Kumagira: Nigute Sinabaye Mama mwiza

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Julia Xianto - Mama ukiri muto na Dowla, inyandiko ye ivuga ku umunaniro w'amahoro (yakozweho rwose) twasohotse) twasohotse) twasohotse igihe cyashize, kandi yagiye mu bihumbi byo gusangira. Kandi iyi ngingo ivuga uburyo abakobwa ba none bitwaza mu mpande, bagerageza kuba ababyeyi batunganye. Kandi impamvu ari bibi cyane kugerageza kuba inyangamugayo. Nta cyiza. Wibagiwe iri jambo.

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Mugihe cyo gutwita, njye nabyo, twizeraga ko ibintu byose bizambera nkubuhanzi kubyabaye no kubyara. Kuvuka bizaba byoroshye, byihuse, "ku ijana". Ako kanya umanike umwana ku gituza kandi azasinzira imyaka ibiri ahobera. Kandi yego, kuri buri squak - nanone amabere, kandi nta pake. Kandi tuzagendera mu mugozi ku munsi, kandi byanze bikunze mu mutuku! .. igihe cyo kubyara, iki gihe cyo kubyara, iyi mbaraga yaguye mu isaha ya kabiri yo kubyara, iyo imirwano imaze gukomera kuburyo byari bibi Kwagura ... kandi igihe hakiri imbere amasaha menshi arwana n'uruzitiro. Induru yombi n'ububabare. Amavuko yahindutse bigoye, ntabwo ari impfabusa mucyongereza, kubyara byitwa "umurimo" - akazi. Kandi umwana wanjye yavukiye neza, mubyukuri yarishimye cyane "amakara" ku gituza. Uwo ni njye gusa, cyangwa ahubwo, igituza cyanjye nticyiteguye ukuri gukabije, kandi nimugoroba wumunsi wambere natontomye kubera ububabare. Haca hakurikiraho ukwezi kose ko gushinga konsa kandi byinshi, amarira menshi n'amenyo yera mugihe cyo kugaburira.

Ibyumweru bitanu byose byanyuze, kandi kugaburira byabaye umunezero nubucuti bwihariye, ariko ntibyari byoroshye kuri twe. Gusa sinacitse intege kubera ko mfite amakuru no kunyizera bidasubirwaho no gushyigikira ibidukikije.

Kandi moms zingahe zitari zifite? ..

Kandi kumunsi wambere wubuzima bwumuhungu wanjye, saa tatu za mugitondo ntabwo zahagaze umunaniro nububabare kandi uva mu mfuruka ndende yumuntu uhabwa niple. Ingano ya "12 M +", ikintu kinini cya rubber, cyaherekejwe mu kanwa kanje nticyabujije uruhinja rutavuza ubusa. Ariko ayo yahise anywa arangije asinzira. Natwe, natwe, yoroheje kandi twishongora gato.

Noneho twatwigishije mubihe nkibi kugirango dutange urutoki kugirango tutazana ibyafashwe, nibibazo byacu byonsa byari ngombwa. Ariko .. ifatwa ryateye imbere, ingorane zo kugaburira zaribagiranye. Ibibazo nibitotsi byazamuye nkumupira wa shelegi.

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Mu mezi ane, nongeye kugerageza gutanga amashuri (bimaze gukora ubunini, birumvikana ko kuryamana, umuhungu wanjye atangira gusinzira, vuba kandi byoroshye. No gusinzira igihe kirekire. Twagiriye inama tugahitamo imitsi yanjye n'amarira ariduhenze kuri twe, kandi tureke konsa ku nzozi, ariko tuzabaho tudafite abato batagira iherezo.

Twari turwanya umukungugu !!! Ninde utanga nipple - gusa! Yego, ntabwo turi impfa! ... Neza kugeza ijoro ryambere. Ibyo twari dusetsa. Navuze - Twari dusinziriye cyane mugihe dutwite. Yewe, kandi, byanze bikunze, inzozi zihuriweho ni iyi mibiri ya zahabu yububyeyi karemano. Oya, ndacyatekereza ko ari byiza cyane kuryama hamwe. Ariko ntitwakoze. Mu mezi abiri yambere sinshobora kugaburira, aryamye iruhande rwanjye. Gufatwa ntabwo byagenze ku Ijambo na gato, nababajwe cyane, umuhungu wanjye na we yari acogora kandi arakaye. Bagaburiwe kwicara, ku musego, noneho baramwirinze.

Nanjye sinashoboraga gusinzira inshuro zirenze umwana munsi - ibintu byose byajanjaguwe, ndabyuka ndabyuka n'umuhungu wanjye mu buryo bwikora.

Byongeye kandi, nari mfite igihe cyoherejwe na tyrotine (iyi ni imvururu za tiroyide), kandi kimwe mubimenyetso bye ni ibisinzira, ibitotsi byo gusinzira no gusinzira cyane. Nibyiza, wasobanukiwe, yego? ....

