Ibimenyetso byumuntu wuzuye kandi uhuza byakozwe na Classic ya PsychoanalySonalyse Nancy Mc Williams.
1. Tanga Urukundo
Ubushobozi bwo kugira uruhare mubucuti, fungura undi muntu. Kumukunda uko bimeze: hamwe namakosa n'ibyiza byose. Udafite ibitekerezo no guta agaciro. Ubu ni ubushobozi bwo gutanga, ntabwo bwo gufata.Ibi kandi bireba gukunda abana kubana, nurukundo rufitanye isano hagati yumugabo numugore.
2. Ubushobozi bwo gukora
Ntabwo turi umwuga gusa. Ibi mubisanzwe bijyanye nubushobozi bwo kurema no kurema ibyagaciro kumuntu, umuryango, societe.
Abantu ni ngombwa kumenya ibyo bakora, birumvikana kandi bivuze kubandi. Ubu bushobozi bwo kuzana ikintu gishya ku isi, ubushobozi bwo guhanga. Kenshi hamwe nuburyo bugoye bwingimbi.
3. Ubushobozi bwo gukina
Hano turimo tuvuga byombi kubyerekeye "umukino" muburyo busanzwe, kimwe nabana ndetse nubushobozi bwabantu bakuze "gukina" n'amagambo, ibimenyetso. Numwanya wo gukoresha imvugo ngereranyo, urwenya, urwenya, ugereranya uburambe bwawe kandi ukishimira.Inyamaswa nto akenshi zikina ukoresheje guhuza umubiri, zingenzi kugirango ziteze imbere. Mugihe kimwe, niba inyamaswa zitemerewe gukina umunsi umwe, hanyuma ubutaha bazayijyana gukina bafite ishyaka ryinshi. Abahanga bakora ikigereranyo hamwe nabantu hanyuma banzura ko, wenda, hyperactivite mubana ni ingaruka zo kubura gukina.
Byongeye kandi, muri societe ya none hariho icyerekezo rusange kijyanye nibyo duhagarika gukina. Imikino yacu kuva "ikora" ihinduka "indorerezi ikurwaho". Turacyari kubyina tuto, kuririmba, twishora muri siporo, nibindi byinshi turebera abandi. Ndabaza ko ibikorwa bikozwe mubuzima bwo mumutwe? ..
4. Umubano mwiza
Kubwamahirwe, akenshi abantu bajuririra imitekerereze ya psychotherapy ni urugomo, babangamiwe, babangamiwe, bashingiye - mumagambo amwe, umubano utameze neza. John Bowlby yasobanuye ubwoko butatu bwumugereka: Bisanzwe, biteye ubwoba (biragoye kwihanganira irungu, kugirango umuntu "yirinde kurekura undi, ahubwo yirinde kurekura byoroshye imbere).
Nyuma yaho, ubundi bwoko bwumugereka bwasohotse - butunganijwe (D-ubwoko): abantu bafite ubu bwoko bwo kwizirikana bakira umuntu witayeho nkisoko yubushyuhe n'ubwoba. Ibi nibiranga abantu bafite umupaka wumuryango wihariye, kandi akenshi ugaragara nyuma yihohoterwa cyangwa kwangwa nkumwana. Abantu nkabo "bakurikiza" ku kintu cyo gukundana kandi icyarimwe "kuruma".
Kubwamahirwe, kurenga ku rukundo ni ibintu bisanzwe. Ariko inkuru nziza nuko ubwoko bwumugereka bushobora guhinduka. Nkingingo, psychotherapie ikwiranye nibi (kuva kumyaka ibiri cyangwa irenga). Ariko birashoboka guhindura ubwoko bwumugereka kandi imbere ya garindwa, umutekano, igihe kirekire (imyaka irenga 5) hamwe numufatanyabikorwa.
5. Ubwiherero
Mubantu bijuririra imitekerereze ya psychotherapi, kubura (ariko birashoboka cyane, kubera ko bose baza mubuvuzi). Abantu ntibakora ibyo bashaka rwose. Ntibafite umwanya wo "guhitamo" (kwiyumva) icyo bashaka.Muri icyo gihe, ubwigenge bwibeshya burashobora kwimurwa mubindi bice byubuzima. Kurugero, abarwayi barwaye Anorexia bakunze kugerageza kugenzura byibuze ikintu kisa nkaho kigera kuri bo, gihitamo aho kwifuza kwabo - uburemere.
6. GUKORA ubwayo n'intego
Ubu ni ubushobozi bwo gukomeza guhura nimpande zose zanyu: haba mubyiza nibibi, byombi byishimo kandi bidafashe byihuse. Nubushobozi bwo kumva amakimbirane kandi ntigabana gutandukana.
