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Kandi Nagerageje kuwukora njyenyine. Dore urutonde rwe rwingenzi gukora cyangwa kudakora mugihe umugabo wa hafi afite ikibazo cyo mumutwe.
Ntugerageze kubishyira mu gaciro
Ivyo birahambaye na canecane igihe ufise udushya ubwonko. Kumuntu usara, ntukeneye gutora urufunguzo muriyi leta. Niba umusare ya ndege ko yaguye mu kuyega atangira igikuba ngo itangazamakuru ku Utubuto bose yikurikiranya, ifite amahirwe byinshi mpanuka kurusha kuva mu kuyega awushyira.Nibintu bimwe ukora, ugerageza kwigenga umuntu gusuzugura urunigi ruganisha ku gusara. Birashoboka cyane, urayishyiramo amahuza mashya: Ikosa ryinshi, hypothesis. Ibi ni bibi.
Uko ubugome ko bavuza, byose yari gukorwa imbere umuntu yari ku verge ku.
Niba woroheje, ubusazi ni ingaruka zubwonko bwatangijwe, ntuzashobora guhindura inzira muri ubu kunanirwa, kubara generator yimibare idasanzwe. Gukora, tugomba imyaka uburezi bwihariye cyane n'ubunararibonye kandi amahirwe nini, bikaba wowe rwose nta waba amaze muri iyo mimerere.
Kurugero, ntukeneye kugerageza kwiyambaza ibyiza: umuntu ugenda asara, abona ko akazi, amafaranga, inzu nziza, ubuzima bwabakunzi, ikirere cyiza ntabwo aribwo buryo. Navuga kandi udakeneye kugerageza kuyisobanukirwa, naho ubundi ntabwo bashobora akazi counterweight ibisazi.
Guhagarika
Inzira imwe yonyine yo guhangana nubusazi nugurukana mumubiri nkindwara. Kenshi, uzashobora gutsinda igihe cyo gusubiramo uko ntarengwa - gukiza umuntu. Nigute wabikora? Saba umuntu mu buryo burambuye kugira avuge byose bigenda mu mutwe, nta ryamagana mu kintu, ntibitangaje kintu, gusaba, ukagerageza kwiyumvisha no kuvuga ko utahura (nubwo utumva, kuko ntacyo gitwaye ubu) , nta kugaragaza wese imyifatire yawe ibi uretse kugirwa. bakeneye ibisazi gukurwaho ku umucyo ibiyiko, nta bamusiga akaryo bihagije mu mfuruka mwijima no kubona ibice, kuko uyu ukeneye kurivuga.
Niba ukeneye kurangazwa, ukeneye gutanga ikaramu na ikaye muntu kugira ngo yanditse nta guhagarika byose ko biba mu mutwe we. By the way, iyi nyandiko nyuma izafasha mugukorana na psychotherapiste.
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Mu ndege washyizeho mask ya ogisijeni kuri wewe, hanyuma ku mwana. Mubihe byera, ibisazi ni bimwe. Niba utitaye kumubiri kuri wewe (ibiryo, gusinzira, isuku), ntuzashobora gufasha hafi. Niba wemeye gushyira mu kaga, noneho uzagwa munsi yimodoka, kandi hamwe na scenane uri umusazi udasanzwe.Ndetse numuntu wunvikana cyane ahora byoroshye ingaruka zabakunzi, ikurikire ubwawe: Navuga ko umuntu ukorana inkunga yo gushyigikira hafi, birashoboka cyane ko imiti ikenewe.
Wigane ubuzima
Abantu muri rusange ni ibicucu rwose, hafi nkumwanya usanzwe cyangwa injangwe. Umuntu uwo ari we wese, ntabwo ari muburyo bwa psychose gusa, burigihe ni ibicucu kumubiri wabo. Kubwamahirwe, ubwonko bugizwe numubiri. Kwinginga ubuzima ni nkibinyoma kugeza ubikoze, umurimo wawe wenyine ntugomba gufasha umuntu kuba mwiza, ariko uzarokoke.
