Mubwana bwacu kugirango twemere inshuti mugihe wakubise ababyeyi bawe bagize isoni zikomeye, biteye ubwoba kandi muri rusange Nomomilfo. Ariko, buri muntu wa kabiri wuje ubu ufite inkuru zerekeye ihohoterwa rikorerwa mu muryango. Amafoto.ru arakusanya, kandi abaza icyarimwe, mbega ukuntu umwana mubi yahindutse.
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Nkumwana, nzankubita. Mama yashoboraga gukubita urushyi, ariko, papa Patherfate yatsinze umukandara, ubugari, umubyimba, uruhu, nta bunini rutagira buckle. Byashobokaga kuba kubintu byose: Natinze iminota 5, natinze, na we mbonaga ko nazuye ijwi mu ntonganya cyangwa gusuzugura nyina. Ikintu kishishoza cyane ni uko mama yitigeze arushaho kwiregura, nubwo, mubyukuri, umuntu wo hanze yazamuyeho, ntiyarubatse. Yahisemo kwicara mu kindi cyumba cyangwa mu gikoni, hanyuma witwaze nkaho nta kintu na kimwe cyabaye, ntuzigere unyicunguha kandi ntimunshigikiye. Ntabwo nshobora kumubabarira kubwibyo. Kandi icyarimwe ntabwo nihanganira ihohoterwa ryumubiri: inshuro ebyiri ibivugwamo byarangiye igihe umuntu yazamura ikiganza. Kuri njye ni kirazira. Kandi bijyanye nabana, ibindi byose - Ndibuka neza iyi myumvire idahwitse, kwirwanaho byimazeyo no kurakara kubantu bakuru.
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Ababyeyi b'umugabo wanjye barera muri Rigor: kubera ko, ubutarani bwahanwe haba ku mubiri, cyangwa butangira "guceceka" "- byahagaritse kuvugana na we igihe kitazwi. Kubwamahirwe, ubu, mugihe dufite abana bacu, akurikiza byimazeyo uburezi kandi asaba rwose umukobwa wacu wimyaka itanu yo kugandukira no kumvira, kimwe no mu gisirikare cyangwa, simbizi. Bike cyane - Rugan n'Igihano. Mubisanzwe, ndaje kumukobwa wanjye, nanjye ndazura: Umwana yazamutse nabi, ntabwo ari nyina, ashishimura inkoni. Muri icyo gihe, bazana umukobwa kumurira - ikibazo cyiminota ibiri, rimwe na rimwe aragenda yibanda cyane, nkaho bimuha umunezero. Ubuvanganzo ntishaka gusoma inyigisho zidasanzwe muburere, yizera ko ubwe azi byose neza.
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Nahanishijwe mu bwana bwanjye nkaba: uzi igikundiro? Witwaze umukandara, fata ipantaro, uryame kuri sofa. N'imyaka kugeza ku myaka 12-13. Ni ukuvuga, agasuzuguro hamwe no kwerekana imbaraga kuri Data. Nari naragoye cyane ibi byose, nkora byinshi hamwe numuhemyi wa psychologue kureka iyi shitani yose. Ndetse nagize ibibazo mu mibonano mpuzabitsina: Nasaga nkaho nakoresheje ku buryo budahwitse hagati y'ubutegetsi ubwo yahamije kandi buganje umuntu mu buriri kandi biteye ubwoba. Ariko byasaga naho byatsinze iki gikomere. Nanjye ubwanjye ndashimwa cyane, ariko ntabwo nakubise abana bawe mubihe byose. Ahubwo, fata sofa cyangwa ibindi bikoresho bimwe, ariko sinigeze.
