Nubwo gutandukana bitegerejwe cyane umunezero, akenshi bihinduka hamwe numuhangayika mwinshi kumugore. Mubisanzwe, hafi cyangwa bimaze kuba uwahoze ari umugabo agerageza cyane, ariko bene wabo na bene wabo. Ntakintu nakimwe cyo kuvuga ko niba umugore afite umwana, ireme ryubuzima bwumuryango usigaye rigwa cyane.
Nyizera niba inshuti yawe yahukanye, birashoboka ko akeneye ubufasha bwawe, ashaka ijana ku ijana. Kandi mbere yo gufasha, birakenewe gusobanura imbere yakazi.
1. Amategeko y'ibibazo kuri "Yego" gusa na "Oya", kora hano
Umugore akenshi ntashobora gutegura ibyifuzo byukuri, kuko atumva aho umurongo ari mwiza, kandi utinya kubyambuka. Iyo uburyo bwo gufasha butangwa, umeze neza no mumaso. Urashobora kandi kumva icyo uvuga ngo "Ngwino, reka amasahani, akureba mu cyumweru, ndamureba kandi ndumva ko ntashobora kwihanganira ndetse no kumukoraho," biragoye cyane gusubiza ikibazo cy'inshuti "Ahari nzaza, nzagufasha amasahani, icyarimwe nywa icyayi na chat?" Mugihe cyo guhangayika, umugore akenshi araborohereza, yihesha agaciro kandi afite ubwoba bwo kubabaza abandi, nubwo tuvuga ikintu gikomeye.
2. Ntugashyire ubuzima bwawe kubufasha
Niba inshuti ari umuntu mwiza, ntabwo yifuza ko ibitambo byinshi biturutse kuruhande rwawe. Niba ari bibi, ntugomba. Tanga ubufasha nkubwo butabaho mubuzima bwawe nimbaraga zawe zigice kinini. Birumvikana ko hari ibitandukanijwe - niba, usibye mugenzi wawe, ntamuntu numwe ushingiye kumuntu. Mubindi bihe byose, ibibano byose cyangwa bibiri mucyumweru cyangwa, niba inshuti imeze nkinshuti, kugirango itange ubufasha bwayo, mubisanzwe.
3. Kenshi cyane umugore mugutandukana agomba gutangwa
Kandi ibi, birababaje, ntabwo ari inzira imwe. Niba wemeye guhura no kuganira gusa, ngira witegure ko uzavuga, birashoboka cyane, hafi hafi cyangwa umaze mbere. Nubwo udahuye kugirango uganire, uzumva byose bimwerekeye. Umukobwa wumukobwa ubu ntashobora kwiyobora. Noneho rero uve kumurongo wawe woroshye kandi mugitangira cyane (kandi ntuhishe inshuti) yinshuti: uri iminota makumyabiri kuri we cyangwa ijoro ryose?
4. Hafi ijana ku ijana bikenera ubufasha mu mikoranire hamwe nabambere
Kuva no guhanagura ibimenyetso byo kubaho kwe mu nzu (gukusanya no guta amasogisi na disiki), kubera ko umukobwa mukundana ateye ubwoba cyangwa aragoye kubona ibi bintu no kubakoraho. Kurangiza kugirango witabe iruhande rwumukunzi mugihe agomba guhura nawe. Agomba. N'ubundi kandi, birakenewe gufata cyangwa guhura mu rukiko. Byinshi mubibi kandi bikaze bitarenze gutera umugore niba hari byibuze umutangabuhamya umwe hafi. Niba uwahoze ari abatangabuhamya badahagarara, urashobora gufasha, kuguhemuka ko waherekeza umugabo wawe, murumuna wawe, inshuti cyangwa inshuti ebyiri. .
5. Kenshi cyane numugore, cyane cyane hamwe numwana, ntahantu ho kugenda ntacyo
Ntuzaze uko yahisemo gutandukana mubihe nkibi. Birashoboka ko uyu mugabo yahisemo. Birashoboka ko yizeye ko afasha bene wabo, kandi hamwe na bene wabo ibintu byaje kugorana. Niba ntanumwe mubakobwa badashobora gufatwa byoroshye no gutura murugo / mucyumba cyo kubika / kuri Antlesol, umugore ufite gahunda yo kuzenguruka "igice". Ati: "Visiga" ni igihe umuntu umwe abaho iminsi mike avuye mu rundi, afasha murugo cyangwa abana bashimira. Nibyiza gutura hamwe kubakunzi bakobwa, abanyenduga bafite umufuka wa siporo mukiganza kimwe numwana urinda gusubira mu nyenyeri iteye ubwoba. Nibura iyo abagore bafite amahitamo, mubisanzwe bahitamo neza "amashyaka". Naho ibintu, iyo umugore afite amazu, ariko nta nyungu, hanyuma ugatangira, urashobora gufasha hamwe nabandi nshuti, kandi harigihe nyuma yigihe gito mukwezi kugirango bafashe akazi nibiyobyabwenge Imbonerahamwe mishya y'ubuzima.
6. Yego, akeneye ubufasha mubuzima
Urashobora kubyemeza neza. Akenshi abagore batandukanijwe cyane barwaye indwara yo kwiheba - byahisemo kubera inzira yo gutandukana ubwayo, akenshi biterwa nuko yabanjirije. Umuntu wo kwiheba ntashobora kuba imbaraga zihagije kumurimo w'isuku. Gutanga ushize amanga rero: guteka, gukaraba amasahani cyangwa igitsina, akabati, guhagarika ibikoresho, muri rusange inzira iyo ari yo yose izaza ku mutwe wawe.
7. Ubufasha bukenewe hamwe numwana
Nubwo abagore benshi bigoye kubimenya - kandi byumvikana, bisa naho gutukana! "Ariko hamwe n'umwana ukurura imbaraga nyinshi." Ahari inshuti ubu ikenewe gusa kugirango umuntu ugende numukobwa we, mugihe agiye mu rukiko cyangwa guhaha, kandi akazamura urubura hamwe numuhungu we mugihe aryamye cyangwa ategura ifunguro rya nimugoroba.
8. Ntugaha isi yasenyutse
Umugore ubu ari ingenzi cyane mugihe kugeza igihe kugirango ajye mu isi nini ntabwo ari ibicuruzwa cyangwa ubwoko runaka bwicyemezo cyurukiko. Ni ngombwa kuri we kumva ko ubuzima bwe budasimbuka kuri ubu kuri twenyine kurokoka hamwe numwana. Noneho, niba umutungo wawe wemereye, uyikuremo kwinjira muri parike, urebe firime, wicare muri resitora ya neti, gukina imikino yubuyobozi muri Antikafe. Nubwo umukunzi wawe ari intangiriro, bizakomeza kubiboha kwisi.
9. Wibagirwe igihe cyo guhumurizwa Imiterere "Nturirire"
Niba ashoboye, ntiyari kurira. Noneho ubu arashobora no gutera isoni cyane, ariko ntabyihanganira. Ibinyuranye, reka twumve ko umwanya wamarira akwiye hanyuma ibintu byose bizashira.
10. Kuba kuruhande rwe
Kurwanya umukunzi ubu, birashoboka cyane: Uwahoze ari umugabo, bene wabo, inkoko zishingiye ku ndangagaciro z'umuryango "reka byibuze icyuma, kandi ni ngombwa koroshya umuryango!" Kandi isi yubugome, niho, aho izajyana amafaranga kunzu yingirakamaro nimbunda ifite amata mugitondo. Uramukeneye ubutaha, nubwo ntacyo ukora. Ukuri.