Ukwezi kwambere kwumwana rwose byari hagati yacu cyangwa kuva kuryama kwanjye. Ariko twimukiye kure cyane kugirango tutaha Imana kutagira impungenge kandi ntitugarenga. Hanyuma, igihe yahagaritse gusinzira nyuma ya saa sita abikurikiranye kandi nta mbaraga mfite kugira ngo mazeneshe (kandi nari ngifite ibisinzira byose), mu nda kugeza igifu.

Nasomye, ndaryamye, tupil kugera mu gitabo, araryama - byose byari byiza. Mwijoro nijoro, atangira kuryama gitunguranye mu gihote cye cyometse ku ruhande rwanjye rw'igitanda. Muri santimetero mirongo itanu uturutse muri njye, ariko biracyayo. Nanjye natangiye gusinzira nijoro, byibuze. Mu mezi ane, yari aryamye mu gihome na nyuma ya saa sita. Kandi aryamyeyo cyane kandi igihe kirekire, gikonje cyane, mu mwijima no ku rusaku rwera. Kandi nari mfite umudendezo, kugiti cyanjye, igihe.

Twakoze ibitotsi bihuriweho, ishyano kandi birashimishije. Nibyiza, kubyerekeye imirongo. Nishimiye kwambara ibice byanjye bitatu nigice cyibyishimo mukwezi kwambere mu gitambaro. Rimwe mu cyumweru. Hanyuma, umuhungu atangira gupima Kilos uko ari atandatu, kandi nabonye tiroidish yanjye n'intege nke ze, azunguza amaboko, umukecuru n'inda yababaye.

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Byongeye kandi, umwana atigeze ashaka gukomera, ahita atangira kurira no gutandukana, nanjye - ibyuya kandi afite ubwoba. Rimwe na rimwe, ibikomere bigoramye ku buryo yahise atuza mu muhanda, kandi rimwe na rimwe aguma mu rugo. Kuratsa mu buryo butunguranye byabaye impeta. Byihuse, byoroshye, byoroshye. Ariko rero ... umunani ntabwo yicaye ibiro byimisetsi, ku rutugu rumwe, ku rutugu rumwe, kure cyane y'ububiko? ... Muri rusange, nabaye slingma nyayo na slingmo, ikora gusa ijagari.

N'inkoni, ibyo nahisemo cyane kandi ndagurwa mu gutwita ... kubeshya, mwiza. Vuba aha ariko, natangiye kongera kubabona wiga inyenzi - Indwara yasubiye inyuma, umwana arakura yiyongera. Ariko inyuma yicyuma iracyahitamo muri 95% byimanza. Kandi papa arazirikana nibyishimo.

Ntutekereza ko ntitontomera. Cyangwa icyo ntekereza ko mama wanjye yananiwe. Ntabwo ari rwose, nzi neza ko ndi umubyeyi ukomeye kumuhungu wanjye. Ni umwana mwiza, utuje kandi atitorohewe rwose.

Ndetse no mu buryo buvanye - Nishimiye ko ibintu byose byambayeho. Kugirango abana b'abana, bitwa "gutunganizwa" iteka ryose bagumye kera.

Twese duhitamo, ibyiza byo bishoboka mubihe byose.

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Umugore umwe azahitamo gutegereza kubyara kugeza ku yatsinze, undi - "wishyize mu maboko y'abaganga mu byumweru 42, kuko ingaruka ze zidashoboka. Byombi birashobora gukunda amahirwe ntabwo. Uwa gatatu azakora Kayisareya mubyumweru 38, kuko afite diyabete na pelivic. Uwa kane hamwe na kimwe azategereza intangiriro karemano yo kubyara no gusenga.

Uwa gatanu azemera kwimurwa bumaze kwishora mu bihe byagereranijwe, "kugira ngo atazihanganira," na gatandatu - ku gice cya Clesareya, kuko "ultrasound yerekanye umuvumo." Bumvira ntabwo ari umuntu ugomba gutanga amakuru yuzuye, kwerekana ibisubizo byubushakashatsi, guhobera no gufasha gufata umwanzuro. Ntibari bafite amahitamo meza kuruta kwemeranya n'icyifuzo cya muganga. Gusa.

Umuntu yahisemo kubyara murugo no kuri solo, kandi umuntu yumva afite umutekano mubitaro byababyeyi, akikijwe ninzobere. Ingaruka za mbere zo kuba "Guhitamo karemano", icya kabiri - uwahohotewe nigabanyi. Bombi, ariko, hariho amahirwe meza kandi mubisanzwe tubyara.