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Nkiri umwana, nabonwaga buri gihe kandi ni ireme cyane. Ariko sinibuka ibyiyumvo byo gusuzugura cyangwa inzika - kubihano byahoraga ari imvo. Data yizeraga (birashoboka) ko ibintu bimwe na bimwe n'ukuri fatizo biri imbere yacu hamwe na murumuna wanjye ntashobora kuvuga ikintu icyo ari cyo cyose ariko agira ingaruka ku mubiri. Ntabwo numva mpuhwe, nagize ubwana buhebuje no gukubita - ni agace ke. Data na we yagonzwe na nyina mu bwana bwe - nyogokuru, narasebye, yari umuntu mwiza kandi mwiza. Ariko, uko bigaragara, mubyukuri hari ikintu cyoroshye gukomanga kuruta inshuro ijana kugirango usobanure.
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Ndasubiwemo kandi nakubiswe na mama cyane, nibuka ubwoba bwiza, agasuzuguro, gutabarwa. Ndetse nasomye nabi ibibazo nkibi no gutuza abantu kubibazo bifite ishingiro.
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Kuri njye, gukoresha igihano cyumubiri kubantu bawe bwite ntibishoboka rwose kubera ko nzi ibyanjye bwite uburyo bigomba gukubitwa numwana. Birumvikana ko hariho ibihe iyo nsohotse ubwanjye kandi sinziho icyo gukora, impulse irarengerwa. Mugihe nk'iki, ngerageza kuva mu mwana, kugira ngo apimeke, yogejwe n'amazi akonje, kugira ngo atuze bishoboka.
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Ninjye watanzwe cyane n'abana, nahoraga nkubita, nakubise bakuru na bashiki bacu bakuru hamwe n'inshuti, byazanye ingimbi. Ndetse rimwe na rimwe batwikiriye gusurwa, kugeza igihe nyina yagiye ku kazi aramutse afite ihinduka rya nijoro. Ni ukuvuga, najugunywe hasi n'urukuta, bakubita ibintu biremereye barabimena umutwe. Igihe kimwe nagaburiwe, nyina ankubita ukuboko kwe n'icyuma, kandi rimwe na rimwe ajugunya ibikoresho muri njye hanyuma akata ukuguru ku magufa n'amasuka yanduye. Ibi byose byari bikaze cyane, byari ngombwa gufungura no gusukura igikomere, mu bitaro byanjye, birumvikana ko nta muntu watwaye. Gusa nahishuye urwembe, kozwa n'amazi yatetse nta kintu. Nari mfite imyaka 8.
Muri 17 bava mu rugo, kandi ndacyafite reaction ku rugendo rutunguranye ku nkombe yo kugaragara, cyangwa niba umuntu aramutse azungurutse ikiganza. Byongeye kandi, mama ntabwo yari umuntu wabaswe, inzoga cyangwa ibiyobyabwenge: Nabajije ibijyanye nabyo (namaze kubahiriza) abasore barimo bakoresheje amahirwe, ariko nagize amahirwe ku bantu beza), baravuga - Oya, aba ku bantu bakuru ako kanya mama. Kubera impamvu runaka, ntiyazutse abana. Igihe nanjye ubwanjye na none nasubiwemo n'umukobwa wanjye muto kugira ngo atsitotsi maze arambura isi, naje ubwoba bwinshi kumurusha. Ntabwo nafashe urugomo nkuko ababyeyi benshi bavunitse, mbona biteye ishozi, nubwo rimwe na rimwe byamenagurwa kuri papa rimwe na rimwe, ariko ahubwo byagenze no ahubwo ibikorwa bya simulic. Igihe Se kavukire yakubitaga inshuro nyinshi kandi inshuro nyinshi, nko kwangirika, twari rwinshi.
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Igihe nari muto, natakambiye cyane inshuro ebyiri mubihe bikomeye, ariko akenshi nanyuzwe nabahungu b'iminsi myinshi, batutswe kandi basuzugurwa n'amagambo, bamwitiriye ibitekerezo n'amagambo ntari mfite. Muri make, barasebeje mumico. Kandi ikintu kibabaje cyane - kugirango izo dutotezo zitigeze dusaba imbabazi, ariko ku bashinyaga basabye imbabazi. Nayo jewe, byaba byiza gukubita no gusaba imbabazi kuruta ingaruka mbi ziteye umubiri.
