kuba, kuko bazakenera kuvugana buri gihe kandi bafatanije n'umuryango w'ibi bitumvikana ko Umukobwa yajyanye munzu ... birumvikana ko byarababaje! Kandi abantu bose hamwe bapimwe gushya. Aho ibyago biri aho kujya.
Ntabwo rero byumvikana gutungurwa no kuba biteye ubwoba, "uko ushobora". Ni ngombwa gutekereza no gukora gahunda yo kurinda ikintu cyingenzi, kandi unyure ikintu kidafite akamaro. Nibyo, yego, hari ikintu kigomba gutangwa, kuko umuntu utumva umupaka wamugaye, utuka cyane mugihe agaragaje aho agaragaje ahantu hirya no munsi yukuboko kwera. "Nigute ibi atari ubucuruzi bwanjye? Undi muntu ni iki ??? Nibyiza cyane kutirukana, ariko opedirect. "Mu bwiherero nta kintu gishimishije, tuzanyura mu cyumba cyo kuraramo, hari alubumu kandi ivura."
Kandi urashobora kuzana, cyangwa wumve kandi muganire, cyangwa ahantu runaka kugirango uhaguruke amahitamo. Kurinda umutekano wawe bwite, kandi mama ntirarakara. Ibi ni akazi katoroshye, igenamigambi ryingirakamaro. Imitwe ibiri iruta imwe. Ariko turashimangira - ubufasha bugomba kuba buto: cyangwa ibibazo, ariko bigufi cyane, hamwe numupaka mbere wumvikanyweho, cyangwa igihe kirekire ariko birashoboka rwose. Andika, niba ababana na mama, kandi kuri aderesi yawe ya parcelle kabiri mu mwaka uzana - kandi irayirimo ubwanjye ikuraho.
Kurira
Ufite kimwe. "Urugero. Kandi hano, kurugero. Kandi nanone. Oya, yavuze neza, ntabwo ndasetsa! " Twese dutekereza - nkayo, mama wese ameze nka mam yanjye, kimwe muri njye ibihe byose kandi uhanagura. Ntabwo. Uyu ntabwo ari umukunzi wawe umukobwa mubi. Ntabwo ari uguceceka kwa nyina ikuzimu. Kandi gusa itandukaniro ryimiryango. Byabaye. Ntabwo ari amakosa yawe. Kandi munzira, urazi ko umukobwa wanjye yapfuye hano?Hindura inzobere
Kandi neza, niba ari psychotherapiste. Mubwire. Kuberako bishobora kuba umunyamategeko. Cyangwa, ntukemere ko Uwiteka ya Sedenie yica umutima. Ariko icy'ingenzi ni uko ushobora kuvuga inshuti - ko idashobora kandi idategekwa guhitamo ibintu byose byaguye, wenyine. Kandi niyo inshuti ze zishobora kumufasha - ikirisigara umwuga ubaho.