Kureka ubwenge wenyine nawe igihe kirekire. Nibyiza gukora neza ibyo umuntu ashobora gukora mubijyanye no gukora. Teka hamwe ifunguro rya nimugoroba. Genda muri parike hamwe na ice cream. Reba hamwe film. Kora ibihuza nawe kandi udakenera uhereye kubitekerezo byawe bya hafi, suzuma wowe ubwawe, kwiyagirana numuntu nawe. Genda ahantu runaka umuntu yamye atuje mubuzima busanzwe. Igikorwa cyawe nugukomeza ibitekerezo mumubiri, kuko uyu mubiri ugomba kubeshya - kwigana ubuzima busanzwe.
Ubutaka
Ni ngombwa gukora ikituma ubwonko butwitondera umubiri no gukemura ibimenyetso bituruka kuri byo, aho kuba ibyo ashaka gukora.Ibintu byose birakwiriye birangaza umuntu imyumvire ye mugushyigikira umubiri: icara mu bwiherero, gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina, jya mu bwiherero, jya mu bwiherero, jya mu bwiherero, usohoke ujya mu rundi rwego, ujye kuri massage. Muri rusange, ibice byumubiri ni ngombwa cyane. Ubumva gutandukanya bugomba gutangwa kugirango bumve ko muri rusange atari ubwayo, ariko hano haracyari ubuzima kandi ntamuntu wayihagaritse.
Ibisohoka kuva mu bwigunge, ariko irinde itumanaho ridasanzwe
Iyo ibitekerezo bitandukanijwe numubiri, ikintu kibi cyane cyo gukorwa nukumuha ibintu byiza kuri ibi: Gukomeza inkuta enye, kubika icyifuzo cye cyo kwigunga byuzuye hamwe nubuzima bwayo. Shakisha abantu mubidukikije bishoboka kugirango ucire urubanza no gucirwaho iteka kandi ushobora kwakira umuntu muri iyi leta, kumarana nabo. Rimwe na rimwe kugirango uhagarike ibisazi, rwose guhobera byoroshye. Vuga ibibera nundi muntu.
Iki kintu gifite umwanya utoroshye: Rimwe na rimwe wowe ubwawe uri ikintu cyangirika kuri leta (urugero, niba ufunze). Nubwo aribyo gute, ibaze nawe niba ushobora gukora ukuhaba kwawe mubi kandi utekereza ko ushobora kubikora, ariko kugirango utatera hafi.
Kwihanganira igitero
Birashoboka, iki nikintu gikomeye gishobora kuba mwisi kandi ntakintu gishobora kubivuga. Ni ngombwa kwemera: Bica amacakubiri ntabwo ari hafi, ni uburwayi bwe. Ntushobora kwirukana indwara, ariko rwose uteganya ubwenge bwumuntu ushobora gukizwa niba udafashe reaction yawe. Umukunzi wacu Lutherani Ut hariWiw yavuze ko umukristo nyawe atemera icyaha, atari umunyabyaha. Ntibikenewe kuba abizera gukora ikigereranyo.Muri icyo gihe, igitero ni ngombwa gusesengura, kubera ko igitero nacyo cyo gutwara ibisazi. Ibiva mubitero birashoboka, bihinduka gutya kuko ari ngombwa.
Nta hantu na hamwe wo kongeramo ibitekerezo byo kwiyahura, bityo nzongera hano: shingiraho gusa kubisanzwe, nkukuri, iterabwoba ribi, nubwo umuntu atigeze avugana nuburwayi kandi ntushobora kwiyumvisha ko hafi yayo irashoboye. Ibitekerezo byo kwiyahura ni ugutabaza, ntutekereze kubyirengagiza.
Kata ubwonko
Umugabo uza umusazi ni nka mudasobwa iteye ubwoba. Niba mudasobwa yawe yuzuye, urazimya kugirango ihagarare akazi hanyuma utegereze neza, kimwe numugabo. Kugirango ukore ibi, urashobora kugenda, utume umuntu ukora ikintu, aho arihuta kumubiri (ariko ntugabanye). Umukozi wawe kugirango uzane umubiri kumugoroba kugirango usohoke neza kugirango ubwonko bushobore gukonja no kongera gukora inzozi. Kubwibyo, ni ngombwa cyane kugarura cyangwa gukora uburyo bwo gusinzira kuva kuri zeru (nubwo umuntu adagwa, ntituvuga ubuzima bwiza). Kuba imbuto hamwe ninzoga nuburyo ubwo aribwo bwose buhindura ubwenge budashobora kuba uko aribwo bwose (niba ufite inshuti cyangwa abavandimwe, bakunda, bigabanya imbaraga zabo).