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Nahoraga hit, ibishobora kugandukira ikintu icyo ari cyo cyose. Kurugero, rimwe na rimwe urengerwa nigitambaro gitose kugeza ku gikomere cy'umukara, kuko navuze cyane kuri terefone, nari mfite imyaka 7. Igisubizo ni intsinzi mubuzima bwitwa ababyeyi. Ndabanga, ntituvugana kandi ntanubwo zihamagarwa. Sinshobora kubabarira. Nta mwana.
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Nahagurutse mu bwana. Na mama na papa. Igihe, Data yankubise bunyamaswa kubera ko nasunitse murumuna wanjye mu mukino, akubita umugongo ku nkombe yigitanda. Umuvandimwe yatangiye gusakuza nk'igabanywa, se yagize ubwoba ku buryo yangiriho, atangira kunkubita igiti cya santimetero 60. Binini bikikije umubiri iminota 15. Sinashoboraga kurira cyangwa gutaka. Mama yaracecetse. Hanyuma yagiye kwa mugenzi we, aherekeza aho, nigute ushobora gukubita umwana nkuriya. Kandi ni ukubera iki none bidahagaze? Sinshobora no gutekereza ko nemerera umugabo wanjye gukubita umwana wanjye ubugome. Mama ubwayo nawo yakurikijwe. Irashobora kunkubita kuruta uko byaguye. Ntabwo nabyishimiye ko nshyira inkweto zanduye (kunyerera) shyirwa hasi. Yakuye abo banyerera atangira kunkubita, umwanda, ku mutwe. Muri rusange, nagize ubwana bwishimye. Byangizeho ingaruka? Birashoboka ko byagaragaye. Mfite ikibazo cyo kwicira urubanza, namenyereye kwihesha agaciro. Umuryango wa Gryza uva mu bwana, hari indi ngeso y'amategeko ya Opera - Abahanga mu by'imitekerereriro bavuga ko umuntu ufite ingeso nk'izo ari ahekenga, ni ukuvuga ku kurya. Nubwo ntazi neza ko impamvu iri mu gukubitwa. Ahari mubindi.
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Data mwishuri yakoresheje inshuro nyinshi kuvuga ko umwanya wanjye uri mwishure ryibiciro byubwenge, kandi ntugangemeho kuko atari kumwe na njye. Niba kandi ahagaritse, umuswa wabyo, kugirango yiyakurikire, noneho nzimurirwa mwishuri y / o. Ariko, narangije amashuri hafi nta turere twinjira mu kigo gikomeye cyane. Reka ugerageze kugeragezwa bwa kabiri, ariko urabikora. Ubwe, nta nubwo ashaka. Mu bihe biri imbere, hasigaye kuri Isiraheli mubwibone kandi hano byose byagezweho. Mama, kuri terefone avuza induru: "Biragoye muri Isiraheli, garuka iwacu." Navuze oya! Reka igisasu cya Palesitine cyatambuwe hano hano. Mushiki wanjye, bisa nkaho ababarira ababyeyi, kandi sindashobora! Nibasarure ibyo babibye, sinshobora kubyitwaramo ntabafite. Ubushyuhe bwabo, bunyabupfura, kudashaka kumva, kwinjira mumwanya ubu bagarutse bafite inyungu. Kandi simbyitayeho, kimwe na bo ntibanyitayeho 20-25 mu myaka 20-25 cheque "kugirango utashuka amayeri no kurahira. Ubu ndi umunyamuryango wabyo no kutitaho ibintu byawe no kubona umunezero udasanzwe. N'ubundi kandi, nihaye ijambo amarira yanjye azajugunywa - nuburyo bubumbabumbwa. Guhindagurika.
Inkuru zakusanyirijwe Ekaterina Kuzmin