Adriana yari yatubwiye ibijyanye no kubura umukobwa wumukobwa bishobora kuganisha ku bishobora gutera umukobwa. Cyangwa ahubwo, kuvuga - mukuru wa kabiri mu muryango, umuntu uhagije kandi ukunda. Mugihe kimwe cyatanzwe nuburyo bwo gukemura iki kibazo niba umaze gukura utagira papa cyangwa se wa se, wabyaye nta.
Imibare Yambere
Birazwi neza ko mu Burusiya kimwe cya gatatu cyimiryango igereranywa numubyeyi wenyine hamwe numwana. Ababyeyi barenga 80% ba mama. Ni ukuvuga, ahandi kamwenda yabana akura na gato udafite se. Undi mu mwanya wa gatatu w'abasa nkaho arya, ukabonana gake kandi akaganira na we munsi yiminota icumi kumunsi. Benshi muri ba se (barenga 65%) - hamwe niciriritse yo kutitaho ibintu. Ibi bivuze gusa ko batitaye ku mwana.Nibyo, abakobwa benshi nabahungu nkuko ishusho ya se ifite ubudodo. Kandi mama benshi bavuga ko mu buryo bukwiriye: "Kuki akeneye na gato? Birasobanutse kandi bitabihari! "
Kuki ukeneye se?
Kuki ikenewe - ikibazo cyiza kandi cyingenzi. Birumvikana ko umwana adakeneye umubyeyi wa kabiri, ntakintu na kimwe. Mu buryo nk'ubwo, nta hakenewe kandi ko umwana azamura umubyeyi wa biologiri: niba akimara kuvuka k'umwana umaze kwambara urukundo, ariko atari umuryango wibinyabuzima, nta byago bizaza. Igishushanyo cya Data kirashobora gusimburwa numukuru wa kabiri wuje urukundo - nyirakuru, sogokuru, ku Mana cyangwa undi mufatanyabikorwa wa mama.
Numuntu wa kabiri wingenzi cyane kumwana!
Kandi ibintu byose byaba byoroshye kandi byiza niba hari papa mwiza, uhagije, wuje urukundo kuri uyu muntu mukuru wa kabiri. Mubisanzwe tudafite.
Bigenda bite kumukobwa utabona iruhande rwa nyina wurukundo rwa kabiri rwuje urukundo, umutekano? Cyangwa niba uyu muntu atitaye kuri we? Ibintu byose biroroshye cyane: Irahuza. Kuganira n'Uburusiya: Kumenyera. Inzego nkiyi ziba ngombwa kandi zirumvikana kuri yo. Nubwo nyina wuyu mukobwa we atekereza kumuryango nkuyu kandi ibitangaza byose (urugero, mumagambo "yego, ni ihene! Yego, cyangwa" yego , niba narashakanye numuntu usanzwe "kandi rero), harimo numukobwa, umwana amenyera muriyi modeli yumuryango.
Noneho arashobora guhunga (kuko biteye ubwoba cyane kuba mumutego nkuyu), cyangwa kubyubaka muburyo busanzwe. Iyi paradox isanzwe iganisha ku kuba abantu bakuru, abakobwa baho bakorera iruhande rw'umugabo barimo inyandiko itavugwaho rumwe itavugwaho rumwe: "Ndumishije cyane, ndabanje gukora ikintu kibi, kwiruka!"
Ibikura muri scratch
Kenshi na kenshi, ibyifuzo byabakiriya basaba "uburyo bwo kurongora" bifitanye isano nibintu bibiri: icyifuzo cyo kwemerwa mu mibereho (gushaka kuri mirongo itatu, kurongora ", ntabwo ari njyenyine kandi no kuri) Kandi ubwoba bwinshi (aramwongerera, nzahinduka, nzaguma njyenyine n'umwana, ugomba guhinga haba murugo no ku kazi). Biragoye cyane kujyana numukiriya ubundi bwoba nubukene kandi tuganira kandi kuki ukeneye umukunzi na gato, niba tuvuga ingendo hamwe cyangwa kugaragara kwumwana.
Akenshi, ndabikoze, umuntu watoranijwe aragenda:
– kutitaho ibintu (Umukobwa azahitamo kubona ibimenyetso rusange "byazanye indabyo" kuruta kuba umugabo yarenze ku nkuru yagerageje kwiyambura buldozer)
– Bidashishikajwe nabana (Avuga ko "byaba byiza abana bagaragaye ... Ntaha: Ndishimye kuri njye," kandi umukobwa aramwishimira. Nyuma yaho, amenye ko aribyo umuntu yiteguye kuva mu bana, kandi - Muri rusange - Amahitamo ye yose afite umwanya hamwe nabo)
– bidafite ishingiro gutandukanya ibyo bakeneye mubikenewe byabashakanye (Kurugero, itariki ya kabiri-ya gatatu, ategeka ko ibintu bimeze neza, utangana umukobwa, hanyuma agakora kandi inzu ku kiyaga cya Orsk, ntabwo yitondera umukobwa we yanga Orsk na byose Hamwe na we ahujwe, kuko - "Nibyiza cyane")
– Ntabwo ushishikajwe nigihe n'umutungo (Nkimara kimwe cya kabiri cy'isaha, sinsaba imbabazi, hanyuma kandi nsezeranya kuza kare gufata umuhungu w'incuke, ariko buri gihe ntabwo ari ibizaza; ku munsi wa mbere bisaba terefone ye guhamagara, Kudasaba, hanyuma uyishyira i Lombard kugirango utangire ubucuruzi bwawe)
Kandi biragoye ko abakobwa babona uburyo kwikunda bitabitayeho, bidashishikajwe, kandi rimwe na rimwe kandi bikaba biteye isoni kandi biteye ishozi mugenzi wabo - kuko aribyo rwose bamenyereye.
Umwe mu bakiriya banjye yari ashishikajwe cyane no kuba umukobwa mwiza hamwe n'umugabo we, ko nabuze ko umugabo we - umusinzi wa alcool utuye ku mafaranga ye, abaho ku mafaranga ye.
Umubyeyi mwiza (cyangwa byibuze sogokuru cyangwa nyirarume) biha abakobwa be gusobanukirwa kubyo abashakanye, babana, urukundo n'umutekano n'umutekano. Abakobwa bose badafite uburambe nkubwo ni ngombwa cyane kugerageza gufata iyi myumvire mubindi bihugu bifitanye isano - kukazi, mubucuti, mumakipe ya siporo. Kusanya - AlBit mo ibice - iyi puzzle. Kugirango tutagomba "gukurura umukandara kuri" - nkuko mama na ba nyogokuru bakururaga, kandi niba binjiye mubucuti - noneho hamwe nabazahindura ubuzima bwabo mubyukuri.