Abantu benshi, batanga ibisobanuro kubiro byiyandikisha, ntutekereze no kubyo bifuza kongera kuza hano nanone, gusa kugirango usinyire amagambo atana. Niba abashakanye bari bazi ko bazashobora gutatanya, ntibashaka gufata icyemezo cyo kwemeza umubano. Gutandukana byose bibaho muburyo butandukanye, kandi no mubashakanye batandukanye baza kuri we. Umuntu arahira muri fluff n'umukungugu, kandi umuntu yemeye atuje iki cyemezo.
Nibyo, buri mugabo n'umugore bafite uburenganzira bwo gutandukana uko ashaka. Ariko niba abashakanye bafite abana, biracyafite akamaro kutaba abanzi, kuko ibindi bisobanuro bitarindwa. Kandi abana ntibazagora kureba ababyeyi bishimira kandi bakirana. Kubwibyo, birakenewe cyane kubungabunga umubano usanzwe. Ntabwo tuvuga ubucuti, kuko mubyukuri abashakanye bakunze hashize igihe ndetse baryama mu buriri bumwe, ntibishoboka kuba inshuti. Ariko umubano wimari ugomba kuguma, kandi ibyo birashoboka rwose kugeraho, niba ushyizeho umwete.
Ntutwike ibiraro
Nk'ubutegetsi, gutandukana mu rubanza urwo arirwo rwose rwabanjirije urukurikirane rwo kutumvikana kandi rimwe na rimwe batonjagura, nkuko abantu bagerageza kumenya umubano, kandi mu kirere cyoroheje kandi nta marangamutima atarabikora. Ariko ugomba kwihagarika mugihe. Niba icyemezo cyo gutandukana kimaze kwemerwa kandi nta kugorana, ni ubuhe butumwa bwo gusenya umubano rwose? Birakwiye kugerageza gutuza no kuganira kuri byose utuje.
Bwira umwana kubatanuwe nababyeyi
Byongeye kandi, biratuje kandi kuri ibyo byose kugirango ubwire umwana wawe, kuko kugeza uwanyuma ahishe amakuru akomeye kuri we byibuze. Umwana agomba kubona umwanya wo kumenya ibyahindutse mu muryango we. Ubwa mbere bizarwanya ubutane, bizashimangira ko mama na papa agomba kuba hamwe. Ariko iyo kumenya no gusobanukirwa ko, kuba hamwe, ababyeyi barangiza, azafata iki cyemezo. Nubwo bizamugora cyane. Muri rusange, abana bahora bakomeye, kuko ababyeyi n'umuryango ni isi yabo. Kandi iyo gutandukana, iyi si irasenyuka imbere y'amaso kandi ukeneye kwiga kubaho muburyo bushya.
Gukemura ibibazo byose
Ibibazo byose bishobora gushimishwa nabashakanye bigomba kuganirwaho. Ibi birareba kandi igice cyumutungo, nibindi byose bifitanye isano nabana. Ntukishingikirize ku kuba ibibazo bizakemurwa nabo ubwabyo, birashobora kongera ibintu gusa.
Ntukarengere kumarangamutima
Niba amarangamutima adashobora gutuza, noneho ugomba gufata agace mugutumanaho hamwe, kandi igihe runaka gitangira kuvuga neza. Kubaha mu buzima bigomba kubunga, byinshi kandi ntibikenewe. Gutandukana bigomba gukomeza kuba umuco ushoboka. Ntusuke munzira yumuvumo no kugaburira urwango. Ntacyo bizahindura. Ugomba kuba umunyabwenge.