Kubika abana cyangwa kwigisha ababyeyi inshingano? Mubisanzwe Feminists - Abashyigikiye Bebi-Boxes - Kujuririra ingingo yambere, nabatavuga rumwe na kabiri. Ariko umuhungu w'umugore Roshchina wo muri Magadan kurwanya Bebi-dusanduku, nubwo nta nshingano yo kwiga ibyerekeye inshingano. Yatangarije mu mbuga nkoranyambaga impamvu.
Sinzasohoza umugani witonze, bigatera amarira y'icyubahiro "ndetse n'ubuzima bumwe bwakijijwe - bebi-dusanduku. Nzavuga ikintu kimwe gusa. Aba bana ntibagiye kwica. Abahanga mu by'imitekerereze n'abaganga b'indwara zo mu mutwe barabizi. Ijanisha ry'ababyeyi bangana n'abaturage bahoraga. Niba umugore arimo gushaka uburyo bwo gukomeza ubuzima bwumwana amujugunya abantu (abateramakofe bana, ahantu abantu, ahantu abantu bazanyura muri kazoza. Imyitwarire y'ababyeyi irahari. Ntabwo agiye kwica. Akeneye umuntu nubufasha bwa pssio-psychologiya, ntabwo ari agasanduku bifite itara. Amaherezo, nzakubwira bike ku kuba hari agasanduku k'abana.
Kubyerekeye ibitekerezo, agasanduku k'abana tugaragara na benshi mu rwego rw'umugore kugira ngo babungabunge bitamenyekana. Byemereye ubuzima bw'umwana bujya inyuma. Nibindi byinshi, inzira imwe cyangwa undi, abatanga ibitekerezo bavuga ko ariyemeza ko ari icyemezo cyo kwica cyangwa kurokora ubuzima. Ni izihe mpamvu zagaragaye imbere yiri hitamo, twese turi, nibwira ko meze neza. Ariko, ubutabera kubwimpamvu yo kuba umugore ufite ubuzima bwiza mu mutwe, ababana nabi, azatera abana, azatera ubwoba. Unkosore niba nibeshye, ariko gushiramo benshi neza neza ko utitaye ku kwifuza - kudashaka kubyara, niba mu buryo butunguranye, aba bana baboneye, umugore ashinzwe uko byagenda kose.
Sinzabwira ibindi bihugu. Ku Burusiya nzavuga. Dukurikije amategeko agezweho, nyina wa podkin azakomeza gushakisha. Bikwiye rero. Nubwo abaganga batanga igikorwa cyumuganwakazi, imirimo ya polisi ntigisiba. Mama uko byagenda kose hanze y'amategeko. Mugihe habonetse, uburyo bumwe bukorana numwana wibumoso buzatangizwa. Urukiko, kwamburwa uburenganzira bwababyeyi, ubukana. Kugirango tutabona, ugomba gufata amayeri menshi.
Ntusinzire ko utwite. Ube itagaragara, uhishe-ukurura inda, wangiza kandi nawe, n'umwana. Kubyara tudafite abatangabuhamya, murugo, niba ufite amahirwe - kurokoka kandi ntubone ibindi bibazo (ni ukuvuga, mubyukuri nta mugore wabikoze). Ukoreye umwana ahari agasanduku, udafite abatangabuhamya (by the way, hari umuntu watekerezaga uko bigenda niba niba hari umuntu watekereje ku bagore ba bebi bamenyekana? Ni bangahe bavuga ", bategereje" abagore baguye, bangahe Imitekerereze ikaze izateranirayo? Iha umuntu wese kwemeza ko hatazabaho hamwe nuyu mugore? Cyangwa kamera, abapolisi bahoroheye bitamenyekana?).
Inzira yemewe, yemewe rwose, mugihe umutekano mubuzima nubuzima bwumugore, ni ugusiga umwana mu kigo cyubuvuzi aho yavukiye. Hano, birumvikana, kimwe, kimwe ni kimwe - Alimony, LRP (Nibyo, niba, niba, umwana atazahita akurwaho na nyina impamvu atavuga kuri se - indirimbo itandukanye). By the way, abimukira benshi bo muri Repubulika yunze ubumwe, aho bazabikubita umwana "wishyira hejuru, baza kubyara badafite pasiporo, bitwaza ko badasobanuye kubyara. Abagore b'Abarusiya rero, mubisanzwe marginal, kora. Ntamuntu utwika nabo mubisanzwe ashyira umwana muri s Stedly docking, hanyuma wohereze munzu yumwana.
