Twabonye muri psychologue yumuryango pavel zygmantovich ingingo izagukiza amafaranga menshi, igihe n'amakuba, niba warigeze gutekereza kubibazo: "Ese ndi igitsina cyane? Igihe kirageze cyo guteza imbere umugore w'ukuri muri we?! "
Umusomyi yaje ati: "Nashakaga kubaza amakuru ayo ari yo yose (igitabo, ingingo, ingingo) bijyanye n'iterambere ry'umugore nyawe."Yoo, mbega ikibazo kimenyerewe. Guhora gusaba kuvuga uko waba umugore nyawe cyangwa umugabo nyawe. Bari kumenya kubaza ibidashoboka ...
Ibi nibyo nanditse nsubiza: "Nzishimira gusaba - kwiruka mubitabo byose, imbuga n'ingingo zikubwira uburyo bwo guteza imbere umugore nyawe."
Kandi hariho impamvu zikomeye zibisubizo nkibi.
Gegene, Gegmon
Umuhanga mu mibereho ya Australiya Revoling Yavuze ko hari igitekerezo gishimishije - Umugabo wa Hegemonic (Eng. Ubugabo bwa Hegemonic). Iki ni rusange kandi cyemejwe na benshi mubyo umugabo nyawe agomba kuba (psychologue, nkuko ijambo "rishingiye ku gitsina" rikoreshwa cyane, ariko ibi biterwa kandi birambuye).
Ijambo "hegemonic Femnost" Ntabwo nahuye n'ibitabo by'Uburusiya, ariko mu kuvuga icyongereza ni gake kandi gake.
Kuvuga mu gaciro byoroshye, Hegemonic ni "umugabo nyawe." Ikindi - gihuye niyi shusho, wihitiramo masqueness ya hegemoni, iyo "mugabo nyawe."
Ninde wihitira "muri rusange kandi wemezwa na benshi" kubyo umugore ukwiye agomba kuba, ibyo, birumvikana, "abagore nyabo".
Kandi biragaragara ko "guteza imbere umugore nyawe" biroroshye cyane. Tugomba gukora intambwe ebyiri gusa:
- Sobanukirwa uburyo "hegemonicism" isa (cyangwa ubugabo - kubashaka kuba umugabo nyawe).
- Bikwiranye rwose muriki kiganiro.
Abagore bari mu ngoro, abantu bose bari mu ngofero, abantu bose baranyuzwe, abantu bose barishimye, "bavuza induru," bajugunywa mu kirere. "
Kandi ibintu byose byaba byiza, ariko hari ikibazo ...
Ntushobora gusunika mumagare imwe ...
Ikintu nyamukuru kiranga aba hegemone nuko bavuguruzanya cyane. Ndashimangira - byimazeyo.
Kurugero, mubugabo bwumugabo, ni ngombwa kugira ubuzima bwiza, nk'ikimasa, ariko gusa nshaka ko nshishikajwe n'abaganga. Cyangwa hano - abagabo bagomba kugira inshuti nyazo, ariko umugabo ntagomba kugororoka. Biragaragara ko ibyo bisabwa bidasanzwe.
Kimwe cya kabiri cy'Ubumuntu gifite igico kimwe - kurugero, hari syndrome yo murugo umugore wo murugo (syndrome yo murugo). Umugore usa nkaho yicaye murugo ntakora, bivuze kuruhuka, ariko mubyukuri - bisaba kumenyekana kandi ntikicara murugo! ") Itobora.
Ndagusaba kwishyura hafi - ubugabo bwa hegemonic / igitsina ni inyandikorugero zivuguruzanya imbere.
Kuki? Kuberako byose ari inshingano zuburinganire (nkoresha igihe cya psychologiya, nubwo ari hafi yanjye), ni ukuvuga amahame mbonezamubano, "arimo amabwiriza n'ibyo bibazwa kubyo ukeneye kumva no gukora."
Kimwe nibisobanuro hamwe nibibujijwe, ibi nabyo byanze bikunze kandi bikomeye - mugihe ubuzima nyabwo ari plastiki yihariye kandi cyane.
Ibi bivuze ko umuntu adashobora guhura byimazeyo inshingano zuburinganire. Umugabo arashobora guhuza rwose nubugabo bwa Hemoni. Umugore arashobora guhurira hamwe na hemonicst.
Muri make, umugabo ntashobora kuba "umugabo nyawe." Byose biramwe, hari ikintu kizaba cyukuri. Nanone - n'umugore.
Ibi byitwa amakimbirane ashingiye ku gitsina (amakimbirane ashingiye ku gitsina) - Vuga mu buryo bwo guhuza imitekerereze igaragara mu bihe aho umuryango wuburinganire ugira ingaruka mbi kumuntu nibidukikije.
Kubera aya makimbirane, abantu batangira gushaka "amakuru yose (igitabo, urubuga, ingingo) kubyerekeye iterambere ry'umugore nyawe." Kuri somelly gukemura amakimbirane no gukuraho ibyiyumvo byimbere.
Birumvikana ko ari utopia. Inzira yonyine yo gukuraho aya makimbirane ntabwo ari ugukurikiza Masculs ya Hegemo nizindi nshingano zuburinganire.
Usanzwe usanzwe / nyawe
Musanzwe uri umugabo numugore muribawe wenyine. Kurugero, ku mahugurwa yawe y'abagabo (ni ukuvuga, ibintu byamatsinda kubagabo), simbwira icyo umugabo nyawe agomba kuba. Ndavuga - "Buri wese muri mwe ni umugabo kandi ibi bifite agaciro; Turashobora (kandi bigomba gukorwa!) Gutezimbere ubuhanga nubuziranenge, ariko dukora kugirango tunoze imibereho, kandi tutajya mubyingenzi. "
Niba nari mfite amahugurwa y'abagore, navuga ikintu kimwe.
Nzabivuga kandi hano - bakundwa banyarwanda, usanzwe uri umugore. Hejuru, hasi, yuzuye, upfira, amajipo, umusatsi no mu kabari ka trolleybus, muri podium no mu murongo w'intebe no mu bubiko bw'abagore - uri hose abagore Kandi ntukeneye "gutsimbataza umugore nyawe." Usanzwe uri umunyakuri.
Urashobora (kandi ufite akamaro!) Gutezimbere ubuhanga butandukanye, ariko ntukeneye guteza imbere umugore wukuri muriwe. Usanzwe uri ukuri.
Kandi mfite byose, urakoze kubitekerezo byawe.