Umubonano uri hagati yumwana nari, uwo ndiwe, kandi uwo nzaba mumyaka 10. Ubushobozi bwo kuzirikana no guhuza ibintu byose bitangwa na kamere nicyo nashoboye kwiteza imbere muri njye.
Imwe mu kurenga kuri iki kintu irashobora kuba "igitero" kumubiri, mugihe itazi ubwenge itagaragara nkigice cyacyo. Ihinduka ikintu gitandukanijwe ushobora guca cyangwa kugahoza.
7. Ubushobozi bugaruwe nyuma yo guhangayika
Niba umuntu afite imbaraga zihagije, iyo ihuye n'imihangayiko, ntabwo irwaye, ntabwo ikoresha ko imwe yo gucika intege kugirango isohoke. Irashoboye kumenyera mubihe bishya.
8. Kwihesha agaciro kandi byizewe
Abantu benshi ntibashoboka kandi icyarimwe basuzuma cyane, bafite kunegura ibikomeye ego na supershi. Birashoboka kandi, kubinyuranye, kwihesha agaciro.Ababyeyi bashima abana, bashaka kugira ibyiza byose, harimo "byiza" abana. Ariko ishimwe ritaryantu, ryambuwe ishingiro ryurukundo nubushyuhe, shyira mubana muburyo bwuzuye. Ntibumva abafite mubyukuri mubyukuri, kandi bisa nabo ko ntawe ubazi. Abantu nkabo bakunze gukora nkaho bemerewe ubwabo, nubwo mubyukuri batabibonye.
9. Sisitemu yo kwerekeza
Ni ngombwa ko umuntu yumva amahame mbwirizamuco, ibisobanuro byayo, nubwo byoroshye guhinduka. Mu kinyejana cya XIX, baganiriye ku "basaza mbwirizamuco" - ubu aha ahubwo ni indwara idahwitse ya kamere. Iki nikibazo gikomeye gifitanye isano no kutumva nabi, ushimangira umuntu wimyitwarire itandukanye, imyitwarire no guha agaciro amahame n'amahame n'amahame. Byongeye kandi, ibindi bintu biva kururu rutonde birashobora gukizwa mubantu bafite ibibazo nkibi.
10. Ubushobozi bwo gukuraho amarangamutima
Kugira ngo amarangamutima - bivuze gushobora kubana nabo, kubyumva, mugihe udakora kuyoborwa nabo. Nubushobozi icyarimwe kuguma guhura no mumarangamutima, hamwe nibitekerezo - igice cyumvikana.11. Kugaragaza
Ubushobozi bwo kuguma Ego-DyShoton, ubushobozi bwo kwireba nkuko byari bimeze. Abantu bafite reflexion bashoboye kubona ikibazo cyabo mubyukuri, kandi kubwibyo, kubikora muburyo bwo kubikemura, bishoboka cyane mu gufasha.
12. Gukora imitekerereze
Gutunga ubu bushobozi, abantu bumva ko abandi ari imico kugiti cye rwose, hamwe nibiranga, imiterere yumuntu no mumitekerereze. Abantu nkabo babona itandukaniro riri hagati yibyo bumva bababaje nyuma yamagambo yumuntu hamwe nabashaka kubabaza cyangwa kumva ko batewe no kubabaza kwabo, kugiti cyabo nibintu byabo bwite.13. Guhinduka kwuburyo bwo kurinda no guhinduka mugukoresha
Iyo, kubibazo byose no mubihe bitandukanye, umuntu afite ubwoko bumwe bwo kurinda gusa ni pathology.
14. Amafaranga atandukanye nikore kubwanjye no kubidukikije
Ibi bijyanye nubushobozi bwo kuba ubwacu no kwita ku nyungu zacu, kwizirika ku nyungu z'umukunzi uwo ari we.
15. Kumva ufite imbaraga
Ubushobozi bwo kumva no kumva ari muzima. Winnikot yanditse ko umuntu ashobora gukora mubisanzwe, ariko bisa nkaho adahagije. Abaganga benshi bo mu mutwe na psychotherapiste banditse kubyerekeye imbaraga z'imbere.16. Fata ibyo tudashobora guhinduka
Ubu bushobozi bwo kubabara bubikuye ku mutima kandi bubabaye, gufata agahinda kubera ko bidashoboka guhinduka. Kwemera aho bigarukira no mu cyunamo kubyo twifuza, ariko ntitubifite.
Mugire ubuzima bwiza!