Reba
Umugabo uhanganye n'imbabazi ze ntashobora kuba atabisobanura icyarimwe gukurikira umubiri, kandi ni ifatwa rinini, kuko nta mbaraga zo kurwanya indwara. Shakisha icyo umuntu ashobora kurya muriyi leta akamureba arye akanywa.Irinde Indorerwamo idakenewe
Kurugero, ntukarebe firime intwari yasaze, ibitaramo bidasobanutse, soma Shakespeare, gutangwa mubibazo byo gukomera. Mubuzima busanzwe, ntabwo witondera ibi bintu (ndetse urabashakisha), ariko ni amafaranga menshi abakikije.
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Biganisha kuri psychotherapiste / pstalchiatrist kurubu
Ntabwo ari umupadiri, umupadiri, abo mukorana ku burwayi, ku ihuriro ry'impuguke za sofa, umutoza witerambere, muri siporo cyangwa gukora.Iyo ufite ukuguru kuvunika, ntujya kuri benewayi, uhita ujya kubaga.
Nigute wahitamo umuvuzi?
Birakenewe kumusobanurira neza uko ibintu bimeze muruhande (Noble, hafi yawe ntigushobora kubikora bihagije). Umuvuzi agomba kwigirira icyizere mu ngabo zayo n'uburambe, cyangwa akuyobora mu kindi kigereranyo.
Ongera usuzume umuvuzi mwiza mbere yisomo ryambere biragoye, ariko birashoboka nyuma. Icy'ingenzi: Umuvuzi ntazigera abwira umuntu icyo gukora. Iri ni ihohoterwa ritaziguye. Niba umuvuzi avuga - kunywa vittery, gutwara kugeza ku nyanja hanyuma ukore siporo, nyamuneka ubikubite igitabo cyose kiremereye. Umuvuzi afasha guteza imbere amayeri y'ibikorwa, ariko birashobora kuba umunyarwanda gusa, ukurikije isesengura ryibikorwa, kandi ibi ntibibaho mu isaha. Umuvuzi ntabwo asezeranya ibisubizo kubiteranko 4 kandi bidasezeranya na gato, kuko bidashobora kumubiri.
Niba hamwe na Therapist itamerewe neza, nibyiza kugenda - ntubona umwanya wo guhaguruka. Ubushobozi bwo gukora ikirere cyibanga ninshingano nyamukuru yumuvuzi. Niba ufite impungenge zuko umuvuzi adashobora gukurikiza ibanga ryumurwayi - yiruka.
Umuvuzi ntizazamuka ahantu hataba uruhushya rwawe, ruzana ububabare - buzagutegurira byimazeyo.
Umuvuzi ntazagusuzuma kandi agaragaze ko hakiriho ibitekerezo byawe.
Kunywa ibinini niba byateganijwe
Kandi ntakibazo kitanywa urusaku rwinshuti, ibinini, aho umuntu yanditse ahantu runaka, atagenzuye buri cyumweru yinzobere, ibangamira uburyo bwo kwakira.
Akenshi biragoye guhitamo ibisate, kuko bisa nkaho biribwa gusazi. Kandi hariho ibitekerezo byinshi kubyerekeye ukuri ko ari ubuzima, kandi urashobora gushyuha, kandi ubu ni ubugambanyi bwa farumasi, kandi muri rusange ntabwo ari intege nke kuburyo kugirango utabyihangange bitarimo. Ibi byose bizabaho mugihe ujyanye umuntu muri leta aho ihame rishobora gutekereza kubintu runaka.
Kudacogora
Kujya gusara - biragoye kumubiri kandi ntibikomeza ubuziraherezo: Ibintu byose birangiza ibitaro, cyangwa bizoroha - ibi nibihe byiza cyane kandi byombi biruta ubwo budashidikanywaho aho uri ubu. Mugihe kimwe, genda umusazi neza cyane niba ugumye wenyine wenyine. Niba wavanye hafi yisi, mubuzima bwawe, birashoboka cyane, ntihazigera habaho ikintu, kuruta uko ushobora kwishimira byinshi.
Ntacyo nari nzi niba tutigeze tunyura hamwe numugore wanjye Aliya, hashize imyaka 6 abana muburwayi bwo mumutwe. Nk'uko rero, ibintu benshi ko nzi.
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