Khrenovo, ko ubu buryo aribwo bwonyine. Kandi icya kabiri ni agasanduku kidafite ubugingo hamwe nintara yoroheje. Nubwo hari undi yemejwe mubihugu byihariye. Izina rye: kubyara atazwi. Kuvuka mubihe bisanzwe, ubufasha bwubuvuzi mugihe utwite na nyuma yo kubyara. Kandi nta nshingano. N'uburenganzira bwo kwakira amakuru yerekeye umwana. Kandi ufite uburenganzira bwo gusiga amakuru amwerekeye n'ubuzima bwawe, niba umwana ahisemo, abakuze, biga inkomoko yayo.
By the way, mu Burusiya, aho amafaranga akora kuri uyu murimo, umwarimu wa psychologue ageze kuri buri cyateganijwe kwanga ibitaro. Akenshi bigaragara ko umugore ashaka kurera, ariko ntafite ibikoresho kuriyi mpamvu, yanga umwana. Niba ameze, arafashwa, ntaho atanga kandi ntagiye kwica. Mu manza aho umugore yashyizweho mu buryo bwitondeye, ntawe wita ku mwana we, ntabwo yishyiraho. Ariko aracyafite amahirwe yo kongera kurwana. Kora cyangwa ntabwo - guhitamo kwe.
Dufate ko bishoboka gukora amategeko kugirango ibisigaye mubyerekeranye nabana-bateramakoto bidafite inshingano. Urashobora rero guhisha abo dusanduku kugirango nta gonshole yari abizi, ariko buri mugore yari azi neza aho bari. Tuvuge. Bitamenyekana, nuko ashaje. N'ibitekerezo bya zeru. Kutamenyekana. Ibyo ni byo muri iki kibazo bitamenyekana no kwemererwa zeru bizongera gukubitwa abagore. Umuntu wese arashobora gufata no kumanura umwana aho, uwo umugore ashaka kurera. Kandi ntawe uzabyumva. Nta mategeko nk'aya - yumva aho umwana aturuka, atamenyekana. Ndashaka kuvuga ko ubwo buryo bwo kutamenyekana bugomba guhabwa gusa abagore. Kandi ibi birashoboka, uko mbibona, gusa hamwe no kubyara bitamenye. Aho umugore uri gusa wakozwe nitsinda ryibyanze, atari azi izina rye nyaryo.
Nibyiza, amagambo abiri yerekeye ibizaba kumwana uterera kandi ntawe ubizi, ameze. Icya mbere, ako kanya mu muryango ntazagwa. Niba nta kintu kizwi ku buzima bwe (kandi ntabwo kizwi kuri we, yego, atamenyekanye, wabyaye igihe, indwara zaho zifite - XS), mu bwa mbere, mu bwa mbere, mu bwa mbere, azinjira mu bitaro. Aho azabura kwamburwa no kwamburwa iterambere. Hanyuma andi mezi atanu ntashobora kugira statut yo kurera / kurerwa. Kuberako gushakisha "mama wabuze" ni amezi atandatu. Amezi atandatu hazabaho abigambiriye, kandi ku giti cye by'umwana bizagaragara ko hazabera umwana uburenganzira ku muryango.
Muri aya mezi atandatu, mubihe byinshi, impinduka muri psyche yumwana ntigisubirwaho. Utazi, Google, ko hariho kwamburwa no gutambutsa, guhungabana kwurukundo. Nibyiza, cyangwa ndashobora kubivuga, mbana namakosa nkiyi mu gisenge kimwe no mu rwego rwo kureba, abandi bato bo mu bana nkabo kandi basanzwe abantu bakuru bafite. Kazoza - Umwana nta mahirwe afite yo kwiga kuri bo, kimwe mu bintu by'ingenzi bigize. Ibi birashobora kubwirwa ibijyanye no kubanyamuryango bakuze barezwe, Marina Thabutkaya arashobora gusomwa.
Oya, ntabwo ngerageza kumvisha abantu bose, nzi ko bidashoboka. Ariko niba gahunda yari yarazimiye mu bigasanduku, mbona ko byagenda neza kandi binini byo gutsinda mu cyerekezo cyo kurengera abagore n'abana.