Umubyeyi umwe azagura ubudodo bucece, undi ntabwo ari umuhoro udatunganijwe. Uwa gatatu azagura kengushku muri rusange - Yasomye kandi ko kwambaye umwana kuri we akamaro ko ari ingirakamaro mu iterambere rye! Gusa ibya cumi na ergonomique byambaye nta jambo kandi mubyukuri ntabwo azi ibibera ukundi. Uratekereza rwose ko umuntu atwara umwana muri kibilus byumwihariko, amenyeshwa ibyangiritse ku rubavu? .. we uzava mu bitaro by'ababyeyi bimaze kuba hamwe na pacifier, Mugereranije neza kandi nta guswera. Isanduku. Kandi nyina wundi ntazigera amuha pacifier, ariko ntibazageraho konsa. N'ubundi kandi, birabaho.

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Umugore umwe azava mu mateka ya mbere mu cya kane, atera umugabo we mu mibereho, ndetse no mu gihugu udashobora gukora amezi ane gusa nyuma yo kubyara. Niba kandi ari umubyeyi urera? Umwana we azajya neza kuri pepiniyeri amahoro, kuko akeneye gukora, kandi ba nyirakuru baracyari bato kandi nabo ubwabo nta kibazo kitoroshye mugihugu, kandi ntibishoboka gutakaza akazi. Umuryango wumugore umwe uzaba usobanukiwe kandi ushyigikira, witeguye ubumenyi bushya kandi ufunguye ibiganiro. Nyina azaza, sohoka, uteke kumwe n'umukobwa uko bimeze. Mama na nyirabukuru bazohereza ubwonko bwe bwose kubyerekeranye n'ibintu ku mazi, bidatanga bombo n'inyama, ntibiruma kandi ntibifata kandi ntibifata mu kagare k'abamugaye. Niba kandi umugore akeneye kwitegereza gukora cyangwa, Imana ikinga ukuboko, jya mu bitaro, kandi niyo yonyine yo kugenzura umufuka uyobora umufuka? .. buri wese muri twe ashobora kuba afite impamvu zabo bwite ko umuntu ashobora gusa nkaho ari bibi.

Indwara zawe, umubiri wawe no mu mwuka. Ibidukikije, bikomeye kandi ntusobanukirwe. Kubura amakuru. Ibintu bya politiki mu gihugu. Kubura ubufasha. Abandi bana basaba kwitabwaho no kwitaho. Urupfu rw'abakunzi. Ibibazo bya psychologiya.

Gusuzuma no kwamagana undi mugore kuruhande - uzi neza ko uzi ibintu byose? ..

Niwe mubyeyi wese - ikora ibyiza kuri we numwana we, ushoboye muriki gihe runaka. Ntaba umubyeyi mubi gusa kubera ko yahisemo ikindi kintu, kandi ntabwo yahisemo "umubyeyi" mwiza.

Nyuma yimyaka ibiri, mumyaka icumi, nundi mwana, ndetse numugabo we, arashobora guhitamo ikintu gitandukanye rwose. Ariko muri ako kanya yakoze ikintu cyiza gishobora. Icyo nari nzi.

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Wowe, wowe rero, yego, yego, wowe! Wowe, Mama wuyu ni umwana! Urimo ukora neza! Uri mama mwiza kuko utamukubise, ntuyishyiraho uburaya, ntukababaze inzara, ndetse ukambara ikirere cyawe. Uramukunda cyane, umwiteho kandi ukore byinshi uko ubishoboye, kumibereho ye, ubuzima nibyishimo, none? BYOSE! Birahagije. Uri umubyeyi mwiza! Ngwino kubara. Ntuzigera uba umubyeyi mwiza, ariko birababaje biroroshye niba udahagaritse intego. Uri nkawe. Umwana wawe yaguhisemo, yaje aho uri. Arazi ibyo imbere imbere kandi aragukunda neza. Niba - hamwe na we hamwe na we.

Kuba wowe ubwawe ni isomo ryingenzi ushobora kwigisha umwana. Ntukambare masike, ntugerageze "."

Birumvikana ko ibi bidasobanura ko ugomba kwicara kuri sofa, kugirango woroshye itabi hanyuma usubize ibirego byose: "Nibyo, hano ndi ingurube!". Ntabwo. Teza imbere, wige, uhore wihatira kwiteza imbere nisi hafi - ibi nabyo ni umwana azakwigiraho. Ariko ntukeneye kwigereranya nabandi. Gereranya nawe uwambere. Uzi uyu munsi kumagambo atatu mucyongereza kuruta kuwa kabiri ushize? Icyiciro! Yariye kuri bombo imwe? Ikirenze! Ntiwagomba kwinjira mubiganiro bya mugenzi wawe ukorera ikorera? Intwari! Niba kandi - yashoboye kubyara nyuma ya Cesareyan? Tugaburira ibere ryumwana wa kabiri, nubwo bwambere "nta mata yari"? Nize kudakubita no gutaka abana? Wow! .. kandi nkuriya. Kandi abana, iyi modoka nto zakoporora, bazatwigiraho. Harimo umunezero no kurera. No gushaka ibitekerezo byabandi kandi ntibigeze bishima.

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